I never wanted to be like my mother- Kaikeyi

We humans have a problem. We make judgement faster and we expect everyone to accept our view. And that is what that has happened to Kaikeyi. Her whole idea of being an ideal wife was because of the fact that her father sacrificed her mother as her mother was selfish. So an inborn fear was there in her that her husband can sacrifice her and all her steps she took was because of this fear.

And because of that we can say Kaikeyi was never her true self. If you look unlike other queens Kaikeyi has more warrior like qualities. You can really call her a tomboyish woman of those days. One who had a free will and independent thoughts.

But growing up in an environment conditioned to believe anything not feminine is selfishness as part of the woman her true self was buried under the garb of ideal wife.

And this ideal wife expected unconditional love and loyalty. When she didn't get it, her true self started coming out but in a negative way.

We have to know two things here. First never make any judgement without knowing the complete story. Especially stories about past. It always has 2 sides. And if we decide to live life on half baked truths or rather half knowledge then results can always be disastrous.

You cannot become ideal wife, ideal son or ideal whatever because of fear or some pre conceived notions controlling your actions.

Second there is no point burying your true self. You are doing the biggest disservice to yourself and a society at large when you bury your true self and pretend to be someone else. Because you cannot keep that persona for long. Your inner world will always be at conflict and one fine day everything will spill out and most probably by that time your worst fears also will come true.

Originally posted by: shruthiravi

Take the garb of divinity from Ram and look at him as a human. A man whose supreme power of love conquering the might of lanka. His mental power, his compassion making the impossible possible. To the demon king who asked him who are you, the only answer is I am a husband protected by my wife's love and it is my duty to protect her honor. Ram goes beyond Ravan miles ahead when you take the blinkers off.

Look at Arjun as a young prince who irrespective of the struggles life gave him was able to view the world always with a glass is half full attitude. A man to whom his friendship and the presence of his friend mattered more than his friend's power and wealth. Look at Krishna as an individual who irrespective of being a prince didn't hesitate to come as a charioteer for his best friend who trusted him so much.

Divinity was in the relation of Ram-Sita, it was in the relation of Ram-Lakhan, Ram-Hanuman, Krishna-Arjuna. They were so committed to each other that they gave themselves to the relation without expecting anything in return. Can we make our relations divine like theirs is the question we need to ask.