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This is not the first time I am making this post. And I don't think it will be the last time also. A woman is asked to walk behind the husband and she is told husband is always right. Is that so. Husband is also a human being, he also can make mistakes and our Vedic marriage ritual clearly establishes marriage as a partnership not a ghulami.
People need to understand in saat phere man walks in front for 4 pheras and woman walk in front for 3 pheras. That itself is the symbolism that based on the situation husband or wife has to take charge and the other has to walk behind respecting the decision. That understanding and trust when to take charge and when to walk behind between partners decide the success of a marriage. Not when one always walk behind nodding " Yes yes yes"
And to people who think wife always have to nod yes I will give examples from mythology itself to establish my points
Sita- Sita was not a doormat or yes woman as people make her out. Sita argues about Patni dharm and it is her decision to go with Ram for Vanvass. Again people forget the fact that when Ram asks her to come to Ayodhya and take the chastity pledge once again after the banishment, the great lady flatly refuses and asks Mother Earth to take her.
Panchali- Arey what would have happened to Dharma if this woman had accepted her husband's decision in the infamous hall of dice. Even Lord Krishna wouldn't have been able to do anything. Pandavas would have become slaves to Kauravas. This lady questions, raves and rants when she gets no help from anyone doesn't sit quiet. She calls Krishna to help her. And yes it is that call that makes all the difference. Even Lord Krishna needed the untied hair of Panchali to establish dharma and to give the great book of Bhagwad Gita to the world.
Savitri- She fools the Lord of death with her intelligent questions and get her husband back from death. What if she had sat and cried like bahus of today mera pati mar gaya.
And what would have happened to the world if Parvati had not taken the tapasya to bring back Shiva from his ascetic life. Who would have killed Tarakasur who got a boon only Shiva's son can kill him. Parvati could have easily allowed the world to go on because Shiva doesn't want her. But she didn't and it is her tapasya that bought Shiva to her and Kartikeya was born to kill Tarakasur
Come to contemporary world. Can anyone take more credit for the first war of Indian Independence than Rani Lakshmi Bhai of Jhansi.
Comon guys we have enough examples in our past of great woman and their stories. They were not abla naris, they had the power on their own. Woman is called Shakthi in Indian mythology and I believe we as woman hold the great transformational power. That is why mother is called the first teacher. That is why Swami Vivekananda said educate the woman and she will take decisions. Because he knew the educated woman can take decisions that are good for the family. And what is good for the family is good for society also.
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