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So after experiencing melancholy madness for 3 days, I finally managed to achieve a zen-like calm to enjoy the final surreal day that was the Nikaah. My dad and I laughed so hard during the coal walk, we had tears in our eyes. 😆
Probably a bit too deep of an analysis than this week deserves, but here goes nothing...
Arzoo has been used to being the 'daddi' in Lucknow, big boss of the family. She always felt she was much wiser and more mature than her 23 years. And I think she developed a slight chip on her shoulder about herself which can be common in self-made people. Its this confidence and attitude that Alvira was drawn to and what made her feel that if anyone was going to heal Sahir's pain it would be Arzoo.
However since she came to Mumbai, she has been struggling to stay in control and there have been many situations where she has been out of her depth, be it when she challenged Sahir she could sell the clothes minus Saiyyara branding or even handing in her resignation without even discussing it with her family, later realising she will need to retract is as they would have no income/place to stay. Or dealing with Anam/KA. In all scenarios she had to eat humble pie.
And this week she found herself so tangled with the Cab incident, Sahirs rejection, Nausheens lies, Zara that I think she just had a complete breakdown, hence the irrational behaviour we saw. We even had the scene where Alvira tells her she expected Arzoo to understand Sahir, but she just looks blankly at Alvira, hands the kangans and walks away. This was an indication to us that although Arzoo is strong, she has yet to develop the maturity to see beyond the end of her nose. Once again, there was a time she wanted to understand Sahir's pain and even stayed at the house for it, but she was unable to see it through.
Arzoo is used to solving her problems alone and I feel its been hard on her ego this week that she has been unable to find solutions. We see the ego many times this week - the way she reprimands her mother, dismisses Zara, says yes to marry Zaki purely to get back at Sahir. Even Alvira's words to her, although she tries to discuss with Zaki, she soon dismisses this as well. She is unable to see beyond the situation. Why does Nausheen keep meeting Sarfaraz? Why has Sahir got so many faces? Why is Zara behaving the way she is? Why didn't she realise that Zaki was falling for her? So many things going on and she doesn't know why. She needs to understand that not all problems can be solved alone. Very often you need a friend to be there for you and help you see things you may not realise. She doesn't have anyone.
And once again, after a week of hating Sahir, telling him she can't stand his face, she would rather die than marry him...we see Arzoo telling Sahir that Qabool Hai. We see her continuing to wear his bracelet...even though she repeatedly curses him...her words and actions are in complete contradiction.
As mentioned by many already, Arzoo actually has a long way to go before she has the maturity , experience and the right kind of love to handle the mature, complex and lonely SAC. She is absolutely no match for him yet. Also Sahir understands Arzoo very well, but Arzoo has yet to have that same level of understanding and to be fair, the reason being Sahir is a much much more complex character to understand.
And may be the coal walk where she says that out will come a new Arzoo, may actually end up being a more grounded, mature, empathetic and understanding Arzoo. And yes, may be this is about that journey. Once again, she thinks she has entered hell and her life is going to be miserable, but in reality, she has married the one man who loves her so much that when she finally realises it, she will hold her head in shame for ever having doubted him.
With regards to Sahir...this is going to be a rough ride for him. He is craving for a friend, a confidante, a humsafar, someone who will love him and see through the layers. I can't see Arzoo being this person for him for a while still, so could be that Sahir needs to heal Arzoo first before she is able to heal him...we will have to wait and watch how they play this out, but certainly, it has the potential to be a very interesting ride!
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