Why such a hurry for marriages?

anandi shiv marriage was facilitated by dadisa and dadisa was in a hurry to get anandi married to shiv.

Ganga Jagya marriage was forced by circumstances.

Sanchi Vivek Kabra marriage was also done in a hurry.

Now gulli's marriage. They could have waited for gulli hardik love to bloom. Instead of mandap drama where one is forced to take decisions on the spot.

It sends wrong signals that a girl cannot survive without marriage or remarriage once she crosses certain age.

I can imagine anandi as a 40 plus sarpanch taking care of the villagers.

I can imagine ganga being a dedicated nurse taking care of mannu.

I can imagine sanchi finding a job in some place other than Udaipur and doing some introspection.

I can imagine gulli becoming a teacher like teacherjee and inspiring students.

In urban areas, especially metros, there are many 40 plus women leading meaningful lives and they are not married. In my college, majority of my lecturers and professors were single and they used to stay in staff quarters. They were happy and enjoyed their independence. One or two married at a late age to well settled men.

The scenario in rural and semi urban areas maybe different.

For that matter even marriage is not permanent in many cases. Divorce happens, widowhood happens Dowry deaths happen. Yet it is being portrayed as marriage is a cure for girls and it gives them instant nirvana. Marriage should happen when both partners have some understanding, some financial standing. Without food one cant survive, without understanding one cant have a peaceful life.

Now a days , educated women are intend to live independently and opting to have their say in their life . They are not opting for adjustments, and not prepared for the insults and downgrading their self respect for the sake of a so called secured life . Want to move forward with head high ,and achieving the success on their own !

I don't understand why marriage is seen as oppressive, a burden to a woman, something that limits her etc etc.

Originally posted by: Avyakta

Now a days , educated women are intend to live independently and opting to have their say in their life . They are not opting for adjustments, and not prepared for the insults and downgrading their self respect for the sake of a so called secured life . Want to move forward with head high ,and achieving the success on their own !

Marriage is only another option , not a must for the career oriented women .

If necessary [??!!!] they are opting for live -in relationships ...esp cine stars and other highly placed ladies . As usual ..there is some benefits and repercussions in that relationships too .

You must have noticed , remember all the hullabaloo over the comment or rather a disclose by Indra Nooyi over her mother's order to bring Milk at the late hour , when she came home with a great achievement , selected and bestowed the honour as the CEO of Pepci-co ! Must have read over that ,Shobha De's comments in her much acclaimed column and then some other author's comment on it !in the Sunday Times .

So marriage is not that much important to a woman's life as earlier it used to be .

But in society to safegaurd family relationships , for that marriage is necessary !

Marriage should be out of choice than making it mandatory by social pressure groups. Even in Indra Nooyi's case, it is a conflict of opinion between generations. One cant have the cake and eat it too. One should be able to give up something whether for marriage or for singlehood. Even men lose freedom. If he comes late, wife starts questioning and doubting. If his relatives come, wife wont be too happy. A man has to balance between work, wife and his parental obligations.

I read comments by Shobhaa de, Vinita Dawra and others. There was such a furore. For and against.

Marriage in itself is not regressive, tinoo. But it is somewhat complicated when things go wrong.

Marriage in itself is like a career. For both husband and wife.

Originally posted by: tinoo

I don't understand why marriage is seen as oppressive, a burden to a woman, something that limits her etc etc.

Marriage, when it is the right guy, can be something that enhances a woman and also provides her wings.

Yes, an educated woman can live without marriage, but why should she?

Having a family, raising kids are not regressive activities.

Not regressive ,but at the same time not the ultimate solution to a woman's life . Now, new vistas opened to a woman , a career, independence , safegaurding the self -respect . these are the main aims now ,rather than adjusting in life , acceptance of suppression at every stage , allowing the society to pass judgements on her life . you are right , marriage is blissful and a way of life ,and there will be a shoulder to lean on , there will be love and attachment towards kids and beautiful responsibilities,raising the kids and an achiever's feeling in life .

Originally posted by: leavesandwaves

Marriage in itself is not regressive, tinoo. But it is somewhat complicated when things go wrong.

Marriage in itself is like a career. For both husband and wife.

😊 Well said ,very true .

My post is about marriage for women at a mature age or even later depending on circumstances.

One can marry at 21 or 31 or 41 or even later.