Innocence or stupidity?

Anandi was great only in childhood. She is effective outside the house as an adult. But at home she is useless (sorry to sound extreme).

She is also parasitic and cannot do anything alone. Earlier she had Bhairon. Then she had DS. Now she has Shiv.

What method does she use?

Nothing. She lets others do blunders one after the other. No one has "changed". All have suffered and learnt from their own mistakes than from Anandi's so called efforts.

Being a passive punching bag or occasional bhaashan machine doesn't give anything.

She only saves her own skin rather. People think maybe she is not bad. That's it.

In past it was Jagya's blunders that made DS wake up. It was problems with Gauri that made Jagya change. And it was rape that changed Sanchi.

Anandi outside home is tactful and actually does something. Inside home she is only a cook, punching bag and food tray carrier!

Originally posted by: atominis

Anandi was great only in childhood. She is effective outside the house as an adult. But at home she is useless (sorry to sound extreme).[BR][BR]She is also parasitic and cannot do anything alone. Earlier she had Bhairon. Then she had DS. Now she has Shiv.[BR][BR]What method does she use? [BR][BR]Nothing. She lets others do blunders one after the other. No one has "changed". All have suffered and learnt from their own mistakes than from Anandi's so called efforts.[BR][BR]Being a passive punching bag or occasional bhaashan machine doesn't give anything.[BR][BR]She only saves her own skin rather. People think maybe she is not bad. That's it.[BR][BR]In past it was Jagya's blunders that made DS wake up. It was problems with Gauri that made Jagya change. And it was rape that changed Sanchi.[BR][BR]Anandi outside home is tactful and actually does something. Inside home she is only a cook, punching bag and food tray carrier!

Good post. I will 100% agree with all your points about anandi. She is not practical and does not use tact to complete a task. To show her mahaanta cvs made shekhar elders as dumb so that she can solve their problems and give bashan. Anandi would have tolerated all the nonsense at her inlaws just like how saanchi is suffering now. I bet she would have tolerated to reform the raphist and the inlaws for the sake of her husband. Anandi already tolerated a lot in singhs family without any hesitance. Why give lectures to outsiders through her NGO to women to go against domestic violence and not to tolerate abuse. She is turning amol like her to tolerate abuse and saying sorry to the people who abused him. Instead she should have told him to tell her his fears. Feeding a kid green chillies is abuse. Disappointed by the whole shekhars including shiv not reprimanding dadi buaa about her torture towards amol. It's sad shekhars became like anandi and tolerating all the nonsense from dadi buaa. Dadi buaa is manipulative and malicious. The VO talk about how old fashioned the lady is and blah blah. Old fashioned people are not so rude and insensitive towards kids or adults. Old fashioned adults don't tell kids that they will mix chili powder in water.

Why blame Anandi...she is the most lovable character, around whom the story moves. Her efforts are the key points that always opens the ways to create a sense of awareness in the society and individuals.
Long live...ANandi ..a beautiful wife, dutiful daughter in law and a loving mom.

As far as I can see anandi has failed in everything except maybe being a servant and public servant. She's failed in all relations, she's not even a good mother. Anandi only gets praised by her apne because she tolerates the abuse and doesn't feel bad about it. If anything anandi is so use to it she feels nothing for herself, but to subject amol to put up with it is just wrong she's repeating the same mistakes she always does, what is she waiting for, her child to be driven to suicide. She can shout at the singhs but can't do it to the shekkars.

It depends on tracks. I cannot say her methods are regressive. It is said generally, the good person in serials (as in old Hindi films) suffer silently and do not protest the atrocities- though I have not seen other serials, only Uttaran for a short period of time, and the lead of Uttaran was even more stupid than Anandi. Perhaps this is a compulsion for serial makers - to conform to the tried and tested formula - sympathy for lead because viewers see that people are torturing her, she is suffering but still retains her good behaviour even towards her tormentors.

Neither is she innocent nor is she stupid and more importantly she is not regressive.

Originally posted by: aparnauma

Neither is she innocent nor is she stupid and more importantly she is not regressive.

In the current track with RDB(Regressive Dadi Bua) - she is dealing her with patience simply because even though the lady is cranky and unbearable she is helpless old woman who is alone and in need of support.

One question what would people do when they come across a beaten badly treated starved dog/cat which is growling at everybody who comes near it but all the same doesn't go away from you?

Will one kick it to get rid of it ?Because that animal is getting violent and doesn't accept help?

Will one just put some food and ignore all the growls and go about with their own life?

Or should they make sure the food is eaten by that said cat/dog and stay around just to assure that animal that they don't mean any harm???

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She said sorry to that lady not because she felt that she had done wrong but unintentionally she hurt that lady's sentiments.But did she stop doing what she had been doing with her life just because DB is around???

She kept going to her maika which had been her sasural once despite this lady's barbs

She goes for her work

She just does what ever she thinks is right to do so where is the question of her letting DB interfere with her life?

Probably if we came across this lady who constantly criticises us we just tell her to get lost in a rude way

She just told her sorry that you have been hurt with my ways but this is the way I live my life.

She did not enter DB's room but did she stop her life because of DB?

As for handling Amol - Anandi and Shiv both told him to back off to avoid any conflict with her.So that any excuse to behave badly with him are taken away from her.

They made clear to RDB that they will not take this kind of behaviour towards Amol.

Keeping Amol away from all offenders how practical is it?Today it is DB inside their own home tomorrow there will be someone somewhere else. So they are showing him how to handle things in their own way.Why can't Shiv and Anandi teach their methods of handling relationships to their son??

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As for Anandi needing help I don't think she either asked Bhairon Singh for help nor Shiv for help

She did what ever she thought was right and it is they as father and husband stood by her because they felt that she is doing the right thing.

Did Shiv support her when he felt that she was doing wrong by supporting Jagya?

So where is the question of him standing her inrrespective of the whether she was right or wrong?

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People comparing Sanchi's current plight and Anandi

Anandi did not go back to Jagya even when Dadisa wanted her to

She never wanted Jagya back once he went away from her - What he did was not criminal she could have taken him back after all she loved him and more than a husband he has been a good friend to her .Why did she not take him back once he was done with Gauri - Simply because she felt that it is wrong to accept him back after he played with the lives of two women despite her feelings and affection for him.

The lady who did not take back the man she loved so much as to she was willing to die to save his life would she behave the same way as Sanchi is behaving right now in her sasural taking crap from the fellow who raped her????

I am surprised that people assume that she would sit and reform the rapist and his mother🤢

Her methods will never work in real life...no one is as dumb as Shekhars and Singhs...people know everything about right and wrong but it's their own attitude that they ignore the right and go for wrong so Anandi's lectures will barely work on them

I'm rather shocked at Shiv's behavior...he did nothing and said nothing to DB when his child was being theretaned...guess that's the difference between being an adopted and biological parent? BV seems to be giving me every proof how much difference does it make to have a adopted child and to have a biological child or maybe Anandi is just a terrible mother who is not ready to handle such responsibilities

Originally posted by: atominis

Anandi was great only in childhood. She is effective outside the house as an adult. But at home she is useless (sorry to sound extreme).

She is also parasitic and cannot do anything alone. Earlier she had Bhairon. Then she had DS. Now she has Shiv.

What method does she use?

Nothing. She lets others do blunders one after the other. No one has "changed". All have suffered and learnt from their own mistakes than from Anandi's so called efforts.

Being a passive punching bag or occasional bhaashan machine doesn't give anything.

She only saves her own skin rather. People think maybe she is not bad. That's it.

In past it was Jagya's blunders that made DS wake up. It was problems with Gauri that made Jagya change. And it was rape that changed Sanchi.

Anandi outside home is tactful and actually does something. Inside home she is only a cook, punching bag and food tray carrier!

Originally posted by: Sheetsden

Good post. I will 100% agree with all your points about anandi. She is not practical and does not use tact to complete a task. To show her mahaanta cvs made shekhar elders as dumb so that she can solve their problems and give bashan. Anandi would have tolerated all the nonsense at her inlaws just like how saanchi is suffering now. I bet she would have tolerated to reform the raphist and the inlaws for the sake of her husband. Anandi already tolerated a lot in singhs family without any hesitance. Why give lectures to outsiders through her NGO to women to go against domestic violence and not to tolerate abuse. She is turning amol like her to tolerate abuse and saying sorry to the people who abused him. Instead she should have told him to tell her his fears. Feeding a kid green chillies is abuse. Disappointed by the whole shekhars including shiv not reprimanding dadi buaa about her torture towards amol. It's sad shekhars became like anandi and tolerating all the nonsense from dadi buaa. Dadi buaa is manipulative and malicious. The VO talk about how old fashioned the lady is and blah blah. Old fashioned people are not so rude and insensitive towards kids or adults. Old fashioned adults don't tell kids that they will mix chili powder in water.