A woman or a mother ? It looks simple but it's not that easy!

The answer according to me is NO. Motherhood is a wonderful gift but does that mean a woman loses every other happiness...what if a woman is in a loveless and abusive marriage? Should she abide by the rules and suffer just because she has children with the man?

We as a society are always ready to judge a woman without knowing the whole truth? Under what circumstances did Mala leave her son? As far as the history goes...she did come back for Rudra but couldn't get hold of him. Was Dilsher a good husband? What role did Mohini play in all this?

What happens when a woman...a mother really falls in love with another man? Does she have a choice to embrace her new love or she imprisoned by a society stays in a loveless marriage?

I believe it comes down to choices. Mala made a choice under unknown circumstances...so let's not judge her yet.

Also, from where I see this...it's Bigamy and Adultery if mala and Dilsher are not divorced. I hope there is an explanation for this because I really like Mala's character till now... I have a feeling that Mohini has a huge hand in all this.

agree mohini is behind mala leaving Dilsher and Rudra.

I agree with you. Until we don't know the whole truth we shouldn't judge her and anyhow like I have said in others posts its not our place to judge her or forgive her. That is only for Rudra to do because he was the one she left all those years ago.

Absolutely not!!!

No offence

Originally posted by: mpat

Absolutely not!!!

A woman should first and foremost be loyal to herself. She should strive for the happiness she wants for herself and in that can she then nurture those close to her, be it husband and/or children!!

Having said that, in this story we don't know the circumstance in which Mala left home so no judgement. I am sure Mohini had a big hand in it since she wanted her sister to be hated by all those who loved her and also to take over the property for herself and in the process also demoralize Dilsher and Rudra. Mala did come back for Rudra but he was no longer at the haveli. For all we know Mohini probably promised Mala that she would take care of Rudra as her own.

Originally posted by: fiza005

No offence

Women is a mother first. Its said motherhood makes women complete. As for abusive marriage if you want to move out why not take your child with you. I know people will say mala came back to pick her son but y not take him along.

Marriage it self is compromise and children give meaning to it. Some times compromise is a good option it doesnt mean be a silent victim to abuse

Is it okay to be in a love less relationship because she is a mother
Relationship breaks there are repercussions , and children face it the most
But isn't it a better way to deal with a broken relationship well and not let the hatred or mistrust reach the child rather than be together like mohini
She sdid her children no good , meaningless relationship also are bad for kids , unnecessary fight can leave a bigger scare at times
Like disher he was there physically but traumatized the kid by poisoning him what is the point that US bad parenting as well

Originally posted by: Rupunzale

The answer according to me is NO. Motherhood is a wonderful gift but does that mean a woman loses every other happiness...what if a woman is in a loveless and abusive marriage? Should she abide by the rules and suffer just because she has children with the man?

No. A women or a man should not be forced to live in a loveless and unhappy relationship. If it is not working for them, either of them have complete freedom to move on. I agree to that point. But if a child is involved, that same women and man have to think of that child too. Then they can't be selfish and think only about their happiness. If they do that, then they can't say that they loved their children. No one stopped Mala from going to Rudra all these years. She didn't tell her lover about her son. She kept it all to herself. I really hope there is a very solid reason behind her actions than just love for Tejawat.

We as a society are always ready to judge a woman without knowing the whole truth? Under what circumstances did Mala leave her son? As far as the history goes...she did come back for Rudra but couldn't get hold of him. Was Dilsher a good husband? What role did Mohini play in all this?

I agree. These are very important questions that needs to be answered for all of us to understand Mala. Why everyone including me to a point, acted against Mala today, I think had more to do with the sympathy for Rudra's pain and suffering, than hatred towards Mala. Here was a boy who misses his mother and earns for her love even to this day and on parallel we are shown a mother who abandoned her son for her happiness.


What happens when a woman...a mother really falls in love with another man? Does she have a choice to embrace her new love or she imprisoned by a society stays in a loveless marriage?

Falling in love is not a crime but not speaking up about it and choosing the easy way of running away is.

I believe it comes down to choices. Mala made a choice under unknown circumstances...so let's not judge her yet.

I agree. I hope the wait is worth it.

Also, from where I see this...it's Bigamy and Adultery if mala and Dilsher are not divorced. I hope there is an explanation for this because I really like Mala's character till now... I have a feeling that Mohini has a huge hand in all this.


I love her and even respect her. That's why her statement today made me react first and then think. I really want CV's to show a very genuine reason behind her leaving her home. Not just a love triangle. Her character deserves that.


Priyanka, here is the link to another post I made on this same topic. Link

I've thought right from the start that Mohini has had a hand in Mala's leaving the house. She's all about control, and I think Mala's presence as the older brother's wife was threatening to her. Have they ever said who is the elder sister? I got the feeling Mala is younger, which might have added to Mohini's ambivalence.

I saw one similar kind of post and I agree there is more to the story that what we have seen.