I can't understand what you want to say by this statement. Do you mean when you say 'Men and women can be friends' , they can have platonic relation with each other or they have to be sexual partners. That is quite possible. In this World, all the persons, both men and women ideally could connect with each other. Ideally, I could connect with everyone and see everyone in this World as my brother or sister. if I am to connect with someone, both of us have to understand each other. If I find I am scared of someone or I find pained by that person's behavior due to my own lack of understanding, I won't be able to connect with that person. That is the way of this World. if you can clarify what you mean by your statement, I can tell more.