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Posted: 11 years ago
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This bangle throwing issue has to be looked at in the whole scheme of things. It is Dsa's way of showing her disdain towards that collector.Her way of getting aggressive.
For every illiterate DSa there are highly modern well educated women and men who use swear words which involve cursing the mother. Because they think it is? cool ?is it because thye think it conveys what they feel towards the person at the receiving end of those swear words?
At the end of the day this is fiction show meant to entertain [people and at the same time make them think about things.I prefer to laud the makers who decided to tell the story of a woman who has changed so much and now fighting for those very causes which she opposed earlier.And I laud the makers for chosing a frail old illiterate woman to challenge the establishment.
It is upto us to on what we chose to dwell on. DSa's progressive thinking who thinks about the welfare of her village and the village girls and be impressed with her or be amazed at the way she took on that well educated modern man from 21st century and told him what she thought of him in such an aggressive manner or dwell upon the regressive gesture she used to make a point. It is all upto us and our mind set.
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As for bangles whether they are adornments or whether they are handcuffs which limit our hand moments depends upon our state of mind and line of thinking.
I don't wear them much because of the nature of my work. and I consider them as a nuisance.
But when I am in a mood to dress up bangles do become a part of my dressing up.
The sane bangles which I consider a nuisance because they limit my hand moments I like wearing them I like the way my hands look with bangles.
This is just my opinion.
Edited by aparnauma - 11 years ago
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Posted: 11 years ago
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I don't think wearing bangles, bindi, sindoor etc. can make any woman weak or is against feminism. But wearing sarees (or ghaghras like Anandi) can be a hindrance sometimes (like for catching a bus in Delhi or while trekking in Nanital). I wear bangles etc. but I do resent the fact that these things are associated with suhaag - made compulsory for a woman as soon as she gets married (at least in North India) and taken away in the unfortunate even of her husband's death (even in BV they did show Phooli longing for bangles).
DS putting bangles in front of collector was symbolic - it is a sexist statement but is commonly used and a person like DS cannot be faulted for using this.

What is strange is using the name chemical factory. Creatives may have read some environmental issues and used it without even explaining which chemical will be manufactured in the factory - it has to be some relevance with the location - there is no raw material source or market for export etc. in Jaitsar. They could have used chemical fertilizers etc. in place of a "chemical factory".
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Posted: 11 years ago
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@ my God so much angry reaction.
I think I made it amply clear that I'm not judging women who choose to wear bangles. It is their choice and I respect that choice. I don't like any suhag symbols, and that is again my choice which I don't impose on any one else.

So I don't think I deserve a lecture on why women are weak or not weak for choosing or not choosing to wear this or that. By refusing me the right to reject these symbols, you are showing me the same lack of accommodation that you are accusing me of. Please cool off. If you read my posts, you will see that I have Very Politely suggested alternative ways in which the same bangle scene could have been shown.
The bangle throwing thing is very old, and as young girl students, I and others had in our time discussed this and wondered at the self-defeating gesture. If you think a weak -- in this case corrupt too --man needs to wear your bangles, what does it say about you? Over the years, these gestures have gradually been phased out.
Conformism and non-conformism evolve with time and some phrases which were considered acceptable earlier are no longer so. You cannot use the N word for Africans and Dalit has replaced Harijan as a more appropriate phrase. When Gandhi coined the term Harijan, it was his way of giving respect to the 'untouchable' community. But the community has its own reasons to reject the H word, so Dalit it is now.
If in a play or movie I find the screen play writers using the N word, I would expect that there should be proper justification for it. May be an arrogant, racist white says it and there is a reaction to it? If it is shown without caveats, it would be problematic. Of course, political correctness can itself provoke a backlash if overused, and this is currently being debated too.
The bangle scene is harmless and I said as much. My only wish was that the cvs had found an intelligent, creative way of showing it instead of perpetuating the stereotype. If BV is a vehicle for progressive message, surely I, as a viewer and as a woman, can expect this much?
I cannot understand why this should have led to so much angst.
I had stayed out of commenting for a very long time and I think I will revert to that happy position. As you said at the end of the day it is just fiction.
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Rohini,
Pls don't revert back to silent mode, these type of verbal rallies with some substance are any day way better than, what we have witnessed since some time...
Tina and Aparna were only putting forth their POV, just as you had..
So, peace.
I take pride in myself wearing bangles all the time, when am' working or not...not a big bulk like Ajee, but just 2 simple gold ones...the simpler, the better for me...be it any occasion..😆
So, as I said, DS's gesture def., does not mean to demean women , but only meant to say, that the DC's hands can be limited to only 'wearing' such feminine elements as bangles.
I feel, the saying whoever has coined it, in whatever time it was, def., did not mean to degrade women wearing bangles...but it is for anyone, who cannot do anything constructive other than using their hands just to show how beautifully, they can decorate their tender hands.
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Posted: 11 years ago
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@Rohini 😊
Please do not stop sharing/posting your thoughts on what you feel/think about the scenes in BV..
Although, am a silent of reader of such posts and do not contribute - enjoy reading others and your posts - am sure there are many others too..😊 - these discussions are like a breathe of fresh air and add to the quality of the forum..
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Posted: 11 years ago
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@adi @umam @Narnia
Thanks girls:)) Once in a long while maybe.

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