With Family or Without?

Originally posted by: Mad4Madhuri

Today rajbirs moms convo w/ hittu's dad was very interesting.. I really liked the way she said that she will stick with her family and cant make any decision own her own without the consent of her husband. What are ur alls views..if ur married, or when u will get married..would you make decisions own ur own or what the family and what ur husband or wife would say and go along with that?

Originally posted by: JattiTude

i am glad that she sticks with her family which is very much right. Rumpa or Hitesh's mom seem too agressive and independent. In punjabi thereare 2 words 1) "aap hudray" which means "vagabond" and 2nd is "Fuqra" meaning a person who does mann marzi without thinking of what others are thinking of him or her.......

they both are like that....... and Raj's mom is a typical Punjabi woman who could be very educated but will not take a step without her husband or other family being with her and I totally agree with it. My mother, mother in law, both are very educated (post graduates) but they wont be getting me or my sister or sis in law or even my brother married off on a TV show without having my father or father in law's "razamandi" (agreement)..... so I stand with Raj's mom on this decision and Raj & Priyanka have been patient enough for this whole situation.... and I hope that they maintain their patience and as they say "sabr ka fal meetha hota hai"... i am sure things will turn their way :-)

I am glad priyanka got her sister back on teh show.......

Originally posted by: JattiTude

i am glad that she sticks with her family which is very much right. Rumpa or Hitesh's mom seem too agressive and independent. In punjabi thereare 2 words 1) "aap hudray" which means "vagabond" and 2nd is "Fuqra" meaning a person who does mann marzi without thinking of what others are thinking of him or her.......

they both are like that....... and Raj's mom is a typical Punjabi woman who could be very educated but will not take a step without her husband or other family being with her and I totally agree with it. My mother, mother in law, both are very educated (post graduates) but they wont be getting me or my sister or sis in law or even my brother married off on a TV show without having my father or father in law's "razamandi" (agreement)..... so I stand with Raj's mom on this decision and Raj & Priyanka have been patient enough for this whole situation.... and I hope that they maintain their patience and as they say "sabr ka fal meetha hota hai"... i am sure things will turn their way :-)

I am glad priyanka got her sister back on teh show.......

Originally posted by: sunandshine

Fuqra, is a nice word😆

BTW I think majority women in India would consider their husband;s opinion and that is not just limited to a Punjabi woman or a Gujrati woman. I am a maharashtrian, and I would do the same thing what Ra's mom did😊

Originally posted by: leelu0001

hi everyone

i just wanted to for the first time reply in a thread.

actually as per the show format a son comes with a mom and they choose a wife and bahu for the family right, so when ur sending ur son and wife to such a show that means ur giving her the authority to choose a girl as a bahu for the family, she being ur wife knows all abt ur family rasams and ur family members well having spent a better part of her life with them, she will be able to choose a bahu who will adjust to ur family. If u dont trust her judgement dont send her to such a show

here i find a husband supporting his wife decision and ready to walk alongside her instead of the other way round as joru ka gulam, that guy is the age of our own dads, we cry for women liberation but we woman ourselves start criticising when we see it. We all support big morchas for equal rights for women and then we instead of supporting it in real life criticise it.

on the other hand is a husband who after sending his son and wife to such a show format in front of all the world is showing that he does not trust his wife to have made a good choice for his family. After spending half my life in that house made to realise that i will make a decision which will not be right for my family wld have completely shattered me. I just hope rajs dad comes soon and accepts pri coz his this behaviour hurts rajs mom self respect. Its indirectly telling her that she has not understood his family values even after spending all this time in that house.

Originally posted by: sunandshine

Hitty's dad is also like his wife! More interested in other's life than their own😆 His own family cared hoots for his opinion, does not mean that all families function that way😳 I would not make any lifechanging decision without my DH's knowledge, and even he wont. Its not like shopping for a vegetable..buying a house, jewellery, marriage etc are major decisions in life. By not taking your significant other's opinion you are direspecting him 🥱 [Thats my POV, Others may not feel alike]😳