Arjun Purvi...far from apavitra - Page 5

Originally posted by: sk11

Ovi is obsessed with Arjun. She was jealous of her own baby because she felt like Arjun only cared for the baby and not her.

What I fail to understand is why people feel pity for ovi? She went into the marriage with arjun with EYES WIDE OPEN. She knew Arjun did not love her. He told her numerous times. She couldn't understand Arjun nor purvi. If she understood love she would have let Arjun go and not attempt sucide to get attention. Her obsession was very evident when she did this. She was unhealthy. She needed counseling. If she understood love she wouldn't have made that deal with her own sister for her mother. Even accepting her own aai was a deal for her. She does not understand relations.

In the montage they show ovi holding on to Arjun while he has his hands in his pockets. She's obsessed and holding on to him like I hope he doesn't run away. Arjun has his hands away to show he's not comfortable and hiding his real feelings. Purvi and onir are apart. No love. Just relationship.

Arjun went through hoops of fire to prove he deserved archnas daughter purvi. Arjun was committed to ovi but when this didn't work out for him he did the right thing by telling ovi this. This was when Arjun had sense. Why would you enter a false relation knowingly especially when you're in love with another? But later when he did this in pressure by purvi and married ovi I was angry...I thought why would the same Arjun do this? This was a big mistake of Arjun.

Arjun made many mistakes by listening to purvi and marrying ovi. He argued it but to prove his love he did it. Then he slept with ovi after purvi told him. Again I was disappointed in Arjun and purvi. They made big mistake here.

When purvi left... Arjun and ovi still couldn't maintain a relationship. Ovi constantly doubted Arjun because inside he heart she knew Arjun's love for purvi. She knew she forced him to marry her. Even when nothing was there her guilt created things out of thin air to doubt on Arjun. She was so thirsty for his love she began to destroy the child Arjun began loving inside of her. This was ovi's mistake.

What upsets me is how when ovi did the deal the family just accepted it. No one told ovi she was wrong. This is the fault of ovi's family. She's a child...her parents and family was needed here.

The only time I felt pity for ovi was when the child swapping happened. This was utterly wrong on onir and purvi. Although I understand the intentions behind it and it actually worked by making Arjun and ovi close but it eventually backfired. But still it was morally wrong. Ovi deserved the truth and to mourn for her child. but what i don't understand though is why people said onir and purvi threw the baby away? Was this shown? Did I miss this scene where they tossed the baby into a garbage? This is an assumption. Correct me if I'm wrong.

Another thing why do people call purvi sanskarri or not etc? Life doesn't work by the sanskars our parents always teach us. Purvi made unnecessary sacrifices that all went to vain. She made so many mistakes. Ovi doesn't understand love nor relations. This is her mistake. Arjun is spineless and is constantly the goat between the two sisters. He can never be right. Poor guy.

I'm not a big fan of any actor in this show nor any character except shoam. But I think this love triangle was interesting to watch. Everyone was equally responsible for this mess.

I hope arvi reunite. They were broken up for no reason and now their reunion seems to be in the plans but I don't think it's being done the right away. If I had it my way, I would want a new lead for Arjun.

Just my two cents.

Originally posted by: Kalapi

Why is it expected that a 19 yr old will accept the fact that her fianc who agreed on his own free will, fell in love (and that was the true love) the moment he left Canada. Arjun agreed to marry Ovi on his free will, and after Ovi asked him if he wanted to marry her. He said Yes ' freely under no pressure or obligation In Canada. Even Arjun fighting for Ovi, when those boys were behaving badly with Ovi was a sign to any teenager, deeply in love, that the person she loves, loves her back , is that a wrong assumption in anyway??? Besides, not all male claims openly that " love you'. Many people have an unspoken commitment of love in their marriage, even when those words were never spoken out. To a teenager, her love is the one that is true'how many teenagers can judge that if her love is true or not, when they are actively involved. No, in cases like these hindsight is 20/20.

Ovi's suicide attempts were only her escape from reality when her own Aai and Aaji were actively rubbing in it her face that her stepsister is getting married to the man, she herself wanted to marry all her life. Did anyone give her the time to accept that Arjun was marrying someone else? Did Arjun came and talk with her once and explain to her. He was supposed to be her best friend. What about Purvi, could she not have waited a bit instead to wanting a pronto wedding and demanding Kanyadaan from Manav relentlessly. Suicide was her defense mechanism. True she is weak emotionally, but many teenagers do commit suicide when rejected by their lover. Am not condoning suicide, but this is a reality too.

As for Ovi bring that deal to Purvi. That was the most astute thing to do. She knew that her father missed her mother immensely. One of the reason that she hated her Aai so much, was that the dad she was so close to always missed his wife (she is the one who felt it too being emotionally closed to her Dad ). So, what better way to bring both her parents together, then for her marry to Arjun, for alternatively, under the circumstances that Purvi was getting married to Arjun, could Manav and Archana, could ever reconcile?

Ovi did want to go away after that 1 month fiasco, if Arjun let her. She was then ready to accept that Arjun loved only Purvi, except Arjun again mislead her. Then she realized, after getting pregnant (and mind you probably did realize what Arjun was really upto until her pregnancy), that the hubby she trusted wholeheartedly and who wanted a second chance with her, was only under the influence of someone else and doing in on Purvi's behest. Any woman will just hate herself and her surrounding if used so lowly by the husband she loves so much. Btw, here Ovi's isn't fantasizing that Arjun was emotionally involved with Purvi while having a physical relationship with Ovi. It was the naked truth. There were at least 3 instances that were shown to prove this very fact. One was Arjun talking to Purvi's picture on the computer, second was Arjun wanted to forget Purvi in that tram scene in Kolkata. Third was Arjun's own confession to Onir and then sleeping Ovi. So, where was Ovi misunderstanding Arjun or doubting him baselessly. No, Ovi doubting Arjun wasn't baseless. True she shouldn't be drinking while pregnant, but this character has always given more importance to Arjun, then he wasn't simply worth it. For Arjun, isn't worth Ovi or her love'.

As for Ovi's family accepting her deal, well, didn't everyone accept what Purvi and Arjun did too? Should DK have had words with Arjun, too? These were adults that made the decision, so they need to take responsibility for it. If trios played adult games, they need to own up to it too.

Anyway, wasn't planning to change your POV, but wanted to put forward how some looked at OVI,

Originally posted by: altuphalu

Originally posted by: Kalapi

Why is it expected that a 19 yr old will accept the fact that her fianc who agreed on his own free will, fell in love (and that was the true love) the moment he left Canada. Arjun agreed to marry Ovi on his free will, and after Ovi asked him if he wanted to marry her. He said Yes ' freely under no pressure or obligation In Canada. Even Arjun fighting for Ovi, when those boys were behaving badly with Ovi was a sign to any teenager, deeply in love, that the person she loves, loves her back , is that a wrong assumption in anyway??? Besides, not all male claims openly that " love you'. Many people have an unspoken commitment of love in their marriage, even when those words were never spoken out. To a teenager, her love is the one that is true'how many teenagers can judge that if her love is true or not, when they are actively involved. No, in cases like these hindsight is 20/20.

Ovi's suicide attempts were only her escape from reality when her own Aai and Aaji were actively rubbing in it her face that her stepsister is getting married to the man, she herself wanted to marry all her life. Did anyone give her the time to accept that Arjun was marrying someone else? Did Arjun came and talk with her once and explain to her. He was supposed to be her best friend. What about Purvi, could she not have waited a bit instead to wanting a pronto wedding and demanding Kanyadaan from Manav relentlessly. Suicide was her defense mechanism. True she is weak emotionally, but many teenagers do commit suicide when rejected by their lover. Am not condoning suicide, but this is a reality too.

As for Ovi bring that deal to Purvi. That was the most astute thing to do. She knew that her father missed her mother immensely. One of the reason that she hated her Aai so much, was that the dad she was so close to always missed his wife (she is the one who felt it too being emotionally closed to her Dad ). So, what better way to bring both her parents together, then for her marry to Arjun, for alternatively, under the circumstances that Purvi was getting married to Arjun, could Manav and Archana, could ever reconcile?

Ovi did want to go away after that 1 month fiasco, if Arjun let her. She was then ready to accept that Arjun loved only Purvi, except Arjun again mislead her. Then she realized, after getting pregnant (and mind you probably did realize what Arjun was really upto until her pregnancy), that the hubby she trusted wholeheartedly and who wanted a second chance with her, was only under the influence of someone else and doing in on Purvi's behest. Any woman will just hate herself and her surrounding if used so lowly by the husband she loves so much. Btw, here Ovi's isn't fantasizing that Arjun was emotionally involved with Purvi while having a physical relationship with Ovi. It was the naked truth. There were at least 3 instances that were shown to prove this very fact. One was Arjun talking to Purvi's picture on the computer, second was Arjun wanted to forget Purvi in that tram scene in Kolkata. Third was Arjun's own confession to Onir and then sleeping Ovi. So, where was Ovi misunderstanding Arjun or doubting him baselessly. No, Ovi doubting Arjun wasn't baseless. True she shouldn't be drinking while pregnant, but this character has always given more importance to Arjun, then he wasn't simply worth it. For Arjun, isn't worth Ovi or her love'.

As for Ovi's family accepting her deal, well, didn't everyone accept what Purvi and Arjun did too? Should DK have had words with Arjun, too? These were adults that made the decision, so they need to take responsibility for it. If trios played adult games, they need to own up to it too.

Anyway, wasn't planning to change your POV, but wanted to put forward how some looked at OVI,

Originally posted by: altuphalu

You speak of 'unspoken committment in marriages' - the reality here is that Ovi and Arjun were just engaged - not married. For her the reality is not the fact that Arjun broke the engagement, but 'how dare he break the engagement - he was promised to me - he is mine' Ovi's ego could not allow her to accept that he could even THINK of someone else. That is not love - he was just a toy promised to her.

It was an commitment dear not only between Arjun and Ovi, but between 2 families that have accepted this marriage with openly and publicly. In fact, many marriages happen even today more between 2 families than between 2 individuals, and in an Indian context this is very much too. No, to me Ovi loved Arjun stupidly enough not to appreciate Arjun's shortcomings esp. regarding his sense of commitment and see Arjun can never commit to anyone. He is a child in a man's body, in my POV...and it had nothing to do with Ovi's ego, but had all to do with her love for him and blindly wanting him...stupidity, for he wasn't worth her...

You then speak about Ovi being astute enough to make a deal with Purvi. When are marriages ever based on 'deals' - they are affairs of the heart, of feelings. And then using this deal so that her parents could be re-united?????. She comes across as a control freak - a script writer who has the ego that she can 'write' everybody's lives???.

Actually, all marriages are deal, one way or the other. Some can be seen some not. Even scientifically it has been proved that women mate higher to her rank and checks out that her mate can support her and her progeny, subconsciously. Even those claiming to love each other, 'fall'' for the other mate depending on their attractive power...'which has sexual undertones.. And in context of India, where 90% of marriages are arranged...that are all deals in one way or the other, where both families checks each other for the individuals suitability...So, dear all marriages are deals that teenagers mistake it for love...love is an extremely interesting cover under where actual deals happens...

Now, in the context of PR, Ovi was smart enough to know that her deal will not only give her Arjun, who she loved and believed stupidly loved her back and give her baba, his greatest happiness - how was that ever wrong???

She is not a jilted lover who has been wronged by her fiance because he fell in love with another.

She is the jilted lover who was unceremoniously dumped and not looked back. Under that circumstance she did what she though was best. But, Arjun was never worth her...

She is a master manipulator. EVERYTHING has to go her way. If it does not - she threatens people emotionally.

No dear, in this story, the master manipulator is onle and only Purvi...she manipulated Arjun emotionally to marry Ovi, swapped babies, is a pathological liar...No dear, that glory is only Purvi;s alone...just reserved for her only😃

That has been her pattern throughout the serial. IF all else fails; she resort to drinking and running away.

Yup, that is a humna thing to do, a weakness to, that many people relate to. So many take up to chain smoking under stress...but Arjun, isn't worth anything from Ovi...that is all

Which man would want to be married to someone like her?? Purvi or no Purvi in his life??

It is simple stupidity that Arjun never valued her. Now, I wanna see the value Purvi bestow upon lover cum jeeju cum hubby Arjun, am waiting to see with bated breath😃

Originally posted by: sk11

I feel you are attacking me thinking I'm bashing Ovi. I will say this again, I'm an active viewer who has no biast towards anyone but Soham. He is my jaan. Otherwise I could care less about Arvi or Ovi for that matter. But anyway I'll answer you.

Thank you for putting ovi's POV out there for me. Next thing in my post I analysed everyone in this mess. Not just Ovi. Wish you had done the same so I could take you a little bit more serious. Anyway...

If arjun and ovi were a result of true love... there would NEVER be any room for Purvi or anyone else for that matter. This is true because although Arjun attempts to make his marriage work, he cannot love Ovi. His love is only for Purvi.

And just because a man fights to protect a female doesn't result in romantic feelings. Any male friend of mine or any other females' would protect me or that female. It doesn't mean they are in love with me or their female friend. Men have the natural instinct to protect any female they are with.

You're right purvi and arjun marrige was done quickly but wasn't there at least a month in between while arjun proved his love to Archana? I do not deny that.

And I'm sorry but do you really THINK for even a second that Manav & Archana would have not reconciled if arjun & purvi married? Do you REALLY THINK ovi was thinking of her parents? Armans problem were resolved with one truth and just communication. It iddn't need any sacrafices etc. Next, you proved my point. Ovi hated her mother because her father missed her which he rightfully should that his wife. Again, Ovi wants everything. Ovi wants everyones attention and love on her only. Thus she couldnt handle arjun loving her child.

And again you say Arjun was talking to purvis photo etc... OVI knew this. She went into this marriage with EYES WIDE OPEN. this wasn't a revealed after she married him. She knew he was in love with Purvi the entire time. Did she really expect Arjun to just forget Purvi that quickly when in fact she was ready to kill herself for Arjun? But there was no physical contact that would ensue cheating.

Ovi could have Arjun with the deal but never his heart. His heart always belonged to purvi.

As for Arjun & Purvi having sex. Purvi got a tight slap on that party by Sulo. Ovi did not from what i can remmeber. Correct me if im wrong please. Purvi has also been outcasted for having sex with arjun and having a child and being involed in swapping the babies.

Listen, I don't think Arvi are mahaan or anything. They did their wrong and Ovi has done hers. I'd just rather have them reunited. Ovi find someone else.

And finally see Soham's love story.