Purvi-onir's rishta - Page 4

Dear Abhi,

Congratulations on the best written, most fair and the only logical take on Onir and Purvi that I have seen so far.👏If you have the time, do take a look at my 2 posts above, especially the one on the TRP system.

Shyamala Aunty

Oh, thank you so much aunty ji...😃 i have been a silent reader for a while but had to comment on this...😃

Originally posted by: Awesome2210

Purvi keeps telling that onir-Purvi's marriage works because of their friendship and not love ... Are they in love ? I mean Onir is , but is Purvi in love with Onir ?

i honestly don't think so coz I still see the love in Purvi's eyes for Arjun ...

What do y'all think ?

one more thing , Purvi is 8 months pregnant but ONIr- purvi met and got married only 6 months ago ...

Why doesn't Onir question about this to Purvi ? WHHYY ?

Originally posted by: sashashyam

My dear girl,

I am astonished at this question. Do you imagine that the world over people get married only for love? In fact, this is not at all the pattern in large parts of the world, especially in India, where arranged marriages are still the substantial majority and they mostly thrive on a solid foundation of understanding, trust , adjustment and loyalty. The failure rate in this kind of marriage in India is FAR less than for love marriages.

As for the divorce rate in the West, it should be enough to make the votaries of romantic love as a mandatory pre-requisite for marriage think twice. People fall in love, get married (though this is now only one of the options and not the most popular because of the legal commitments it involves), but then very soon they fall out of love and get divorced.

As Dr. Samuel Johnson famously quipped about second marriages, they are a triumph of hope over expectation, and these come next on the agenda for our freshly minted divorcees. So where is the true love in all this? Was it with the first or the second (or third or fourth) spouse?

The fact is that romantic love as a lifelong passion is a very, very rare commodity, and I for one do not know why it is so easily assumed to be a permanent fixture in the lovers' lives. What is the guarantee that Arjun and Purvi, if they now decide to upset several applecarts, get divorced and then marry, will stay in love for keeps?There in NO guarantee of that at all.

I do not really care WHAT they do, for both of them, and Purvi especially, get on my nerves big time. As for Onir, arjunluis' post on him above is comprehensive, perceptive, and very fair. He is an extraordinarily decent man, and this world being what it is, he is soon going to get the short end of the stick.

As for why Purvi married him, presuming that she is having Arjun's baby (for me, a depressing and disgusting idea), she should count herself very lucky that she got this wonderful man ready to marry her regardless. She did him no favour in marrying him; it was a lifeline for her. If she had tried to soldier on as a single mom, she would have copped it every minute. Indians are not kind to women who produce kids outside marriage.

Shyamala B.Cowsik

I once read a post by one of the CVs hotly contesting the idea that Arjun-Purvi and their romance decided the TRPs last year. He demonstrated, by a detailed analysis of the week by week TRP figures, that this was not the case. I do not know how far he was correct, but he was after all an insider.

Shymala darling, do you have the link to this article, am interested...

There is a difference between gratitude and love.Purvi doest love Onir but she is grateful to him for accepting her and her child.

What Indian audiences admire above all in the characters they cherish is just one thing: sacrifice. It has been the same ever since Mother India was made.So, I do not see the Indian TAM folks cheering the kind of demoition derby that an Arjun-Purvi reunion would inevitably involve. See, the first leads in PR did come together in the end, but it took all of 18 years, and then again,they had never committed the folly of getting married to third or fourth persons. That is likely to be the BIG difference when it comes to the attitudes of the TAM families.

Shyamala B.Cowsik


👏👏 oops didn't see this before...I couldn't have wrote my other post 😃

I only wanna know one thing yeh baccha kiska hai...😆...I dont knowww why but like Shakti is soo expressive in his acting like in today's episode Onir was looking so much in love and looks like he is someone's husband...on the other hand, Purvi does not seem like a wife to Onir, I know she is not in love with him but still after spending tht much time with him and how caring he is...there shud be a feeling of concern atleast...I dont even see that in her... I jus hated the way she behaved when she left Onir I mean she seemed soo selfish...Onir was completely right they cud have talked abt it...but Purvi behaved soo childish ...

Arjun and Purvi!!!

Please get a divorce from your respective spouses and run away with your baby. Remember everything is fair in love and war.

Dear Ameilia,

I agree with all that you have said here. But my point is that when such amar prem has been thrown away by Purvi for ends of her own, there is no point talking about it any more. If what they had was 'true love', they should have stuck with each other no matter what, but they did not,

At least Purvi did not, because for her Archana was more important than Arjun or their 'true love'. (The irony of all this is that Archana was accepted by her family not because of Purvi giving up Arjun, but because Savita was exposed by Teju at the opportune moment. She might just as well have spared Arjun all this misery).

Now, if her love for her mother was then more important than her love for Arjun, then she should stay with the situation she has created. She cannot go back and start all over again as if nothing had happened, and sold goods cannot be reclaimed by the seller.

If one thing could then be more important than their amar prem then, so too can something else be more important than it now. That thing would be Purvi's commitment to her marriage vows, and her gratitude to a man who saved her from acute ignominy when she needed it. Love is not the be all and end all in our lives. there are many things which are far more important. She cannot ditch Onir, who obviously loves her, just because her ex-lover is now patently unhappy in the fate to which she has consigned him.

And then again, seeing the kind of flashbacks of Purvi and Onir that we are shown, especially the one is which she showers him with water from her wet hair, she is obviously very comfortable flirting with him. That scene did not seem to me to be one between two people who are just friends! It was playful and decidedly coquettish from Purvi's side. Why does she flirt with her husband in this very obvious fashion if she has no feelings for him other than friendship?

This said, it is Arjun who has suffered and is suffering far, far more than his amar premika. She has got Dr. Onir, and she has stuck him with Ovi. No more need be said. He will be paying for his folly in letting her use him and manipulate him, paying for a long while yet;and the oddest thing is that he does not resent it at all. That, to me, is the truly incredible thing about Arjun-Purvi.

Shyamala B.Cowsik

Originally posted by: ameilia

There is a difference between gratitude and love.Purvi doest love Onir but she is grateful to him for accepting her and her child.

Purvi herself said that her and Onir's relationship is based on friendship.A friend in need is a friend indeed.Onir and Purvi may have met before Purvi learnt that she was pregnant and became good friends.

After Purvi learnt abt her pregnancy to save from mockery from society he agreed to marry her.

I believe that Purvi admires Onir but can never love him.Her first and i believe last love Arjun has and will always be a part of her whether she likes it or not.That baby is Arjun's and will be a constant reminder of the love that they once shared.That baby is not a mistake for Purvi but a blessing from God that the wants to protect and love with all her heart.I believe the fear of being shunned from society and the fear that her blessing will be taunted prompted her to marry Onir.

Onir and Purvi's relationship is based on understanding but no love.It came right out from Purvi's mouth that she doesnt love him so that is enough for me to know they can never be in love.

If Arjun couldnt love Ovi in all this time and still love Purvi then the same applies to Purvi.If she couldnt love Onir all this time then what can he now do to make her love him?

Kalapi my dear,

I am afraid I do not, for I had no idea I would ever refer to it again. It was in the summer of 2012, in response to endless demands in the forum for more Arjun-Purvi love scenes.

The CV sounded very exasperated, and showed, by an analysis of the TRPs of about 8 weeks during that period, matching them with major Arjun-Purvi moments in the script, or their absence, that there was no correlation between an increase in the TRPs and more Arjun-Purvi scenes.

I am really sorry, but that is about all I can tell you.

Shyamala

Originally posted by: Kalapi