Kool's Commentary : Dec 19 PR - Page 6

Remember Ovi actually tried to PAY her sister to buy her soon to be jeeju, Sorry couldn't resist a quick quip 😆

Thanks Kool and Varsha for the info on apta leave and the picture. I thought Savita was saying something about sonapatti (maybe lootna) and was curious to know its significance. I don't think Cvs have shown this custome before, but I might have missed it too.

Yes, we do something similar too. Although gifts are given before the start of Durga pujo. If a daughter is newly married, maaika will do a tattva – a whole array of gifts including cloths (for all the family), fruits and sweets. Some gold is given, bur compulsory

The sindoor khela that was shown wasn't really true to tradition. After the puja is done, the priest performs the visarjan rituals. Then married women get Maa ready and bid her farewell. First, her face is wiped with pan leaves. Then Sindoor is applied on the parting of the hair, followed by the forehead and the loha. Then she is offering a little sweet, followed by water and paan. Then the married women will ask her the return next year (and if they want something special) in her ears and finally touch her feet to take her blessing.

Then, after the ritual, the married women will put a little sindoor on her own head, signifying that Maa is putting it on her head. She then goes and put sindoor on the parting of the hair of other married, followed by the forehead and loha. Then she offers sweet and water/pan. If the sindoor exchange happens between same age group married women, they hug each other, if it is older women, the younger will touch her feet and take her blessing. Men also will take blessing of the older generation or will do a hug called kolakuli (done 3 times).

Generally, the younger ppl are expected to visist the older generation for Vijoya with sweets. The Vijoya can be performed between the Dusshera (the actual Vijaya Dashami) to the day before Lokkhi puja (LAskhmi puja) – when it is still Devi paksha (or Matri paksha). So, a newly married daughter will perform the vijoya with her inlaws and then visit her maaika with her husband to seek blessings from her parents. Damad touches Sasuma's feet. After this the daughter's maaika will visit their samdan's house and perform Vijoya either by hugging each other or even if the Samdaan are really young, they will touch and take blessing too.

Trust ' what is it?

Let talk about Trust in a slightly different context. A mother loves her kids unconditionally and trusts them too, right. She trust that they will all make good judgments, but isn't blind in any way about whether the kids will apply good judgments to every situation, so, can we conclude that the mother don't love her kids?

Now, say one of her kid turns a drug addict. She takes her back, rehabilitate him all through. But, should she still trust her blindly, not really. Does that mean the mom doesn't love this kid of hers? No, of course not.

Love and trust are 2 very different equations. When one loves another person, it doesn't automatically means, that he/she will/should trust each other blindly too. In fact, I am hoping with the environment all around us, women do not blindly trust any men all around. That is sheer naivete. Many true stories are all around us, where a young girl fell in love and then her lover sold her to sex trade. No, love and trust shouldn't go hand in hand and people who say 'if you love me trust me', then I say to the girl 'please run'. Trust should be earned and not blindly given in my opinion.

In case of Ovi, her trust has been broken badly and Arjun has done nothing to earn it back, rather his actions have been contrary and pathetic. He will always be a suspect for any women, and no woman can fully trust him, let alone Ovi. And in Indian society, if it comes to be known that he has sex and then left the girl (even at the bidding of the girl... which no one will believe btw)...he is considered characterless and a person who can't be trusted with girl's around and if a girl points a finger towards him, he has no way to defend himself... that is trust and honor for an average Indian.

Originally posted by: ambolove

Remember Ovi actually tried to PAY her sister to buy her soon to be jeeju, Sorry couldn't resist a quick quip 😆

No probs You are entitled to a Quip or two 😛

Don't tear me apart!

Never dear...Its healthy debate...Everyone is entitled their opinion 😃

It's just that I hear all the time people mentioning that jeeja saali is in a relationship, have I missed a few episodes? Because as far as I can see Arjun and Purvi have not been in a relationship since before Arjun and Ovi marriage?

And that really doesn't count because Purvi didn't know about Ovi, and Arjun didn't know that Purvi was Ovi's sister.

I agree that he should have broken off the engagement with Ovi sooner BUT he still wasn't married to her then so it STILL wasn't jeeju saali ka rishta!

The problem I have is Arjun knew Purvi was Ovi's mother Archana's daughter...Purvi did not at the time but once she found out Arjun was engaged to Ovi she kept her distance and SHe should have stayed away from him period...One does not go into this type of relationship with her sister's ex or even best gf's ex. She was encouraged by the mother and grand mother..

That does not take away from both of them have right to fall in love but not where siblings are involved..Had Purvi not been Ovi's adopted sister than it would not have been so bad..Plus Arjun has been coward enough in not opening his mouth when he needed to..

I know Purvi's a destroyer but I have to disagree with the Jeeju Saali ka rishta, one thing is for sure no matter what mistakes she has made, she has kept her distance from both Arjun and Ovi, I'll give her that.

Yeah sure keeping the distance after sleeping with the lover and than making his marry her sister. That is disgusting..Arjun going along with it...Both stupid..

I wonder if Ovi knows about the phere's that Arjun and Purvi had done.

What pheres?? THose are not acknowledge nor valid period..Hypothetically if they did real pheras than how could Purvi hand her so called husband over to someone and tell him to marry her and sleep with her? Why cheat a 3rd person?

I'm not a hindu but I'm sure phere's count for something right?

No They dont count for didly..And I am born hindu brahmin.😃

Is he then actually married to both girls? 🤢

He married Ovi legally in front of god, pandit, fire and witness Purvi herself..All organized and planned coldly and maticulously by Purvi and only Purvi..

Purvi will always be the OTHER WOMAN who came between Arjun & Ovi. Those are the facts.

I saw a bit of the episode today. Ovi was right in her place but I hate how they have damaged her character. I just feel so sorry for the poor doctor. He clearly doesn't know the truth about Purvi because didn't she say she has kept her past away from him and wants it to remain so? In the end, the poor doctor will suffer. I want to know what story Purvi told him to get his sympathy?

Hi Kools and everyone...

LOL Is this you Tiya???? welcome back after a long time I see[/ u...Wonderful post...Part of it cracked me up big time with 🤣