Purvi's Conundrum - Page 2

Originally posted by: sashashyam

Laurie,

Nice try, and argued at length, with amazing fluency and your usual eloquence, 👏👏👏even from the fox pit in which you were apparently hiding.

Your basic conclusion, that Purvi will never go against Archana, and will wait it out till (or if, more like it) her aai gave her the green signal, should make Arjun's heart sink. Though apparently it does not, as per you. You may very well be correct. He seems to be quite happy letting the engine of the client's car get flooded while he floats on a gentle tide or reminiscences (which stop at just the right moment, even for the forehead kiss scene!)

Well, it makes my heart sink.

As for your affirmation that "Purvi does love Arjun, fiercely, and will defend him in front of anyone. She will not stand by and watch his character get tarnished. ⭐️ ", I presume you have already built in the exceptions to this: first of all Archana, then Manav Baba, and then who else? Well, all I can say is that if she actually defends him anywhere at all, publicly and strongly, I will give you at least pass marks. But I have yet to see any evidence to back up this sweeping assertion of yours; you are like a savvy defence lawyer indulging in verbal sleight of hand, Laurie!

As I noted elsewhere, catch any kids these days, adopted or not, being so crushed under the burden of gratitude that they end up having spaghetti for a spine when the parent is concerned! Our sanskaari Purvi, however, defies this 21st century norm. One's heart goes out to poor Arjun. Fate is playing Russian roulette with him.

I agree with every word that you have written about Arjun. But that is the core of the matter. Arjun loves her, and Purvi lets herself be loved. That is all. I dare say she does love him back, but it is not with the kind of visceral emotion that will not be denied, and she probably never will. There is no room for any deewanapan in her makeup; it she had been Juliet, Shakespeare would have expired of a broken heart! But hey, if she, with all her reservations and sanskaars, is what Arjun wants, then that is his fate, and who am I to object!

But what I will not do it is to find excuses for the girl for whom he comes pretty much last on her list of priorities. I like spirited young women who will fight for what they want, and at least try to convince their recalcitrant elders when they are plainly in the wrong. What now is the difference between Purvi - behaving like a German motorist stopping at a red light at 1 am when there is no other car in sight for half a mile - and Archana, whose permanent location these days is apparently behind the kitchen door at the Deshmukhs', peeping out with tearful eyes? Nothing at all.

The curious thing is that if Arjun had been in Purvi's place, and he had held off her or even backed out because DK forbade his marriage to Purvi, he would have been pretty universally excoriated as a coward. Now when Purvi seems likely to do the same thing if her mother is set against Arjun, I am sure there will no voices raised in even much milder criticism. What is this but double standards?

So, dear Laurie, while I am all admiration for your superb thesis, I am not biting, and I vote with Jyoti and Vilasini.

And yes, it is safe for you to come out. I at least am not going to eat you!😉

Shyamala