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I think nurture is very powerful feeling, mother's relationship to a child is more than just a name on a birth certificate, she nurses and takes care of that child since it was a baby. It is love that comes from that kind of bond that cannot be compared or matched. I know there is a special feeling if you carry a child in your womb, but what happens if you dont nurture that feeling and the child is taken away from you then do you still love the child like nothing else. I am skeptical because if you don't nurture that love you will lose the connection that you once had that is normal human tendency. I find the alterior thinking that a mother's love for a child that she gives birth to is higher and more special than the child she raised is the one i disagree with. That is why according to me Archana might love Ovi and Teju but she will never have that bond with them that she shares with Purvi.
beautifully said .. I can't tell you how much I loved your post .Such lovely thoughts you have .You will be a very good parent to some lucky child one day , that is if you don't already have kids of your own ..
I think it would be a different scenario if she raised them all equally at the same time, then if she chose Purvi over Ovi and Teju then we can have something to complain about. But if you think about it don't all parents do that regardless of whether child is biological or not, favoritism is natural in every household. I dont necessarily see how favoritism translates to loving one child less, some kids bond with their parents better on a more emotional level, it is just natural but doesn't mean parents care any less for the child that can be more distant from them.
This happens in so many families .I was more attatched to my dad and my two younger sisters were my mother's pets ...
Didn't mean that my mother loved me any less or my dad didn't love his other daughters. I just connected better wit hmy father becayse we both are very similar ..
This thought process that adopted kids should mean less to their parents, and once they have real kids they should be disregarded is what creates the seed of unwant and unworthiness in the child and they don't deserve that.
Adoption should never ever take place if such feelings are there .An adopted child is just like your own child . In that movie kabhi Khushi kabhi gham ...it was shown that the mother had more feelings for her adopted son than her real child .Her real son understood this and respected his mother and brother 's special bond ( no one called Jaya Bachan a bad mother in the film , she was called a good mother and her role was loved .)
Archana was always so much in love with Sachin ..this is not the first time she has given him preference over manav .He always meant more to her than anyone else .her love for Sachin is so unconditional that she expects nothing in return .Sachin is extremely unlucky that he cannot appreciate this love .
here I would say that it is majorly Manav's fault ...
When Sachin was in India , he loved Archana ...even after the trouble savita tried to make ..he stil lwas with Archaan .Manav broke that bond ..he took sachin away from the person who loved hi mthe most i nthe world and gave him to a woman who filled Sachin with hate ...Today that very hate is going to crush Manav's heart .This is Manav's own doing .
I felt bad for Purvi when she felt the need to be reassured, what else did you expect Archana to say 'oh sorry my bad i am sorry you are not my real daughter that is why i shared nothing with you now off you go and mind your own business'. Archana as any loving mother said what her daughter needed to hear that she is very special to her, why shouldn't she be, does Purvi deserve less, and it is upto Archana to make sure Purvi doesnt feel this way again. Sadly all adopted kids have this nagging thought that one day their parents will just leave them behind once their purpose is fulfiled. Archana adoped Purvi under ghastly of circumstances sure at that time she needed a purpose, so if someday that purpose doesn't exist should Purvi not mean anything anymore.
I am happy that Archana assured Purvi of her love .Anyway , the bond between the two of them is too strong for anyone to break it easily .I feel sorry for Archana's real daughters .They could have had this mother when they were growing up . but their dad took it away from them ...That man is going to suffer when he wil realize what he has really done to his family ...
He let his children hate their mother ...now these very kids are not letting her come back to him .Now he wants her back ...but they don't .
This idea that people adopt as if doing favor on the child, so once that ehsaan favor has been fulfiled should their importance be any less, maybe this is unrealistic but I find it cruel as well. World is cruel I guess and people are use and throw, but can we place a mother's love for her child above such cruelty.
After reading your post I have more respect for Archana .She is very selfless and I am proud of the way she is bringing up Purvi ...Sad with what is happening to her and Sachin's relationship ...Hope that one day her other two daughters will also want to come and experience the love she has for her children
As for Manav , he will suffer for what he has done ...He came between a mother and her children .he made chidren hate their mother ..
Whatever mistakes Archu made ,she paid for them ...now it is his turn to pay .His own son and his mother are backstabbing him ...great 👏
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