Brief Update : 8th Feb 2012 - Page 6

Originally posted by: lunza

[since you spoke about last year , I couldnt help but post this ...:

december 2010 - march 2011 .. was the busiest time on the forum ... so many things happening ...
zra , ArMan reunion , jdj , GIFTH , valentines special performance on star one , sbs/sbb segments, and the speculations about their performances , their scores , the jdj forum madness , drooling over jia's caps of the performances , all those amazing siggies and avis made during that time .. sigh ... those days will never come back again ...😔 ..

Originally posted by: sowmya_jairam

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I'm good. How are you doing? Been busy, but I come to the forum when free. You're doing a great job with the BU thread 😊 TRPs have never interested me, I don't follow them. For me, a show's forum activity is a good indication if the show's doing well. If the forum is dead, the show will soon be also and if the forum's active, the show's doing well. Though IF members make a very small percentage of TV viewers and dont affect TRP ratings much, still we are a good sized sample 😆 with members from all walks of life and ages so if a lot of members follow a show that's good news for the show.

I am good Sowmaya , thanks for the brief update thread ..I also don't come here as much as I usd to before ...In time I think it will get even less...I have an exam in the first week of May and have to get ready for that ..

I mostly come at the time when I do the update and then a little later when it is my coffee break and then late at night , an hour before I sleep ..My bedtime reading has been replaced by the forum now ..

I'm kinda enjoying the show, I like the actors but the characters are irritating me 😆

Of course ...very irritating , absolutely abnormal people 😆, stay away for 18 years still call their relationship Pavitra Rishta ..👏

Tanya, don't you think the other children are being neglected in favor of Purvi? It's not their fault that they are the biological children or that they were not raised by Archana, so why are they not getting any storyline or screen space.

Yes they are getting neglected by the story writers .I think Purvi is going to be the next lead of the show ..The story writers tried before also to put in another lead and that was when they bought in Shravani ...but that did not work in their favour ...Now again they are trying again with Purvi ..

Many characters were introduced after the leap and I guess whoever is getting more popularity will be the one having the most important role ...Sowmaya , this is a TRP based show ..I know what you mean when you say that you don't care much about the TRPs , Bonne said the same thing , even the actor Sushant Rajput complained against the importance of TRPs ...but in this show that is the only rule that is followed ..The story lines are changed every wednesday after the TRP report comes in for the week ...

I think after 5 months or so , Ankita might leave and another show for Ekta kapoor .That is why Ekta took so much personal interest in the character of Purvi because she wanted to groom her as the next heroine of the show...

This is coming from Ekta Kapoor .She will give Purvi more importance than others ..In time this will get even more highlighted .

Manav did a good job raising the children, yes he should have stopped his mom from talking bad about Archana in front of them, but the kids will only believe what they are told. And they seem to be generally nice people.

They seem like nice people .Have reservations about Sachin ...At this moment I cannot see him as a nice person because of how he is cheating his father and he knows how much Archana loves him and that is why he is emotionaly blackmailing her ...

His trying to get Shravani's haq is strange ..because Shravani herself broke her engament with Manav . Manav's brother was his real dad not Manav so he is not obliged to marry Shravani at all...

One can say that he is misguided ...but he is supposed to be a professional lawyer ..He should be able to tell right from wrong .

Ovi is a nice person...a little too obsessed with Arjun ( bit like her mother Archana 😆) but she is a good person ..She is a typical kind of character who will in the end sacrifise her love .Bit like Karishma Kapoor in Dil to paagal hai ..

Teju is now getting interesting because I think she will play a big role in the story when she will find out that Archana is her real mother ..I would want her to confront Archana as to why she did not check on her daughters but then I want her to help her daddy live a happy life with the woman he loves ...not the woman his mother loves ...

I want both Ovi and Teju to show anger to both their parents ...

To Archana ...for not trying to get in touch even if it was to make manav happy ...

To Manav ...for taking them away from their mother for 18 years , never tried to let them know about her and letting them filled up with so much hate when he himself is in love with the woman.Why then make them hate her

They think Archana abandoned them, and she didn't help by not being in contact with them at all these years. Even now, they're being kept in the dark when they have all the rights to know what's happening in their parent's lives. And Purvi's all set to reunite arman and take all the credit, and Ovi-Teju don't even know what's happening. I think that's highly unfair to them. Sachu too, he's misguided and wrong, and I think it's Archana's and Manav's responsibility to set him right. Not let him believe lies and let him do wrong things to prove they love him.

Archana is being down right foolish by giving in to his demands ..She does this all the time yaar .. am getting fed up now .. yo uknow what Archana's problem is , she tries to keep everyone happy but somewhere inside she is stil la normal person who wants a happy life so along the way she gives up and is unable to go against her heart ...

Of course it is also wrong of others to expect such huge sacrifises of her ... like Sachin did ...he knew she is an emotional fool who loves him dearly and he is using that love to get what he wants ..

Varsha , her own sister did the same ..before Shravani and even Manav did this to her .Expect huge sacrifises ...which she tried hard to deliver but in the end , failed .

That is why they are showing Purvi so unlike Archana ...she is a good person but she is not going to let her mother sacrifise .

I think it will be Sachin ( one adopted child ) against Purvi ( the other adopted child ) ..Sachin will try to pull them apart ...Purvi will try to bring them close together ..

I hope in the end Arman's real daughters are the ones who take the decision on their mother and tell sachin' If you want your mother to have her haq , then we too want our mother to have her haq ' and that is the love and respect of the family she belongs to .

They should tell Manav ' you trusted your mother , we trust ours"

I do blame Manav a lot for what is happening right now because he was the one who took the kids away and as you said , let their minds be filled with poison ..now he wants to reconsile suddenly ..This won't be easy .Really hope he finds out the truth about his mother .He is a good man and I hope he gets his wife in the end but not until all the confusion and miscommunication is cleared .

Originally posted by: loveanime

I know there is lots of comparisons here about how Archana can love Purvi more than Teju and Ovi, how is that possible, it is against nature. I find this way of thinking that adopted children are somehow less than blood children a very cruel and cold way of thinking. Archana might have many faults but I find her most endearing quality is her ability to love Sachin and Purvi more than anyone else. I believe this is nature versus nurture. There are lots of mothers who give birth to kids but do terrible things to them, where did their love go, did it not exist in their nature to love them. Perfect example in this show is Savita's love for Manav, many went as far as saying she is adopted mother that is why she is so cruel, this to justify that only adopted parents can be cruel, such a sad thought and bad stigma for adopted parents. Savita did what she did regardles of being his biological mom or not.

I think nurture is very powerful feeling, mother's relationship to a child is more than just a name on a birth certificate, she nurses and takes care of that child since it was a baby. It is love that comes from that kind of bond that cannot be compared or matched. I know there is a special feeling if you carry a child in your womb, but what happens if you dont nurture that feeling and the child is taken away from you then do you still love the child like nothing else. I am skeptical because if you don't nurture that love you will lose the connection that you once had that is normal human tendency. I find the alterior thinking that a mother's love for a child that she gives birth to is higher and more special than the child she raised is the one i disagree with. That is why according to me Archana might love Ovi and Teju but she will never have that bond with them that she shares with Purvi.

I think it would be a different scenario if she raised them all equally at the same time, then if she chose Purvi over Ovi and Teju then we can have something to complain about. But if you think about it don't all parents do that regardless of whether child is biological or not, favoritism is natural in every household. I dont necessarily see how favoritism translates to loving one child less, some kids bond with their parents better on a more emotional level, it is just natural but doesn't mean parents care any less for the child that can be more distant from them. I just see Purvi as Archana daughter regardles of whether she is her blood or not, she nurtured her so she will have a bond she will not have with Ovi and Teju that for me shows a mother's true love. If she nurtured her other children she would have that special bond with them too. Parents do favoritism in kids intentionally or unintentionally that should not be influenced by if the child is related to them by blood or not.

This thought process that adopted kids should mean less to their parents, and once they have real kids they should be disregarded is what creates the seed of unwant and unworthiness in the child and they don't deserve that. I felt bad for Purvi when she felt the need to be reassured, what else did you expect Archana to say 'oh sorry my bad i am sorry you are not my real daughter that is why i shared nothing with you now off you go and mind your own business'. Archana as any loving mother said what her daughter needed to hear that she is very special to her, why shouldn't she be, does Purvi deserve less, and it is upto Archana to make sure Purvi doesnt feel this way again. Sadly all adopted kids have this nagging thought that one day their parents will just leave them behind once their purpose is fulfiled. Archana adoped Purvi under ghastly of circumstances sure at that time she needed a purpose, so if someday that purpose doesn't exist should Purvi not mean anything anymore.

This idea that people adopt as if doing favor on the child, so once that ehsaan favor has been fulfiled should their importance be any less, maybe this is unrealistic but I find it cruel as well. World is cruel I guess and people are use and throw, but can we place a mother's love for her child above such cruelty.

Originally posted by: poas

bold-😃tanya i think all viewers thought should b like u😆so PR can b in top3. my thought is opposite of u.may b sometimes some of u can think me mentally sick😆😆but we can think different but we r good freind😃
edit - i cant understand archana still not asking manav a single word about ovi-teju😲she can ask a pic of them how they r?why CV make them 5 adult kid's parents to show their romance how it would b in the age of 50/60?or may b to prove if anyone adopt kid she completely ignore her/his own kids😕

Originally posted by: Tanyaz

Sharon and Poppy , you both are such kids yaar ..You are angry because Sushi boy is not there any more ...🤣🤣..You just cannot get over him ...🤣