Bhavna's obsessiveness about a POTA - Page 12

Originally posted by: Dabulls23

Yeah I had said 10%...😛 No one can be 100% 😉😆 Bhavna needs to stay out of it..Her words were hurtful I understand.. but did u see Varsha's attitude? She is still on her high horse..Good she has accepted that she won't have a child of her own..But everyone has their own time in dealing with it..Just b/c Satish dealt with it quickly does not mean his family will...Varsha has been quick @ everything is she not.? Aborting and accepting of not able to have child..

Bhavna is hurt not only as a parent but for Satish too..Varsha yet has not felt pain for Satish not able to have a child and @ no fault of his own 😳 One needs to put themselves in other's shoe to feel the pain and understand it..I think we both agree on this issue..

Originally posted by: Dabulls23

BTW today when I just threw in a 10% just for the heck..But Bhavna is more right than Varsha until yesterday. 80% varsha's fault and 20% Bhavna's fault 😃

Today I feel Bhavna is portrayed as a typical MIL and demanding POTA to carry on her family legacy..I felt her words were hurtful but Varsha's attitude was not of someone who was accepting of her responsibility in her actions..

Her attitude is like OK I aborted and now i know I can't have a baby of my own and I am dealing with it...Too bad u deal with it too and sooner the better..is it not how a convo should happen between MIL-DIL..?? Both need to sit down and talk if they want to discuss how much they are hurting..It is Varsha's act which has hurt Satish's family...Apparently K family is least bothered with it...

Originally posted by: Polki_Zofi

I think some men do that, i.e. become passive. Its not really when they are very understanding or good ... but it is a realization in them that things are "like this". They just give in to it, they loose opinion. They let it be ... for me it doesn't look "love". It is soul-less.

Understanding is one thing ... and this is another. Understanding doesn't mean this even remotely. I find it very naive if this can be labeled as understanding.

He once had an opinion and he expressed it. He saw what mess was made ... nothing really worked for him. Sometimes, the simple and gentle men give up when their decent and honest ways can't get the things right for them. They just don't know another way ... perhaps now lost, in a tunnel ... walking along as things come by... saving integrity.

This, in my view, is not the color of love. The husband should have an opinion, an expression. He just ... gives in.

Anyways, but that is how I see it. Fingers crossed 😆 .... he needs the sweeeetest of sweet incidents in life to get the life straight.

Adopted children are a good idea, but holding own blood and flesh can never become a primitive idea. It is a natural thing, and there is no replacement for it.

I find Bhavna as a mother, concerned for her son. She is very traditional, but not really primitive. Her language maybe straying ... but not unusual even in European standards. But provided an option comes, he will surely need to make a decision! His own decision, and make that known. Right now there are no options which match his decency and dignity ... but always there is mercy 😉, surely if he moves around, he will come into an eye ... heh... dobranoc 🥱😊.

Originally posted by: Dabulls23

Here I go again..Agree Bhavna can't demand POTA..Or she is the decision maker abt how SaSha should have their child..Be it their own or via adoption..

But but Satish told Varsha yesterday that first he has to work on himself to see if Adoption is the right option and than he will talk to bhavna..

Today despo Varsha has gone to orphanage and telling Vaishu that both have decided to adopt..

Not only that Satish is telling Bhavna Adoption is the only choice and option they have as nothing else can help...W*H

They yet have not seen any sepcialist OBGYN to discuss their options to be parents..

Nothing wrong in Bhavna wanting a child for his son (His own)..There has to be a happy medium here..Why not consider talking to OBGYN and try for Invtro? next is Sarrogate mother using thier ambrio, and if all fails than go with adoption..This way Bhavna also sees that sincere efforts have been put out and all options have been exhausted so considering adoption..

Now if Doc says none of those are options for SaSha than Giving a needy child a loving and caring home with a parents-grandparents is the best way to go abt it..

I dont like how CVs show educated people like SaSha so dumb...Thinking adoption is the only option they have..Grrrrrrr

Satish always supports Varsha in any stupid or valid decision..Man is really missing something...He can't really stand upto Varshu even when he might be right...It is easy for him to yell @ his own mother when she is wrong but not the same with his WIFI...

Originally posted by: Dabulls23

^^ Agree Invitro is a lengthy and expensive process..Sometimes it takes more than one try to be successful...and sometimes even not successful..But that is an option couple has...Some decide to go to adoption directly as they dont have time, money and patience...

But to someone who wants their own child they will prepare their mind for anything..Try invitro knowing the fact that they have final option of adoption...Than leave it upto their destiny..

I agree with you on your last para..CVs are screwed up big time..Last convo bet Bhavna and Varsh was totally uncalled for..Even today Bhavna had point but it is not her place nor right to make the decision..Again it is not Varsha's decision alone either..Apparently Satish is just dragged into acceptiong every one of Varsha's decision..They have very lopsided relationship..I hope Satish looks into all his options b4 giving into Varsha's every whim..