Bhavna's obsessiveness about a POTA - Page 10

Originally posted by: tv_madness

actually, to some extent Bhavan has been very pushy....she point blankly tole Varsha that she was to quite her job when she was pregnant....i have two kids and have been working full time even when i was pregnant....these things can be managed....bhavna was the one who created pressure on Varsha', who is career oriented and created a conflict between career vs. kid....Staish could have explained to her mother to be in limits.

waise, i would still say that Bhavna jaise saas are "in abundance" in India, even amongst the urban educated middle class. i think it will change over the next generation.

Ok, I could not resist posting. You have your facts wrong. Bhavna did ask Varsha to leave her job. If you look at Nov 1st video of PR, Bhavna clearly tells Varsha that she has taken the decision that Varsha will quit her job. If I remember correctly, she asked Varsha to quit her job earlier too, but I did not have the patience or inclination to go through all the videos.

Please dont assume that I am taking sides here or attacking your views. To each his/her own.

Originally posted by: shalgo

actually, to some extent Bhavan has been very pushy....she point blankly tole Varsha that she was to quite her job when she was pregnant....i have two kids and have been working full time even when i was pregnant....these things can be managed....bhavna was the one who created pressure on Varsha', who is career oriented and created a conflict between career vs. kid....Staish could have explained to her mother to be in limits.

waise, i would still say that Bhavna jaise saas are "in abundance" in India, even amongst the urban educated middle class. i think it will change over the next generation.

Originally posted by: Polki_Zofi

Hej ...

Don't know where my post would fit here. But its better I write something if I feel to 😊

Bhavna's asking for a grandchild is not nonsense I feel. It is a family structure, a culture of a country. Yes, her mentioning of "grandson" can either be her primitive way of thinking, or just a language issue.

She wishes her son to be happy, fulfilled with a healthy family. Although he is a very good man, his life certainly is far from what he would deserve to have.

However its true, everyone does have their own way of living. However, I do feel that if he gets a second chance in life with someone who would really love and care for him ... he will be more satisfied and someone else would get a man like his as she deserves. Varsha can concentrate in her career and there is nothing wrong in that.

Originally posted by: Polki_Zofi

Did she ever realize his love for her?

You know I sometimes feel otherwise. Specially when she went to Archana's home flaunting her wealthy status due to her wealthy choice. Now it is tough to discount those isn't it? Those were quite recent remarks of hers.

Never did she show any regret unless it directly affected her. Satish was never really a primary thought, apart from the times when he would be the element of her pride, tangible joy or ego. Or perhaps a soft target?

Satish seems to be one of those men who give it their all. Wonderful, kind and sensible men. He will give it his all, till the very end ... unless a magic happens 😊.

I think he really wanted a child, but now he is adjusting to a fate which he accepted. Doesn't mean that he deserved or enjoy it. It is just that he wanted love from someone he wanted to make it happen with. But what do you do when the other person is just not THAT KIND?

Well in all, I wish to see a good looking, sexy 😉, kind, compassionate, sensible girl come to his life who love him. Simply give him her priority, care for him, and makes her own efforts to have a home with him ... with his and her children smiling all over. I don't think it will be his nightmare, but actually the contrary.

As for Varsha, She is a different kind of woman. She will find someone else, maybe next time something which would benefit her long term objectives in life more? Perhaps someone in the Bank at a higher position? NO I AM NOT demeaning her! Its just fair. She has a life of her own in which she should be looking for consolidation ... but certainly the cost shouldn't be borne by a nice man like Satish, who always did show the signs of a man who would like a wife, children and a home. Ofcourse he is supportive like a perfect gentleman that he is ... but to take advantage of such men is a waste, nothing else. At lease their breeds should and must be spared! That would only prove to be kind.

Originally posted by: piya_10

^^ but Why would they go for different partners, Varsha and Satish love each other and want to spend the rest of their lives together. Yes Varsha did commit a big blunder by aborting her child and now she's paying the price for it, she can never conceive again the thot in itself is a huge punishment also Satish realises this and has forgiven Varsha, both are trying to be happy and accept this reality as part of life. As long as they are happy and content being together nobody else has the right to separate them, not even Bhavna.

Originally posted by: Polki_Zofi

Hey as you wish, I was just looking at it from another perspective.

Ofcourse the mother in law is not someone who be able to force anything. Probably she is just venting herself, as she is only a human, and in Indian families it seems they are very connected.

Marriages are for life, but not like this I felt. He seems to be a sufferer BUT HEY, thats just me perhaps who sees it.

Anyways, there will be more story ahead. The current frames will pass, and the future will tell whether Satish wishes more to happen in his life, than to be with Varsha (with whom as you once yourself said in a post, he was adjusting himself).

Marriage is not life is a good concept ... I like this concept of India. But it is for those who can carry it for life ... not for those who abuse it for life. Or maybe it is a whole different thing in India.

Personally I would find it very romantic when Satish gets involved with someone else, very refined and deserving (in my perspective). I am sure she will fulfill his life, and somehow Bhavna will be seen as a totally different person.

Bhavna's obsession right now seems more of a restlessness. She doubts the intelligence of her daughter in law. She is still concerned for her son ... and this is perhaps how Indian homes operate. You cannot really subtract some aspects from the whole package that such homes come from. It is all good when things work accordingly to it I suppose.

But hey ... can anyone really think based on the current time? Past and future are always the ones who influence any discussion.

Its just my opinion 😆....don't take it as an offense.