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Posted: 14 years ago

Originally posted by: xyzzee

But I don't ever remember saying he was adjusting to Varsha. In fact if you see in my last post, I said he loves her and is WILLING to and WANTS to live with her with all her flaws. It maybe romantic to see him involved with someone else on screen but to be honest, I would lose respect for Satish if he left Varsha NOW especially since she is repentant - that would be so out of character with him. A guy who has always supported her and her career suddenly having such a turnaround? Of course anything can happen in shows. As for Bhavna I have currently no respect for her and will have it only if she changes her approach.



absolutely, Satish loves Varsha the way she is with all her flaws, Varsha is inherently not a bad person, she is stubborn and hot headed and a combination of these makes her commit mistakes, but she is repenting and ruing her decision and deserves a second chance in my opinion. Just because u are childless does not mean u divorce and remarry to carry yr family name, as I said earlier they can always adopt, it will set a nice example too.
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Posted: 14 years ago
By the way, I am not even an Indian 😳😛😆 ... I've been here on and off (usually posted sometimes in the Koolsadhu commentary😳) . I'm from Poland (not even an ethnic Indian ... a white girl as you would say).

Anyways, I could know least of how India works. I only tried to figure and so I said what I could understand.

I feel Satish doesn't really "love" Varsha, but he does try as a gentleman in marriage. He is a kind and considerate human being. It never really seemed that he "loved" her, but he always kept on trying for love to be born in there. That effort was so genuine and whole hearted, that it perhaps looked at it love was present among them.

He always wished for a child of his own... he wanted to be a father. It is sometimes a very big wish for a man too. He doesn't really seem to be a great fan of her career, but he is certainly supportive (again like a gentleman). He is a mature person.

He is living the life which has been provided to him, accepted "fate" ...

To claim "LOVE" is a little to soon and too big in his relationship. I really can see LOVE only present between Manav and Archana, no matter how foolish and stupid they be sometimes (or often, whichever way you think). They are the couple in love in this story. Love is bigger than a career, it is much bigger than anything else to even come remotely near it ... be it ego or pride, be it reason and logic.

I never personally felt that Varsha ever really repented. To repent is again a massive thing to do. You need to come into someone else's system, perspective. All I saw her was to scream our of pain when it afflicted her finally. She is not really interested in any ones perspective, and do not really regret anything she did to anyone but herself. It is about her ... simple. The Mistake is hers, the punishment is hers ... the tears were hers ... and the smiles are also to be hers. She is in a marriage yet? I don't know, but it doesn't look one to me born and bred in a Catholic way. It seems she is living with herself, with all its ups and downs.

Satish on the other hand is alive ... living ... helping and contribution. Walking down a tunnel ... and he certainly is not looking for any light at the end of it.

Its not that this will be romantic because its a serial. I think it will be romantic because it is a sad story. There are beautiful, warm and deserving girls for such kinds of responsible and kind men ... all around the globe 😊. Satish should just move around, and once he comes into that "special" her's eyes ... I am sure he will know what marriage is, and how its like to really fall in love.

No you might say he already is in love ... but as I said ... I see it differently. But lets see how it all unfolds 😉. I don't think he will even fall down ... because nothing in his life is happening for him ... not yet ... not as I could see it yet ... maybe in your view you did!
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Posted: 14 years ago

Originally posted by: Polki_Zofi

By the way, I am not even an Indian 😳😛😆 ... I've been here on and off (usually posted sometimes in the Koolsadhu commentary😳) . I'm from Poland (not even an ethnic Indian ... a white girl as you would say).

Anyways, I could know least of how India works. I only tried to figure and so I said what I could understand.

I feel Satish doesn't really "love" Varsha, but he does try as a gentleman in marriage. He is a kind and considerate human being. It never really seemed that he "loved" her, but he always kept on trying for love to be born in there. That effort was so genuine and whole hearted, that it perhaps looked at it love was present among them.

He always wished for a child of his own... he wanted to be a father. It is sometimes a very big wish for a man too. He doesn't really seem to be a great fan of her career, but he is certainly supportive (again like a gentleman). He is a mature person.

He is living the life which has been provided to him, accepted "fate" ...

To claim "LOVE" is a little to soon and too big in his relationship. I really can see LOVE only present between Manav and Archana, no matter how foolish and stupid they be sometimes (or often, whichever way you think). They are the couple in love in this story. Love is bigger than a career, it is much bigger than anything else to even come remotely near it ... be it ego or pride, be it reason and logic.

I never personally felt that Varsha ever really repented. To repent is again a massive thing to do. You need to come into someone else's system, perspective. All I saw her was to scream our of pain when it afflicted her finally. She is not really interested in any ones perspective, and do not really regret anything she did to anyone but herself. It is about her ... simple. The Mistake is hers, the punishment is hers ... the tears were hers ... and the smiles are also to be hers. She is in a marriage yet? I don't know, but it doesn't look one to me born and bred in a Catholic way. It seems she is living with herself, with all its ups and downs.

Satish on the other hand is alive ... living ... helping and contribution. Walking down a tunnel ... and he certainly is not looking for any light at the end of it.

Its not that this will be romantic because its a serial. I think it will be romantic because it is a sad story. There are beautiful, warm and deserving girls for such kinds of responsible and kind men ... all around the globe 😊. Satish should just move around, and once he comes into that "special" her's eyes ... I am sure he will know what marriage is, and how its like to really fall in love.

No you might say he already is in love ... but as I said ... I see it differently. But lets see how it all unfolds 😉. I don't think he will even fall down ... because nothing in his life is happening for him ... not yet ... not as I could see it yet ... maybe in your view you did!

The way people express love is different - you don't need to be all lovey-dovey outwardly to express your love. And neither do you need to be so demonstrative:-) Satish is very much in love with her and has said so. If he were not interested in Varsha's career, why would he go out of his way to look for a job for her and almost coerce her into doing it? And kudos to him, if a woman wants to be career oriented GOOD FOR HER. Does not mean she is a bad woman.
Yes, Varsha has undoubtedly started realizing her loss much more after she found out but she did repent even before she found out that she could not conceive..I remember those episodes very well.
Anyway, I guess my point all along is Bhavna has been too pushy and there is a fine line between showing concern and interfering. She in my opinion crossed the line.
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Posted: 14 years ago

Originally posted by: piya_10



absolutely, Satish loves Varsha the way she is with all her flaws, Varsha is inherently not a bad person, she is stubborn and hot headed and a combination of these makes her commit mistakes, but she is repenting and ruing her decision and deserves a second chance in my opinion. Just because u are childless does not mean u divorce and remarry to carry yr family name, as I said earlier they can always adopt, it will set a nice example too.

Very true - I too hope they show them adopting a child, I dislike this whole nonsense of carrying a family name. Might have made sense during the days of Kings and Queens ruling empires, not in this day and age.
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Posted: 14 years ago

Originally posted by: tv_madness




Ok, I could not resist posting. You have your facts wrong. Bhavna did ask Varsha to leave her job. If you look at Nov 1st video of PR, Bhavna clearly tells Varsha that she has taken the decision that Varsha will quit her job. If I remember correctly, she asked Varsha to quit her job earlier too, but I did not have the patience or inclination to go through all the videos.

Please dont assume that I am taking sides here or attacking your views. To each his/her own.

I thought I had replied to this..Thanks for taking the trouble to go through the Archives and point this out:-)
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Posted: 14 years ago
Sasha can still have their own child...As long as Varsha's ovary's still producing good eggs...They can adopt but if they want their own it is possible...They need to see specialist and figure out all their options..
Varsha still has not realized the impact of her one foolish, impulsive decision...Just b/c Satish is understanding she is not realizing the grave impact..If Satish had gone mad (Which he has right to) she would have realized it bit more...Satish forgave Varsha too quick and easy...Sowee my personal feeling on this issue..He plays into Varsha's unrealistic tantrums most of the time and gives into it..
Bhavna is more frustrated so is spewing anger..Varsha is not NE less..
Satish needs to open his mouth and speak his peace instead of pacifying Varsha 's attitude...He also should have a convo with Bhavna that it is their decision on having kids or not..And what he intends to do abt it..End of stroy...no more fights..
Edited by Dabulls23 - 14 years ago
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Posted: 14 years ago

Originally posted by: Dabulls23

Satish needs to open his mouth and speak his peace instead of pacifying Varsha 's attitude...He also should have a convo with Bhavna that it is their decision on having kids or not..And what he intends to do abt it..End of stroy...no more fights..

Definitely agree about you on this - he is always the too quiet and understanding kinds...
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Posted: 14 years ago

Originally posted by: xyzzee

Definitely agree about you on this - he is always the too quiet and understanding kinds...

Actually Satish is the one who is feeding into Varshu's frenzy...I blame him to some extent for letting Varshu get away with so much..He has put all his own emotions, desire on the back burner from the get go..He waited for Varshu's consent to marry him, her love, than having sex, than having baby, and her aborting baby w/o his consent...How much wimpy can a guy be in the name of understanding husband 😳😡...I know yourng women like men like that...Dont get me wrong Satish is a wonderful human being but he has a major flaw his weakness of giving into aggressive woman.. THere has to be balance in a relationship..
He is over compensating Varsha in this relationship...Marriage is a mutual relationship..give & take..here he is the only giver and Varshu the taker (Abuser) to some extent..Abused her right and position IMHO..No matter how wrong Bhavna may be but she is 10% right to begin with in this whole scenerio..Varsha needs to repent big time not only for aborting but taking her relationship with Satish for granted and in nonchallant manner..She knows he will accept and understand no matter what as he never questions her actions 😳 or makes her responsible for her decisions..
Edited by Dabulls23 - 14 years ago
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Originally posted by: Dabulls23

Actually Satish is the one who is feeding into Varshu's frenzy...I blame him to some extent for letting Varshu get away with so much..He has put all his own emotions, desire on the back burner from the get go..He waited for Varshu's consent to marry him, than having sex, than having baby, and her aborting baby w/o his consent...How much wimpy can a guy be in the name of understanding husband...I know yourng women like men like that...Dont get me wrong Satish is a wonderful human being but he has a major flaw his weakness of giving into aggressive woman..

He is over compensating Varsha in this relationship...Marriage is a mutual relationship..give & take..here he is the only giver and Varshu the taker (Abuser) to some extent..Abused her right and position IMHO..No matter how wrong Bhavna may be but she is 10% right to begin with in this whole scenerio..Varsha needs to repent big time not only for aborting but taking her relationship with Satish for granted and in nonchallant manner..She knows he will accept and understand no matter what as he never questions her actions 😳 or makes her responsible for her decisions..

Don't agree about Bhavna being 100% right (I assume you meant that and not 10%:-)), only because of the way she has been behaving recently. Again, I am not factoring every incident from the past - agree Varsha was wrong but at THIS stage Bhavna behaving like this and hurting Satish big time is not something I agree with - definitely don't agree with obsessiveness either. I agree with you about Satish feeding into her tantrums, etc. I know there are women (Young and old) who take advantage of their hubby's nature - but at this stage Bhavna needs to draw the line between intefering and caring - she needs to keep in mind that she is after all talking to adults, that their viewpoints differ from hers is not the point here.
And while some others may disagree I think Satish was truly in love with Varsha, that he was wipy, etc. was beside the point and I disagree about that behvaiour too but the bottom line is when he had no problem, Bhavna need not throw her weight around as she did.
Edited by xyzzee - 14 years ago
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Posted: 14 years ago

Originally posted by: xyzzee

Don't agree about Bhavna being 100% right (I assume you meant that and not 10%:-)), only because of the way she has been behaving recently. Again, I am not factoring every incident from the past - agree Varsha was wrong but at THIS stage Bhavna behaving like this and hurting Satish big tinme is not something I agree with - definitely don't agree with obsessiveness either. I agree with you about Satish feeding into her tantrums, etc. I know there are women (Young and old) who take advantage of their hubby's nature - but at this stage Bhavna needs to draw the line between intefering and caring - she needs to keep in mind that she is after all talking to adults, that their viewpoints differ from hers is not the point here.

Yeah I had said 10%...😛 No one can be right 100% 😉😆 Bhavna needs to stay out of it..Her words were hurtful I understand.. but did u see Varsha's attitude? She is still on her high horse..Good she has accepted that she won't have a child of her own..But everyone has their own time in dealing with it..Just b/c Satish dealt with it quickly does not mean his family will...Varsha has been quick @ everything is she not.? Aborting and accepting of not able to have child..
Bhavna is hurt not only as a parent but for Satish too..Varsha yet has not felt pain for Satish not able to have a child and @ no fault of his own Embarrassed One needs to put themselves in other's shoe to feel the pain and understand it..I think we both agree on this issue..
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