Bhavna's obsessiveness about a POTA - Page 13

Originally posted by: xyzzee

We have been paying a lot of attention to Archu's, Vaishu's and Varsha's stupidity or whatever you may call it as a result of which Bhavna's obsesssiveness is completely ignored or forgotten:-)) I think her behavior yesterday and the last few episodes was shocking! PLEASE - I am NOTTTTTT supporting Varsha or her abortion - she is a first class jerk but Bhavna was plain disgusting. First her wanting a POTA - big deal, when I hear a WOMAN say that any resepct I have for them is wiped out, sorry. Then forcefully taking or trying to take Varsha to a Gyno. What nonsense. She has every right to request for a GRANDCHILD (Not Grandson) but no right to force it down their throats. And her main reason for worrying about this is because people are talking - she is more worried about people and society commenting. Disgusting is a mild word for her. 😡Wonder what I would have done if my MIL was like that.😃 And the way she demanded about wanting a Grandson, like you can buy him from a market! And last but not the least her telling Satish that he should remarry. OK, OK, that was a slip of tongue but hey she is an adult, and not a very young one at that - where is her control of speech and tongue?! She has every right to be upset at Satish and varsha for hiding the truth but she is plain obsessed - a complete psycho. Sorry, just IMHO.

👍🏼agreed yaar, i likes this , chalo koi same thinking wala mila to sahi 😊main bhi to yeahi to soch rahi thi 😊

Originally posted by: xyzzee

We have been paying a lot of attention to Archu's, Vaishu's and Varsha's stupidity or whatever you may call it as a result of which Bhavna's obsesssiveness is completely ignored or forgotten:-)) I think her behavior yesterday and the last few episodes was shocking! PLEASE - I am NOTTTTTT supporting Varsha or her abortion - she is a first class jerk but Bhavna was plain disgusting. First her wanting a POTA - big deal, when I hear a WOMAN say that any resepct I have for them is wiped out, sorry. Then forcefully taking or trying to take Varsha to a Gyno. What nonsense. She has every right to request for a GRANDCHILD (Not Grandson) but no right to force it down their throats. And her main reason for worrying about this is because people are talking - she is more worried about people and society commenting. Disgusting is a mild word for her. 😡Wonder what I would have done if my MIL was like that.😃 And the way she demanded about wanting a Grandson, like you can buy him from a market! And last but not the least her telling Satish that he should remarry. OK, OK, that was a slip of tongue but hey she is an adult, and not a very young one at that - where is her control of speech and tongue?! She has every right to be upset at Satish and varsha for hiding the truth but she is plain obsessed - a complete psycho. Sorry, just IMHO.

I agree with everything you have been saying on this.. Except one thing, versha is not first class jerk. I don't support her abortion but she not jerk. Bhavana her sooooooo much she went and had the abortion.. Even Bhavana's relatives were versha for working during pregnancy. It was non of their business. Bhavana pushed varsha to the edge... She went and talked to satish before she went for abortion.. I know the way she barged into the meeting was very very wrong but she did tell him.. Satish was already fed up with fights between versha and his mom.. in the heat of the moment he said go do what you want. My point is if bhavan hasn't bugged her so much versha wouldn't had an abortion. Again saying versha is correct here....
Right from the beginning bhavana never cared and supported versha.. Even then versha brought them back home to live to gether... If she didn't do that versha and satish would have been very happy. Bhavana is very wrong here.. I feel bad very bad for Satish. he should take versha go live some place happily....

Originally posted by: karsri

I agree with everything you have been saying on this.. Except one thing, versha is not first class jerk. I don't support her abortion but she not jerk. Bhavana her sooooooo much she went and had the abortion.. Even Bhavana's relatives were versha for working during pregnancy. It was non of their business. Bhavana pushed varsha to the edge... She went and talked to satish before she went for abortion.. I know the way she barged into the meeting was very very wrong but she did tell him.. Satish was already fed up with fights between versha and his mom.. in the heat of the moment he said go do what you want. My point is if bhavan hasn't bugged her so much versha wouldn't had an abortion. Again saying versha is correct here....
Right from the beginning bhavana never cared and supported versha.. Even then versha brought them back home to live to gether... If she didn't do that versha and satish would have been very happy. Bhavana is very wrong here.. I feel bad very bad for Satish. he should take versha go live some place happily....

varsha has always been a whimsical character ..... it takes no time for her to switch her state of mind

Originally posted by: prasad1991

varsha has always been a whimsical character ..... it takes no time for her to switch her state of mind

manav saved varsha from ashwin ..... helped her so much in the wedding time ..... but varsha took no time in bouncing on him ..... she called him chor ,,, waiter ,,,,, then removed his aukaad etc etc

now vaishu was staying at manav's home ..... manav's character got spoilt .... 1 fresh new stigma was put on him .... yet he didnt speak anything

varsha took vaishu to the police station ..... she didnt even feel to take armaan's opinion about it inspit of armaan doing so much for them .......... forget about opinion ........ she didnt even think it necessary to inform them

this shows she is a highly rang badlu girgit ....... she is a perfect chameleon

i'm not at all against adoption ...... but nobody can ever say when varsha's colours will again change & she again becomes the previous only career oriented woman who didnt care about any relations

there have been times when she hasnt cared a damn about her parents ,,, her didi-jiju ,,,,, & even her husband

so later on if she behaves in similar way with the adopted child & then if that child's life is spoilt then who will be responsible

We girls really have a problem with everything, dont we? Abusing by MIL like Savita is 100% wrong, not calling out mistakes and correcting you is also wrong like Sulochana does with Manjusha; but taking extra care of a DIL because she is pregnant is wrong? I dont think so. Bhavna did not push Varsha to the edge---really, so what do you guys think elders should do when a daughter/DIL is pregnant? Remember this is in a typical Indian household and Varsha had brought back her in-laws to live with her and Satish. So what should Bhavna had done when she found out her DIL was pregnant---be like an acquaintance and let Varsha do whatever she wants? Varsha had a wonderful husband and understanding in-laws. Even her MIL had become repentant and kinder after knowing the truth about Avinash. So Varsha, who did not bother to work till then, suddenly wanted to work when she found out she was pregnant and could not handle that her baby was given more importance than her? Really, is this some competition between her and her unborn child? I'm all for being independent and career oriented, I am myself that way, but forgive me, I will not accept that Bhavna pushed Varsha into getting an abortion. Varsha did that to herself in a hurry and on a whim, without even consulting her husband who had equal rights on the unborn baby. Yes, she repented, but the damage is done isnt it? And it's not just her that has to suffer the consequences, it's the whole family. Of course, Satish loves Varsha with all her faults and accepts her inspite of her many, many "mistakes", why should Bhavna do it? And doesnt Bhavna have the right to take some time to realize the situation? So, I will not blame Bhavna yet.

That said, I did not like that she wanted a grandchild for society's sake or that she emphasized on a pota. Still, I think that Bhavna would celebrate the birth of a girl as much as a boy, and that the "pota" was a way of speaking rather than something extreme like "girl infanticide" or asking to abort if the sonography showed up it was a girl. Also, I think she wants a grandchild to play with for her own sake, I think at that age and when children get married, everybody looks forward to being a grandparent. So while she may want Varsha and Satish to have a baby immediately for society's sake, I think she would love it and pamper it because she loves her grandchild and not as a show for society. I'm assuming this because so far, she has been shown as a sensible person, even during Avinash times, she knew Avinash much longer than she knew Varsha so it was understandable she believed Avinash over Varsha. However, If Bhavna does something like trying to get Satish remarried without his will though, then she would be totally wrong.

Bhavna always wanted a DIL like Archana , docile, homely, quiet kind and not a career oriented opinionated Varsha, even after Archana's divorce she wanted to make her DIL but was unsuccessful due to Archana's undying love for Manav and Satish's new found love for Varsha, she made no bones about the fact taht Varsha is not the kind of DIL she wanted. But unfortunately she had to relent and halfheartedly agree to the alliance. Yes Varsha did commit her share of mistakes like hiding Ashwin's reality and aborting her child, but she seems to be repenting and deserves a 2nd chance which Satish has given her. If Bhavna keeps infuriating her with her nagging demands asking her to provide something which is not in her hands then she's bound to get annoyed and hurt. If Bhavna is depressed then so is Varsha she realises the enormity of her situation and the gloom reality that she'll never be a mother again hence she wants to adopt and give a good life and love to a kid which I think is praiseworthy. Bhavna on the other hand keeps cribbing all the time, both the women are very diff in nature and hence the ongoing friction, I guess both need to understand each others perspective and respect one another.

Originally posted by: piya_10

Bhavna always wanted a DIL like Archana , docile, homely, quiet kind and not a career oriented opinionated Varsha, even after Archana's divorce she wanted to make her DIL but was unsuccessful due to Archana's undying love for Manav and Satish's new found love for Varsha, she made no bones about the fact taht Varsha is not the kind of DIL she wanted. But unfortunately she had to relent and halfheartedly agree to the alliance. Yes Varsha did commit her share of mistakes like hiding Ashwin's reality and aborting her child, but she seems to be repenting and deserves a 2nd chance which Satish has given her. If Bhavna keeps infuriating her with her nagging demands asking her to provide something which is not in her hands then she's bound to get annoyed and hurt. If Bhavna is depressed then so is Varsha she realises the enormity of her situation and the gloom reality that she'll never be a mother again hence she wants to adopt and give a good life and love to a kid which I think is praiseworthy. Bhavna on the other hand keeps cribbing all the time, both the women are very diff in nature and hence the ongoing friction, I guess both need to understand each others perspective and respect one another.

Originally posted by: xyzzee

Could not agree with you more. Agree 200%. Once again I do not want to go on like a broken record which I am sure I have been doing with Bhavna's behaviour - why I don't agree with her (I honestly don't believe Bhavna was behaving in a caring fashion with Varsha in the last few episodes at all, sorry I beg to differ with someone else who has said that). I would hate to be treated that way. But that's just my opinion. But then I don't seem to be clear in getting my messages across so I will leave it at that. Each to his or her own. Else I end up repeating myself more than needed.

Yes, Varsha was dead wrong initially but I stand by what someone else said - Bhavna did push Varsha to the edge and believe me if I had a MIL who behaved like that I may have had a nervous breakdown too - yeah I would not have thoughtlessly gone and aborted the child but h*ll no, I would not have taken this treatment lying down. No way.

Also, I do not agree with Bhavna's dictatorial behavior when Varsha and Satish suggested adoption.

Adoption is a very good option, and will give a needy child the chance at a good life. But Bhavna is still not wrong, yet. In this show, the CVs keep dragging a track for months together or show too many developments too fast. Bhavna has just found out Varsha can't conceive, Varsha and Satish have known for sometime and have come to terms with it. And then immediately, they're telling her we want to adopt. Give her some time to accept that she cant be a grandmother, will you? And again, this is a joint household where Bhavna and her husband are living together with Satish-Varsha. So obviously, their wishes should be taken into account if they want to continue living together. Imagine they adopt a child and the grandmother is hostile or indifferent towards the child, wouldn't that be bad for everybody concerned. Aborting, adopting, even planning to extend a family are serious decisions that cannot be taken whimsically and all parties concerned should be on the same page. Because it is a whole family that is involved here, agreed that it is finally Satish-Varsha's decision, but since they're living with parents their wishes also need to be acknowledged. It is not as simple as saying "I didn't want a child then so I aborted and I want now so I'll adopt" Doesn't work that way peops.

Sowmya I wrote the same...Varsha goes from one extreme to other..