Kool's Commentary : Slap Special - Page 6

Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000

So true varsha. She can take decision on HER behalf only ..........even Manohar's decision needs to be evaluated independently ...he has independent relation with Archna as an offspring . The sisters have to decide for themselves .

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Manju will now make Sulo hATE Archu by filling ears

Originally posted by: commentator

Some observations on slapping and sanskars:

Perhaps they - or the CVs - need to be told that it isn't right to slap adult offspring. This isn't just a "borrowed"/ "western"/ "rights" issue; you hear parents even in all sorts of otherwise completely regressive Hindi films commenting critically on javaan beti/bete pe haath utthana. Children are held back from responding in kind by the reverence they are taught to feel for their elders; those elders must, in their turn, respect these sentiments, and, after a point (certainly 28/30 years is past that point) treat them as equals in terms of behavioural codes if not in wisdom. In any case, slapping is a knee-jerk reaction that is almost always counterproductive.

If Savita's making comments about the K girls' sanskars, I don't think we need to endorse her harangue. Most of the sanskars dinned into women about how they must behave, particularly with their inlaws, are meant to make them timid, pliable, and obedient, and enforce the undemanding and unpaid drudgery that wifehood and motherhood can bring. (Yes, I know they can also be fulfilling roles, don't start jumping, all you wives and mothers; you all know that marriage involves years of slave labour too!) There's nothing intrinsically virtuous about staying on at one's in-law's place if one is feeling humiliated or unloved. It is in the nature of things for humans to return to the parental fold in times of stress or emotional need; that a daughter-in-law "shouldn't" do so, and should, instead, continue to stay on surrounded by hostile or unsympathetic people when she most feels the need for her blood relatives, is just one more unequal patriarchal stricture that aims at quelling female dissent and female reliance on support systems outside the marital home. Of course, one may distinguish between reasonable and unreasonable returns to the mayka, but disapproving of it in blanket terms is playing into the hands of patriarchy. As is commending Vandu's values in silently enduring sexual or psychological abuse. Though I do fully agree that these are, unfortunately, probably the values most evident in the milieu that PR is located in.

C

Originally posted by: Tanyaz

Kool, did you see how angry jaywant was...what do you think he will do ...I noticed that he was extremely angry with Archana and was almost acting like a jilted lover ...

i don't think he will let her go easy ...he is coming after I think ...not so much Manav but he is coming after Archu ...

Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000

U saw the movie INDECENT PROPOSAL ? THATS what he will do . He will reduce Manav to such a state [ put him in wheelchair by supari to a truck] or something and then offer to help Archu if she SLEEPS with him . Needing money for Manavs opration , Archu will agree as both BILS will be puppets in his hands somehow by then . Mark my words .He is BADDDDDDD NEWS and she shud be scared of him .