Kool's Commentary : 2 April PR - Page 24

dedicated to tanya and gauri
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vVNQv3hcQfE

The divorce date will not be fixed the next day Archu leaves the house...it'll come sometime later.

Well Sid , me and GM will only believethat the divorce is not happening when we will hear it from Manav himself and also if he manages to convince Archana as well. I mean after all that has happened , I think she will be a little shocked if he suddenly makes a confession and says that he doen't want the divorce .

Thanks fifi😆😆...but we r nt goin to..

I like archana's attitude! she is doing everything right.

haha Fifi ,very funny .....😆

Originally posted by: stillhopeful

I was thinking about this and what was said made sense initially but then I took a different view point which I think is the viewpoint of the character Manav.

Manav may be from the younger generation but his behaviour and thinking is very old school (maybe because he acted as the head of the house so early on in his youth). He is surrounded by housewives in his community and his family and friend circle. This role of the women is more familiar to him than that of a career woman. He does not see this as being an injustice to her but just a way of life. I do not think he intentionally expects his wife to be a bread winner. That would be a blow to his own ability to support her financially (which he as a husband would take pride in doing).

I think seeing her as a career woman might also be intimidating for him (knowingly or unknowingly). He wants to take care of his wife, protect her and provide for (outside of the Shravani element), anything else would be foreign to him. I therefore cannot think negatively about his inaction in this area.

My own experience living among lower middle class families, is that many a times (not always and definitely not if both the girl's parents are educated themselves) a girl is given a higher education so that she can find an equally or better educated husband. End of story. The intent is not the girl's professional development but, and I hate to say this, marriageable prospects. Most girls are not expected to use that education as a career advantage after marriage, unless they have their husband's or his family's blessings in this regard or their financial situation makes this a necessary option. In those instances, it is quite likely the girl will have a job not a career.

I knew several girls from lower middle class families who were fortunate enough to find progressive sasural's that were pleased with their education and their careers. But I noticed that, in middle class Indian society, this was the exception not the norm. Again, I could be wrong, I have been out of India for the last 12 years. Not sure how much has changed since then.

Originally posted by: gaurimisha

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Very well said.This is exactly what happens in most middle class families.

I just get a feeling this garage thing coming up,manav will gradually understand a career woman in a different light....the creatives can actually send across a good message to the middle class viewers effectively,how education and job should nt be restricted to marriage proposals only.

Life is so uncertain and jobs are more so..if two people work ,atleast the chances of bankruptcy will be less

Thanks guys. liked that you liked what I wrote.

gauri, you are so correct. it is only whenthe chips are down does one really realize their partners worth, financial, emotional and mental. i hope the cv's do give this message.

I know that Manav will finally realize her ability to assist him financially and not just emotionally. but I don't think this realzation will come immediately to him. he still relies on the men in his family and tarun for htis kind of support. he relies on her for emotional support (remember his convo with tarun on the balcony?? even if she doesn't do anything her words strengthen him)

I think she will need to step away from the sideline on the garage issue and work with him and her legal counsel. i think the next 5 days will help her do so with satish or vinod's help. very curious though that this did not come up at the mortage verification time.they usually check title, liens and encumbrances

very curious thought that this did not come up athe mortage verification time.they usually check title, liens and encumbrances @stillhopeful:

Originally posted by: gaurimisha

very curious thought that this did not come up athe mortage verification time.they usually check title, liens and encumbrances

@stillhopeful:

What shud I call u?

Creatives leave loose ends...did u see how easily they ended up breaking the FD...shravani's FD broken without her knowledge...get a life.

This time,particularly after the garage prob,if Archu says she'll work,Manav may not disagree...even if he does,she can explain it to him...but for all this to come,first they need to tackle the divorce thing😃

pls. call me hope. short and simple.

I totally agree in their haste to progress the story they miss some key links and facts.

I do not think manav will ever stop her from working but I think he will never suggest it.

he is not backward or chauvinistic just traditional.