PR Crazy Comments Corner - Page 39

He didn't just have stammering problem , he was also very hyper active and no , I was not feeding him sweets .....he was just , my God ..all over the place 😆 and these people used to behave as if he was ....oh forget it ...

But he has calmed down so much , academically I had to work a lot with him because of his attention but now he works very well on his own .

he looks like a copy of a young Ranbir kapoor ...😆

Only as far as 3 days ago , I had to call the school and report 2 boys who called at my house and were making fun of my son's stammering .

It's a starnge world out there my dear . By the way the boys were desis and I had invited them home 3 times and made a table full of snacks and they spend the whole day at my house and then they do this ....

So what shud I do , u tell me NOT to hit them back and if i tell ADULTS they r UNfair .....at least My American friends parents r fair most of the time and pull up their children

I had no answer to his question and thats when I pulled out . I dont get that thrilled when i encounter desis anymore ..........I get thrilled when I meet a nice INDIVIDUAl , be it any nationality or caste . My former innocence of wanting to hobnob with APNE DESI from our Land In this US has totally GONE and fyi I am at PEACE .

I can't believe people can be cruel enough to let their kids get away with this. I agree with Kool when she says that whatever their other parenting faults may be, Americans definitely bring up their young ones to be considerate of any kind of physical disorder or disability. Children will be children so I'm sure their kids too can be as horrid as others on occasion, but the message at home that sharply pulls them up when they do this is usually quite clear.

On snobbishness and the flashing of money: the problem with a majority of desis here as I see it - and this must be the case with immigrants of other nationalities too - is that it's very hard to have to deal with being a) brown and (as is usually the case in the beginning) b) poor and c) speaking with an Indian accent no matter how educated or upper class in a country where the majority of people don't remember that the US was also once a British colony and that English is an international language with many kinds of accents, of which the American accent is merely one. It's horrible to be talked down to by someone who you know couldn't be your intellectual equal even if he turned himself inside out. This globalizing world recognizes money, skin colour, physical good looks, youth (or the appearance of it), and speech accents, in that order of priority. Most desi immigrants are on the wrong side of two of these parameters(skin colour and accent) to start with, and as they spend more and more time here, looks (if they were there to begin with) and youth too go away. What's left then, that desis can contend with, and that'll make them feel good about themselves even as they grow older.... money. So that's what a lot of them go for and that's what makes them drive their kids to better schools and colleges, because they're certain that a decent education will make their kids more equal if not completely equal. It's rough........ I don't feel like I must make a lot of money - and nobody in my profession ever does! but we're always happy telling ourselves so what if we have no money we're smarter than others 😆 - but when I think about it I almost understand why it's so important and reassuring to be affluent when one is away from one's cultural and racial comfort zone.

This is in no way to justify or pardon anyone who's been cruel to your son, Tanya, or your daughter Kool. That is atrocious behaviour and you'd be perfectly justified to complain if possible if you think it'll do any good, or to withdraw from the society of such people if they're too far gone to change. Just got carried away on that other train of thought......

I still love my roots , sure you do as well.....

But I have become different as you said ...it's Ok .

As long as our kids are happy . And we are happy too , aren't we ??Who has time for these loosers anyway .

Look how much fun we have here every day ....😉

In countries or cultures like India where matchmaking is the norm, people are very aware of the pros and cons of arranged marriages. One of the strongest reasons for arranged marriages is finding a partner who is compatible ethnically, religiously, socially and culturally.

I also think that arranged marriages tend to have a much lower divorce rate than marriages based on romantic love. There are several reasons for this, including the cultural compatibility. For one thing, cultures that practice arranged marriages are often very close-knit, and tend to provide individuals and families within their system with more support

For another thing, when marriages are arranged, great effort is made to pair up couples with similar social standing and financial status, so these couples may have fewer reasons to argue than romantically paired couples. Finally, many couples who had arranged marriages, like myself, say that love grows over time and stems from meeting the challenges that any married couple faces together.

I still remember, even though I was six at the time, when we moved to our current location I was actually excited that there would be more desi kids in this new city. Boy was that excitement futile. From the very beginning I was never included in anything, given these weird looks by not only the other kids but their parents as well, and I still don't know why! (Aside from my parents divorce a few years ago, there has been nothing "different" about our family) Generally kids from other ethnicities have been really friendly and their parents are always very nice and rarely ask any personal questions, but these gossiping desi aunties never failed to find a flaw in me or my family. Its as if there is this big clique of aunties, and if you're not apart of it or one of their children, then forget about ever being included in anything. I'm happy my mother isn't friends with those ladies and didn't sell out to their materialistic demands. I don't remember when, but one fine day I too finally felt, THAT'S IT. I decided to be happy with my friends/family and not bother with the pettiness of a majority of the desi crowd, and it has worked amazingly well thus far. There are some desi parents (and consequently their children) who are really polite and not judgemental at all, but they are very few in number. How sad.

On a more positive note (although this is no excuse for bullying or rude behavior), being exposed to the ugly side of people so early on has made me quite resilient.

Hopefully Tanya di and Koolsadhu, you and your children will both meet many nicer and more tolerant people than those that you have had to deal with and these past experiences will only make you and your children stronger.

@ TBizzle......

Bewaare, we're all desi aunties tooooo! 😊

Love the new profile pic TB; is it from that old dance number with the crescent moon in the background?