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But I don't want to see them only take sufferings ...I want to see them as having fun as well and having a good life too ..maybe that doesn't see that good so ...

It really is strange how this whole mentality works .

I actually was believeing it Kool . I owe you an apology Kool ...

In some things I am good but definitely some parts of my brians are still little slow ....😆 . But now that I have given up on manav Deshmukh you guys are telling me again to have failth that he will apologise and all that .

I will not go back so quickly on that . So far he is showing nothing as yet to prove that he too is commited to his rishta with archana . his only commitment is with Shravani and his mother ......

When he shows signs , strong signs this time ...I will also be happy and start believing in him again .

Yaar , he doesn't even say thank you to her after she keeps showring favours on him one after another ....keeps acting like his knight in shining armour .

I know Ali, he is punishing himself too but he is messing up the situation very badly . Now I think it has gone out of control for him to fix ....

As Kool says , the only force that can fix it is bappa .

@ Tanyaz:

My attention was caught when you said you want your sons to occasionally see how people dress / eat etc. on the subcontinent.

There's a lot of papers and books out there on the subject of how diasporic parents use Bollywood and Indian TV serials to keep their kids connected with 'home' culture. This does have its good and bad points, you know. On the one hand I know young girls who learn classical Indian dance forms while going to school and college in the US because they've grown up watching their parents get excited over such dances both in Indian films as well as out of them, particularly South Indian parents. There are also, of course, all sorts of "experts" in the US who cash in and teach "Bollywood dancing" - whatever mish-mash that implies - so of course such dance as Indian cinema inspires abroad is not qualitatively homogenous. But other than dance, studies show that parents think Bollywood is a good way to keep children connected with desi values; now this is a really double-edged sword because while some values that get questionably labelled desi (respect for older people, religious faith, simplicity, chastity.... as if none of these exists outside the subcontinent!) can be useful in daily life, all sorts of other far less innocuous values get imparted, probably the most dangerous amongst them being those related to gender inequality. The film I mentioned a couple of days back, Dilwale Dulhaniya Le Jayenge, was a case in point. There was a reason it fared so well at the box office globally: NRI parents LOVED it because its message was that a) real love and real romance are to be found with partners of desi origin, b) a real hero will only marry a girl not when she agrees to love and marry him but when her father agrees to her doing so, and c) girls shouldn't marry except with their parents' permission, specifically that of the father. The last scene in which the father lets go of the girl's hand which is then clasped by the hero is horribly telling. Ownership of the girl gets symbolically transferred from father to lover/ husband: one as the consenting/approving older male authority, and the other as her new young male guardian.

So unless you want your sons to turn into Manav, or Vinod, or Ajit, or even Damodar (!) be careful of what you let them see!

C

In fact I think Pavitra Rishta is putting them off more this culture then understanding it .

I guess I have to try harder , through books and other cultural events etc .

C. I have a huge problem.... I can't stand fake people who are like all the time putting themselves up and putting you down .I find that a lot in our desi crowd .

My youngest son has problems with hsi communication skills ...he stammers a lot and he is undergoing speech therapy right now ...I must say has improved considerably in the last 2 years . You won't believe it but these guys , they don't even spare the child .

Maybe I have become a bit of a recluse due to these reasons but I know what you are trying to say ...these shows and these movies just do not give the real picture .

Thanks again for bringing this to my notice ...I will think about this and see if I can come up with something that should help .

Thanks again for your concern for my family .

OK, am I hearing you correctly, you're saying there are people who publicly make fun of his stammer?

C

Part of me tells me it happens all the time everywhere in the world and for your childs sake u must be there in the arena pushing and billowing thru the storm but I decided no coz personally I cannot relate to it ....I zone out . I decided instead to put my children in various activities , focus on them learning skills rather than these matlabi friendships in US . They honest;ly yield NOTHINg . Its ok if Im alone , I have my books which never let me miss anyone and lots of real friends elsewhere .

Does ur son stutter in any particular weather more ..l;ike winter ? Involve him in activities that he loves wholeheartedly and speech therapist will helpo him overcome it .

Love you guys for your concern ...