Minnie's Father, From Ashok to HS - Page 21

Originally posted by: AreYaar

I agree. Mickey has been crass with his friends but I still didn’t think it made sense for him to be that way with HS. That scene definitely felt gimmicky.

Lol yes, this show has spoilt us indeed and we do expect a lot more in terms of nuance and character consistency behind maintained.

I also think guys like Mickey needs to be kept in check where people like HS are concerned. I think HS realized he was getting cocky, hence the comment he made before going back to Babita.

Originally posted by: inlieu

@bold, exactly. I'm sorry to sound like a broken record, but that's why she needs HS and even NB more than ever. She needs to realize that she needs to find a balance. I don't think she gets it yet.

She needs them but she won’t go seeking them. They have to perceive what’s going on with her, reach out to her and give her some perspective....or left to her own devices, she will continue thinking and doing what she is currently doing 🤷‍♀️

Originally posted by: tk2015

It's so easy to find a solution to a problem. It's very difficult to work towards it. I think this is another thing Mini deals with and has yet to learn.

People say she has to stop being a mother. Yeah, she wants to. Why else was she so happy during the marriage? She wants her mother's happiness but a part of it was because she was going to finally have someone sharing this relationship with her.

From the very first episode we've seen her shoulder Babita's responsibility. It hasn't changed because she hasn't got a chance to change it. She wanted to hand off that responsibility to Ashok but that never happened.

And no, I'm not saying she has been Babes' mother since she was born. I mean she feels a sense of responsibility to shield her mother from people. Everyone with a naive mother will relate to this. It's just that this emotion has increased multifold because of the scars Ashok gave them.

Now with this marriage, it'll change slowly but everything has just gone haywire for now.

Totally agree. I don't there's a switch on or off type of solution for this. It needs time and in some ways Minnie is also impatient as in she wants things to fit neatly and find a quick resolution. I understand that it comes from wanting her mother to be settled in properly and seeing her project come to fruition regarding giving her mother wings. What she doesn't quite see (and I don't blame her for it, since she is a kid after all) is that her mother is like a newly hatched bird who has wings but needs a bit of time to figure out how to fly and might even fall out of the nest in the process. The mama bird has to keep watch for a bit longer for a smooth transition.

She can't do a mother-daan to HS and then step back and I think she is starting to realize that now.

Don't know if it makes sense.

Originally posted by: inlieu

I also think all three of them need to stop over thinking things. Just feel, just let things flow a bit.

Too much analysis can spoil things as well.

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As they say....Chinta chitaa samaan.

Yes, we all overthink and complicate things sometimes...the only way to remedy that is through communication.

People who feel too much also tend to think too much. Side effect of being a very sensitive person.

Originally posted by: AreYaar

Bang on! 👏🏻👏🏻

No one said that she’s been Babes’s mother since she was born. But she HAS shouldered her responsibility for a lot of her young life so she continues to feel responsible since her mother IS naïve and hapless even now in many ways.

Mini has tried a zillion different ways to empower Babita and make her independent....this marriage is a chance at happiness that she wants for her mother.

But the problem is that neither Babita nor HS make her feel confident right now that they will manage it on their own. She knows Babita’s tendencies to shift blame and play victim. She can see HS’s confidence all shaken. So she doesn’t feel like she can let them be....she feels the need to step in when she sees them faltering.

Unless HS-Babita handle their own equation maturely, a kid like Mini who’s always been intelligent and perceptive will invariably try to help. They need to account for her perceptions and her personality in this marriage too.

Yes, even the other day she joking said 'Meri buddhu Babes'. It was lighthearted but under the surface that's how Minnie feels, that Babita is still too naive and unprepared to face the world completely by herself.

I agree that seeing HS lose his confidence made her feel insecure about leaving both of them to their devices. I hope she also reflects on the part she played in terms of the way the wedding happened.

Originally posted by: AreYaar

Bang on! 👏🏻👏🏻

No one said that she’s been Babes’s mother since she was born. But she HAS shouldered her responsibility for a lot of her young life so she continues to feel responsible since her mother IS naïve and hapless even now in many ways.

Mini has tried a zillion different ways to empower Babita and make her independent....this marriage is a chance at happiness that she wants for her mother.

But the problem is that neither Babita nor HS make her feel confident right now that they will manage it on their own. She knows Babita’s tendencies to shift blame and play victim. She can see HS’s confidence all shaken. So she doesn’t feel like she can let them be....she feels the need to step in when she sees them faltering.

Unless HS-Babita handle their own equation maturely, a kid like Mini who’s always been intelligent and perceptive will invariably try to help. They need to account for her perceptions and her personality in this marriage too.

Classis example was the honeymoon fight. Mini knows how to get through to her mother. I doubt HS alone would've made that inroad or gauged Babes' real problem with sharing a room.

Mini had to step in because she knows her mother. That's it. Plain and simple. HS would need Mini's help on some days regarding Babita much like he needs B's help to get through to M.

Once he gets a little more experience with both of them, I'm sure he too will learn to handle these relationships properly. Then Mini might be able to back off.

Originally posted by: AreYaar

She needs them but she won’t go seeking them. They have to perceive what’s going on with her, reach out to her and give her some perspective....or left to her own devices, she will continue thinking and doing what she is currently doing 🤷‍♀️

She used to go to HS proactively in the past but doesn't seem to want to reach out to him anymore, given their current state. I am counting on NB but who knows if she will step in like she used to in the past.

Preet and Mickey give her moral support but they do not have the experience or wisdom to guide her the way she needs to be.

Originally posted by: inlieu

This HS with low confidence is so strange to see and his lack of confidence is also affecting Minnie's confidence.

On a lighter note, CVS know HS - Minnie have this affect on us that we will tolerate all the nonsense they show for the sake of seeing them together again. So we get their scenes in ration. Only one or two scenes per week. 😆

Originally posted by: AreYaar

😆😆

As they say....Chinta chitaa samaan.

Yes, we all overthink and complicate things sometimes...the only way to remedy that is through communication.

People who feel too much also tend to think too much. Side effect of being a very sensitive person.

Exactly. I am dying for some lighthearted fun moments now. PLEASE!

Originally posted by: Jiarao

Their souls are interwoven.So the effect.

On a lighter note, CVS know HS - Minnie have this affect on us that we will tolerate all the nonsense they show for the sake of seeing them together again. So we get their scenes in ration. Only one or two scenes per week. 😆

LOL

Carrot and stick situtation