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Rush2220

@Rush2220

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Posted: 13 years ago

#41

Originally posted by: neeme
@shweta_r ,adohare ,Shehnaz.K ,sarakvp,Rush2220, Nice Posts By u Guys👏👏... And i agree with u all too..and I knw That CV is trying too show that..But CV is not gud to explain anythng Like u guys are doing.they always come with any track with so many loopholes.. But Still i say this could be a 2nd Step... First CV should Show that Siddhi Stops crying all the time and looking so sad.. and then Stop trying to stop anand to do anythng which is wrong according to him for now..and same in her behaviour..the way she angrly stops him..thats what make him angry and he don't like her.. first she need to work on all that..then Looks... Just in the strarting Focus on look is not a Gud Message.. everythng have gud and bad aspects and this one as wel...

Completely agree, like I said before she has not been there for 9 yrs and she cant suddenly come and start showing her "haq' on the child. no child will accept it, arre child chodo as an adult I will not accept it.😆 pehle you have to win him over with love, affection and most importantly trying to understand him, his likes and dislikes etc. chalo look badla ab hope attitude towards the boy will change too but CVs se zayada maat expect karo😉

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Mages

@Mages

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Posted: 13 years ago

#42

Originally posted by: neeme
@Blue, Islam Does'n allow To look Beautifull Infront Of Non-Mehram Men... Non Mehram means any man other than Father, Son, Father in law, Husband and Brother.. In facts there are limits to look beautifull infront of Father, father in law, Brother and son...
And Hair Cut is Not allowed In islam at all for women .and for fashion purpose no ways at all..Do Not say Like this That hair cut is allowed in any religion when u don't knw abt Any religion... It can be cause of religious fight...

AND i was Not saying this For Siddhi.. this Topic is not for Siddhi at all...This Is abt CV that what they are showing... and We was discussing in general abt Enviornment so i give example in that scenerio...It was not related with Siddhi at all...

We are reacting on Siddhi???? I mentioned siddhi is doing wrong in my main post ???? We are Discussing Abt CV... and The Character Siddhi is doing all this so for the topic we can use her name.. There is No Restriction abt that... And Please do not Try to change the Topic in Kunal and siddhi fans... And If AD ask kunal for make over then that is another thing.. AC did not ask from siddhi to change her look for him...Its Siddhi own thinking and Abhay's suggestion..

And if AC ask From kunal for makeover..then thats not for TARBEAT purpose...

and we are not comparing AC and AD.. For explaination giving example does'n mean we are comparing...

Well, That is not the topic... I opend that Topic To Discuss abt CV... and Not Only me So many other members are saying that Showing a Modern Mother just bcz her child will start loving her is not so Gud Idea... and we have Rite to speak or say what we think...

I m not saying anythng against Siddhi... I m Sameer soni fan..but It does'n mean i start speaking Against anyother character.. I m mature enough to understand that Siddhi or Kunal or anyone else in the show r just Characters only...and if someone is using any character name just to express their feelings or trying to explain what his/her meaning to say..then it does'n mean he/she is against that character or their intention are to speak against that character...

@ALL, So many Members tries to explain that Siddhi'e new step is Just a Step to change her child..I knw that.. and i understand itt too... But CV is not explaining anythng like U Guys... So many members are liking itt and so many are not..everythng have their own Thinking...then can speak what they want to speak.. Its Not abt Kunal and Siddhi fans ,,,

well here is not abt being a SS or KN fan...or kunal or siddhi fan...

here whether its right for siddhi to change her looks for AD for his demand as his mom needs to be in glamour...

well my POV i don't find it negative at all...to be honest...even i want my mom to be gorgeous and beautiful...whenever i go for a party with her...i always demand her to be beautiful...i want my mother to look at her best in the party...i don't find it wrong...it doesn't mean i have lost my respect for my mother...or i am ill-mannered...i am looking into only outer looks of my mom...

in tdys world...there are many kids like AD...here the makeover is not abt bringing negative msg...here the mother is trying to win her son's heart and siddhi is taking a baby step towards it...AD did not live with his mother...he has been brought up by people who known for richness...money...glamour...he doesn't recognise his mother...the worst part he doesn't know his mother's name...he neither could connect with his mother nor understand her...even siddhi could not handle him at the moment...the poor kid doesn't even know the meaning of what is mother...what is mother's love...here basically they are trying to show how siddhi reforms AD in her own way...and compromise a little for her son...so that she get acceptance from her son...the makeover is just to strike a chord with her son...to make friend with her son...once the chord is set in the right place...siddhi will bring AD in her own way...there is no need of abhay's help...

if AC doesn't demand such makeover to his mother...becos he doesn't believe in it...since his upbringing from his family has been a middle-class one...where one doesn't believe in looking beautiful...glamour...high class or rich...they are meant for simplicity...so AC would love his mother as what she is...simple and sweet...

the problem here is AC-AD are poles apart becos of their upbringing...AC is a simple boy with simple values...who doesn't believe in style statement...glamour...while AD is upbringing is from a rich family and they spoiled him with too much love...so he believes in all this style statement glamour...

the poor kid doesn't even sit with his mother and to have a talk...a chat...a emotional conversation becos he could not connect with her...so it s way to strike a chord with him...why can't parents listen to children...AD never ask for more...he wants his mother to be beautiful and glamour so that he is proud...just like kunu...AD is a complex character...its not easy to predict him...

even when siddhi was married to kunu...it was hard to please kunu...so siddhi had to suit herself according to his personality but never compromise with her principals...values and manners...thats what she is doing here to...suit herself for AD personality but never compromise her values...manners and principals

now for siddhi look...everyone has their own opinion...i can't change it...but for me i loved her look...it was so refreshing...i was so tired to watch her everyday with the same plain look and repeated saree...

by the way this black saree is also another recycled saree...it was worn by archana of pavitra rishta...🤣...BT will never change to show recycling sarees😆

but hats off to keerti for putting up the look with her beautiful smile...it covered everything...well its a party so OTT happens...even in real life for parties...marriage...birthdays...people does that OTT...some are in my house too...😆

well i think the jokers made it a fast-paced makeover...thats why one cannot connect or understand what they are trying to say...but i understand what they are trying to say...even i felt that they should create a emotional bond first b/w mother-son than the makeover...but what can we expect from the jokers...since now they have shown the other way round...we have to move on...since we all are waiting for leech exposure and SiNal re-union

well never meant to offend here...neither its abt kunal and siddhi...nor i felt this makeover make a negative impact...i only felt that siddhi is taking her baby step to understand AD so that she can reform him to a better person

Edited by Mages - 13 years ago

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Mages

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Posted: 13 years ago

#43

Originally posted by: Rush2220

Completely agree, like I said before she has not been there for 9 yrs and she cant suddenly come and start showing her "haq' on the child. no child will accept it, arre child chodo as an adult I will not accept it.😆 pehle you have to win him over with love, affection and most importantly trying to understand him, his likes and dislikes etc. chalo look badla ab hope attitude towards the boy will change too but CVs se zayada maat expect karo😉

thats what i am saying...you can't win him with strictness but i can't blame siddhi though...she is also a first time mother...she has no experience before...and such a young age she has lost a mother...so it bounds to happen...she needs to strike a chord first...but since they show it through a makeover...we should accept that and move on...becos this is not the end...there are more coming on our way...lets be patience and watch it...and don't find social message in this show...becos this show is meant for entertainment...if it really shows social message...leech would have been exposed in pre-leap itself...evil would not have won...SiNal would be happy together...

lets just enjoy the show...with awesome performance by SS and KN...they are the soul of Parichay even if the kids are around...

and by the way AD is just an excuse...this new look of siddhi was for kunu...not AD...😳

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bhavis

@bhavis

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Posted: 13 years ago

#44

Originally posted by: neeme
@Blue, Islam Does'n allow To look Beautifull Infront Of Non-Mehram Men... Non Mehram means any man other than Father, Son, Father in law, Husband and Brother.. In facts there are limits to look beautifull infront of Father, father in law, Brother and son...
And Hair Cut is Not allowed In islam at all for women .and for fashion purpose no ways at all..Do Not say Like this That hair cut is allowed in any religion when u don't knw abt Any religion... It can be cause of religious fight...

AND i was Not saying this For Siddhi.. this Topic is not for Siddhi at all...This Is abt CV that what they are showing... and We was discussing in general abt Enviornment so i give example in that scenerio...It was not related with Siddhi at all...

Neeme -

first of all i did not bring religion in the discussion at all. You started the discussion with religion. I was born in a Secular country and am living in a Secular country which respects views and ethics of other religion as much as their own. So please do not threaten me regarding starting of the religious war on this forum. If you read my first post no where i have brought religion in the picture. If you can not debate on the fair grounds then you should not but please do not put allegations on me on religious grounds and do not make this forum a place of fight on base of religion by your comments.

I think we are going away from the main topic and so i am not going to debate with you any further. Since debate should only be done with people who thinks on different line yet have same level of understanding

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adohare

@adohare

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Posted: 13 years ago

#45

yes mages you are right. Siddhi is taking a baby step to win her son. A son who don't want to see or stay with his mother. When she talk to play with him he totally deny. The child believe in outer look because he has seen this by birth he is brought up by sulekha and abhay. When siddhi will come close to her son then by her nature AD will understand that what are emotion and love by heart like his father kunal.

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Silambu

@Silambu

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Posted: 13 years ago

#46

Originally posted by: Rush2220

Every child and every situation is different and a parent has to deal with it accordingly. same formula can not be applied everywhere. Yes I agree that a parent should not have to change his/her appearance because the child feels they are not cool. BUT if a child is bought up with good values i dont think the child will ever demand/ask for such things. here the case is different AnandD is spoilt, bought up by the Diwan's, DOES not accept Siddhi, he does not know her at all. a 9 yr old kid is suddenly been told 'here, this is your mom and you have to like/love her.' He is not a robot, he will have his opinion and according to him she is not cool and acceptable So in this situation I don't think Sidhi is wrong. She did it to be first accepted by her kid who has not seen her. once she is accepted then only she can sudharo or bigado him.

So as per me in this situation I think it was an intelligent move by Siddhi. (i still dont like her look but that is a diff point😆)

Well said Rush. Spoken like a true mother. From the way you wrote, I trust you are a mother.

I agree that a parent does not have to accomodate to the wishes of the child by changing his/her look, that is in normal circumstances.

But the situation here is completely different and calls for a different alternative inorder to win the trust of the child who has no idea of a mother's love, let alone even knew that he had a mother.. This may not be the best approach but at this moment appears to be the most reasonable one for the time being till she gains and secures AD on her side.

What is sad here is, despite the fact the siddhi carried her babies in her womb, she never had them with her I think for even a day. She is totally loss in parenting and she has to learn from strangers from scratch how to be an easy going mum than a stricter parent.No doubt she has motherly instincts when it comes to the well being of her child. Protection, defending, disciplining, the basics, but she is going to need some help before applying all these . She needs to be accepted by AD and get him to be at ease and comfortable with her first , afterwhich, she can tackle his bad behaviour and guide him on the right path with proper manners and ethics.

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neeme

@neeme

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Posted: 13 years ago

#47

@BHAVI,where i threatended u?? Where i gve u any warning or report u or anytng like that?
I thought u r new to IF. Ur journey started on IF 4m Parichay forum.u was nt on IF before ths. I m nt sure.bt i guessed. And many times i saw two peoples who were discusing actuly left the discusion hapily bt other membr cames n make it a issue. So i just tries to told u. U got me wrong completly.
And i m DT membr. Then DT Members r also human. They hve rite to speak and show their feelings too.they r nt servents of the forum members who r here just to solve issues of forum membrs only. I have rite to speak what i feel 4 the show.

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neeme

@neeme

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Posted: 13 years ago

#48

Originally posted by: BHAVI1972

I think we are going away from the main topic and so i am not going to debate with you any further. Since debate should only be done with people who thinks on different line yet have same level of understanding

Now i can take ths wrong too.that u r trying to insult me.how can i thnk and how not. No one have rite to say anythng abt itt.

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jay_bpm

@jay_bpm

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Posted: 13 years ago

#49

Well I watched the episode again to better analyze whole scene.

I agree that at times parents do need to modify their ways to accommodate their kids and not just parents but anyone in general. So it was right for Siddhi to change her ways and I even welcome makeover; but once again it was not presented well.

Now I imagined makeover would come as first step of different approach from Siddhi's side. The whole idea of "cool Mom" and being raised in spoilt environment it makes sense that AD values artificiality of self rather than core characteristics. So Siddhi had to first mend her ways to go in that world. So the makeover could've taken place with right attitude from Siddhi's side as well. You know she could've presented herself as "yes I can do it if I want to" and "it's not big deal for me". SO that right attitude with makeover would be first step.

But we did not have that. Abhay said Siddhi need to change her self for AD as AD can't change to like Siddhi. It made it sound like Siddhi is not good enough for AD and she NEEDS to class up for AD. I know Abhay did say Siddhi need to change from being a strict school teacher and AD needs a friend but later he goes "cool Mom" of "cool dude". That didn't sound correct as it kind of made Siddhi lower class. So it's not Siddhi needed to class up to fit with AD; but she needed to show AD what Siddhi is capable of doing. Later the whole cutlery thing and all; well there was no need even for humor purpose. This thing about Siddhi needing to step up to high class and all was suppose to be Siddhi needing to step up to occasion, accept reality of her child and show what she can do.

So instead of showing confident and determined mother who is bringing change for sake of her child made was presented like a poor lost mother who doesn't know anything is a mercy of other's wish. It's just bad presentation. I personally do not think parents NEED to change their selves for kids; yes some modification in ways is certainly needed time to time, but not just for parents but anyone.

But we all know this makeover is for Kunal; AD is just an excuse. So take a chill pill guys.