Originally posted by: Feather11
Hi all I am a silent member and would continue to be one probably on this forum,I love all of your discussions and analysis and eagerly look forward to them.I am currently at my naani's place and couldn't help but share a personal story from my life which is kind of similar to dhara and her devars.
My naana has 6 brothers who are quite younger that him (the youngest one is closer to my naana children's age(my mom) than to his), although their parents are not physically weak or handicapped like Suman but my naana was the first person to settle properly in a big city and then took his brothers education and providing them with job on himself,so all his brothers have at some point of life stayed at my naani's place for education.The bond my naani and all her devar shared was very similar to that of dhara and her devars where she lovingly took care of them and fed them,she was more of mother figure, a guide to them.tne hi d they shared was extremely pure. Unlike dhara she has 4 kids of hers and took care of her devar as her own kids.
My naani was an extremely nice and caring lady and I have very fond memories of her, unfortunately she had had a brain haemmorage in 2007 and was in a vegetative state till her death in 2012.
When she had her haemmorage in 2007 at first nobody was sure of what had happened to her so they were thinking of shifting her to various hospitals but one call to everybody and her devars were present before 3 of her own kids and rushed to her care. They all were crying profusely and we're willing to go to any extent to cure her,frantically searching for places to admit her. Similar to raavi all the devrani too understood the devotion of the devars and we're attached to my naani and resorted to caregiving the minute they reached her place. Her situation detoriated and we got to know that she will be in a vegetative state till her last breath.The devars and devrani took turns to come to her place and taking care of her.She often used to soil her pants (which ofcourse wasn't her fault),had to be fed ,baths everything and the devars devranis did all that willingly without any malice. Due to various family and location issues my mother and her siblings's couldn't stay with her and used to attend her for 2 months at a time but the devars did wayyy more than what her kids did even though 3 of my naani's daughter's were married financially stable with kids.Even my naani's own siblings helped little
5 years later when she died all her devars and kids came to perform her rites.
One of her devars crying profusely said "bhouji kab chiye,oo toh maa chiye"(bhouji = bhabhi, translation: when was she a bhabhi she was always a mother) this btw is the bihari language angika.
And that's where this ends,At times I too get annoyed with the bhabhi jaap but then I remeber this and there is a sweet smile on my lips remembering that I have seen that exact pure and strong bond so closely.
Sorry for the long post!