Aulad(ARY) Sunita Marshall,Hassan,Hina j,Furqan q - Page 16

Originally posted by: dramebaaz.af

i am talking about pakistan itself not the west. pakistan has a growing nuclear family households too and i’m talking in general terms not the show. i didn’t watch all the episodes of the show so i won’t be a good judge of it but i did understand the general theme of the show and i disagree with the idea it promoted.

I too prefer nuclear family households when the parents have more than a child. But I wonder if parents can survive in their old age without one of their children taking care of them. 😕

What I liked about this show is that the children didn't discuss moving out from their parents' house. When you live in a joint family and suddenly want to move out, parents will be worried, coz they may think they made a mistake.. so discussing these matters will help. I faced this situation with my in laws when my husband and me moved out.. we had lots of discussions. His parents stayed angry for a long time, but after some time they started up worming to us again.

as for having children with the sole intention of them being good investments, yes it is selfish to think that. while i am sure parents love their children i fire amount, i think in general people should have children if they are ready to unconditionally love children and bring them up with good values instead of investing all their money on a lifestyle in hopes of their children returning that favor.

It isn't always easy to have many children , rise them well, and save money too. But it is a good idea, and I hope this drama teached parents too to save money and expect the worst from their children in future.

and i don’t mind anything you’re saying. this is a discussion post and we’re discussing opinions. ofc we can agree or disagree 😊

I enjoyed this discussion with you ..it made me see the other opinion too. And I too think that in many occasions parents were harsh with their children, like when they asked them to bear the expenses of their sister's marriage.😲 I mean such things don't happen all of sudden. Parents should've thought of the marriage of their daughter since years and do some arrangements, or at least told their boys that they need to think of their sister's marriage and help before.. not just ask them to do the arrangements when the marraige day is fixed.😕

Its absolutely not wrong for parents to have expectations from their children. Why else do they give birth and sped their whole life giving them a good upbringing? Who else can they look at for support in their old age if they cant expect from their own kids? Kisi aur ke bache to nahi aake support kareinge aapko na. That is the reason why people get married in the first place. To have an kids and an assurance that they wont be left alone in their tough times.

Why do people do jobs? So that they have enough money to support themselves when they retire. The same goes with getting pension.

Apart from financial support, there is emotional support too which one can only expect from their family members.

If children can expect their parents to take care of them when they are in need, why cant parents expect the same?

The same discussion was going on in some Facebook group that parents should not look at their children as investments and save up for themselves for their retirement but what these people don’t realise that parents spend selflessly on their children to the point that they spend their entire live savings on them and in their foolishness expect that these very children will support them in their old age but unfortunately children grow up with the thinking that we have our own family to feed and parents should not expect anything from us at all.

To be honest if parents thinking of their children as investments is selfishness than children thinking of their parents as financier to be disposed of in their old age is the same.