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When i first met Kabir he was annoyingly positive. He pushed himself on me (as an audience who loves to watch NAUC). My first reaction was he is too goofy. But then I realized that he is here to take Nisha out of a rut. He has made it a mission to get her to smile and that seems a noble cause because there was no benefit in it for him. He just wanted to see a fellow traveller let go of whatever burden it was she was carrying. I thought to give him a chance. I let him be a little goofy for the sake of Nisha.
Then they both got themselves into equal amount of trouble over another stranger. Though in NIsha and Kabir's shoes i would not have made those decisions but this showed how similar these two are in the way they think. I was surprised... here is male version of Nisha. How could i not like him just because he is a guy? Are guys expected naturally to be smarter, better decision makers, or more mature?...no... so if Nisha can be immature and I still like her for her vulnerabilities and all the goodness in her heart, then why not Kabir. And that was it... I decided this was a character I was going to like.
Then they parted ways and even while leaving Kabir did his last bit to erase any residual links that Nisha would have to him.. he truly said goodbye. And I watched with slighly stunned eyes (something similar to Nisha's) where I was really thinking "is this it?" "was he only here with us for such a short time?" "Am i never going to see him again?"
But Nisha and along with her we all moved on... and then realized it wasn't it. He has some karmic connection to the family and to Nisha (its not just Nisha tho, its the whole family). And again as an audience I welcomed the change. I even got a little excited at the prospects of having someone like Kabir in GH. The possibilities, the naughtiness, the jokes, the possible mending of situations... it was truly exciting to look forward to.
But then the whole marriage thingy happened. Again we saw a glimpse of how immature both Nisha and Kabir are... and in real life two immature people do not make a good family life together. Usually such marriages break into pieces really fast unless one or both decide to mature up faster than the rate that their relationship disintegrates. The whole contract marriage is beaten to death in Indian soaps and I hate watching it.
But here is what surprised me, Both Nisha and Kabir started maturing together. The little details given to their scenes... Like Kabir noticing Nisha's parents' financial tightness and refusing to take money from them... Instead of being a ghar-jamai like Sumit, them moving out even to a rented house...buying things together and decorating their new home together, Kabir doing a form of grahpravesh for Nisha, then cooking together... these are signs of accepting the relationship. Its a sign of learning to be an adult and taking responsibility for your own actions and decisions. Since then each day Kabir grown on me. And not as some whitewhashed perfect knight in a white horse who came to Nisha's rescue... but a simple, lovable guy who wants to remain happy and wants to see everyone around him happy but has his moments of disappointments (when his leg got injured), anger (with Sabu's son), and mistakes (with advice to Bunty), but he is above all...genuine. He clearly told Ramesh that he will go and beat up that guy again if the need be to get to the truth... he didn't pretend to hide his weakness, he accepted that it was wrong of him to tell Bunty those things.
Usually i've seen this to be the hardest thing in people, to own up to their mistakes. The fact that Kabir can live with the consequences of that, shows his growth as a character.
As for Nisha accusing him of being selfish... that was anger speaking... Nisha will regret what she said to him because TBH, he was right, he could have refused to support her when she declared to everyone that she will marry Kabir. His reason for supporting Nisha at that time and still finding a way to get out of the stickler was a solution for everyone...not just for himself. So calling him selfish was harsh.
And he is who he is, without need to show someone else in a bad light. Nisha or Viraj do not contribute to his character. They react to his attitude and he accepts theirs because he is very different. He absorbs the forces that come at him and turns it into something better before sending it back out again...this something not a lot of people are capable of doing. So he is truly unique in NAUC. Thats why he adds freshness to the show. I love the guy. 😳
Iss Pyaar Ko Kya Naam Doon
Jodha Akbar
