Originally posted by: Chocolatebond
@survival :May I know do people here watch the show for Neil or avNeil ?
The fact is this is avni's story Neil and his family came into main focus because Avni the female lead was married to Neil
Every NK fan watches the show for past one year for avNeil i.e for Aditi and Zain it's natural that any woman or man who comes between leads are chudail for viewers and fans moreover this is a fictional show with fictional character no Neil Khanna is in the world even Zain imam is not Neil Khanna in real life then why do people compare reel characters and reel scenarios with real life ?who is Mitali and why should we as a fan avNeil the main protagonists of the show will want them to move on with supporting characters ?talking about partiality atleast avni's supporters admit that she is wrong when she is wrong but Neil's fan never ever admit that he is wrong they just can't admit their ideal character is wrong why is that so 1001 justification theories are prepared to justify his actions even in jail track Avni suffered but still few people were like she was impulsive she ended up in jail -like really ?I agree she took wrong Decision and was impulsive but when Neil's anger pain frustration all these are normal human behaviour then when being impulsive is also a normal human behaviour but just because Avni is impulsive she is wrong ? What kind of hypocrisy is this ?moving on & fighting for custody is normal human behaviour then if avni takes wrong decisions but with good intentions yet she is wrong ?it isn't normal human behaviour ?do we all are perfect human beings don't we all do mistakes don't we all take wrong decisions ?are we all abnormal ?do all of us need psychiatrist help?
Neil's fans never accept he is at fault atleast others accept when they both are at fault that both Neil and Avni are wrong !
Yes as Aditi Zain fan and as avNeil fan I would want them mend their ways and get back together and I can never accept any male or female chudail in their lives
Because none of us watch the show for male chudails and female chudails
This is a fiction here we want our leads to be together people should seriously stop comparing everything with real life
Sorry to butt in, but only asking u my questions on this as an AvNeil fan...neither forcing them on u nor offending ur thoughts. I might be appearing to be Neil fan per se as per ur definition, but I m AvNeil fan completely and i justify Avni's actions too, its just that Avni was not so nastily bashed ever, so didn't find any need to propose my thoughts. So an AvNeil fan asks u-
This used to be Avni's story pre-leap or at the most pre-marriage...the show has undergone a complete revamp post leap. Even if u see hotstar synopsis of this show, u'll know now its the story of Avni handling her love n marriage related issues. Isn't Neil too equally important in a "love-story"? Would u like to have him as a furniture like other male leads? Didn't u love the character for having equal share in the story too? Then y suddenly is this Avni's story now? Being AvNeil's fan, I feel it is AvNeil's story n forever it will be.
About not comparing reel with real. Why don't we watch the makkhi and nagin shows then? Because we don't find anything realistic in them. We loved Naamkaran, because it was most of the times realistic. I remember even u didn't like Khanna's easily forgiving Avni the moment they saw her...why? because that looked unreal. Y is that we should compare certain reel scenarios with real life n not the others? We know this is just a fictional show n we don't compare the show as such with real life, otherwise we would have at the first questioned Avni's fake death itself...cuz that's really not happening in real life.
Avni being impulsive and stubborn is human nature and hence its not wrong, i second u...but so is the case with Neil. (I was not active on Naamkaran forum during Jail track, or else I would have completely supported Avni's each and every action too even after not liking her impulsive behaviour n decisions taken without talking to Neil). If u can support Avni's 1001 impulsive decisions, how come u do not understand Neil's one impulsive decision? U urself are comparing Avni's nature and mistakes with us asking if we are abnormal if we make mistakes. Isn't that comparing reel with real too? Then y not Neil Khanna's actions, emotions be compared with real life too? Because he is Mr Perfect who doesn't exist in real life? He is Mr Perfect because he is behaving the way he does for a year now...that is, very realistic...that is, how real life ideal men behave. We don't like MCPs for being too egoistic to be real, we don't like spineless male leads because it is too difficult to be real for a lady to put up with such man. Neil is very much real n that's y we like him. Aren't there men who stand by their wives always? Aren't there men who question their mothers if they go wrong? Aren't their men who accept their wives the way they are? Aren't their men who love their wives with all their heart? Aren't their men who are very dutiful and very honest with their work? I never found anything only reel that can't be real in case of Neil Khanna. Zain may not be like Neil, but it is not that Neils do not exist in real life, I have 2 such men in my own life and hence I can vouch this. Yes every character is little hyped in reel world. Like people in real world too may have childhood scars but nobody keeps holding on to them n affecting our life's every decision by those scars like how Avni does. But still we relate to her issues and try to understand her actions with that perspective. Likewise, Neil's perfectness might be little more than that exists in real world, but that is not unreal too.
If we liked Neil's almost real perfectness, then y can't we accept his certain wrong decisions as being real, being humane too?
U claim Neil fans just can't admit their ideal character is wrong. But actually its the other way round. Neil's fans can admit their ideal character too going wrong n hence don't bash him now either. It should be the non-Neil fan's who are not able to accept their Mr Perfect behaving imperfect n hence aren't liking him now suddenly because they just can't like him behaving little wrong...for them, he must always behave right, then only they'll like him. Isn't it? As an AvNeil fan, I have liked Avni too for rebelling against Neil during the jail track because she was wronged by him due to whatever reasons. Everything is accepted by me, until u r being transparent with ur spouse. Once u start hiding things from ur spouse, u have no right to prove the other wrong. Doing mistakes is normal. Taking wrong decisions is acceptable too, what is not acceptable is taking those wrong decision without talking to ur spouse. Neil was wrong for this during jail track and Avni has been wrong for this rest of the times. Nobody blames her for her intentions, her intentions ar as pure as they can be.
I don't know what Avni was called during jail track, but as far as this track is concerned, I have seen people calling her stubborn or cold-hearted. That too, people have only wondered how is she behaving so heartless, nobody called her heartless too. Rather we demanded her monologues because we knew she isn't heartless. But one mistake of Neil's and he is being called cheap n self-centered n what not. Loyalty is not only being stuck to ur spouse forever, it also involves being completely honest and transparent with ur spouse...something that Avni has not been many a times, so even she was not loyal, did we call her cheap? So much hiding from husband n taking decisions alone doesn't happen between real couples, but we still accepted this as creative liberty to take the story forward, we didn't compare this with real life scenario, we didn't call her cheap for being disloyal with her husband. Then why Neil? and hence, the "Neil fans" have to explain his actions too which then appear like justifications.
I agree with u, we do not watch a show for any third person, I hate this Mitali angle as much as u do. And hence I, a "Neil Fan", too do not justify it, do not say its a right decision. What I justify is Neil's emotions behind it. Reel scenarios can't be compared with real, but reel emotions must be comparable with the real life emotions to feel that connect with the show, scene and character. We only try to compare the emotions of any character with real life emotions and hence we do not find Neil wrong...and to analyse those emotions, we have to imagine real life scenarios too. Eg, why couldn't u connect with Khanna's forgiving Avni just like that n not even hugging her? Because u have a more emotional reunion with ur family even if u meet them after 10 days of vacation. Did u compare the reel scenario of faking death n returning after 10 years with ur real life? No, u only compared the emotions. Likewise, we are not comparing Neil's engagement decision with real life but his emotions behind it. These 3rd angles, the way they are shown, are only reel things...they don't happen so easily in real life. So we have to just ignore them in the name of creative liberty. We can only hope to see AvNeil getting back together asap...cuz honestly we all are tired of this Av Vs Neil thing n we want to see AvNeil, stop our fights over them n be the same united fandom like before. Its just that the actions of one of them are not acceptable for a few n if they put their thoughts in such words that can't go down well with their lovers, people start justifying their side n this turns into wars. This needs to stop asap n that's only in the hands of our very great cvs. Till then, all we can do is put our thoughts in the most dignified way possible without using any wrong words.
I hope I could explain to u what the Neil lovers are actually comparing with real life situations.
