Is Gunjan's behaviour Normal? - Page 2

So our Zeejay is back with an awesome post as usual.
I do agree with you dear, but I wanna add one thing. After seeing the episodes I feel that Gunjan's mental condition is bit unstable after Nupur's death.
She isn't being able to accept that her sister is no more with her. One question may be banging in her mind "How can she leave her alone".
She is blaming Samrat not because she is angry with her, But she needs someone to be blamed. She cant believe the destiny, she cant accept the fact that Nupur was destined to die.
One real life story I add. My brother is a psychiatrist. One day a case came to him where a man lost his only sister whom he loved more than his life. After seeing her dead body he became totally numb for sometime, dint utter a single word and the worst he dint attend her funeral.
He never accepted the fact that she is no more. He tried to behave like her, he tried to make everyone in their family to believe that she is alive. Now also he is in same condition.

So I think Gunji might be going through the same phase. Some one has to make her realise that Nupur is no more.
She needs to cry, then only she will accept the fact.
Ok guys this is what I think.
Please comment.

abnormal!!!!!! please yaar she cant b nupur only rati can b nupur that it!!!!!!!!

@ zeejay, thanking u for making this .. Like Diya its been nagging me right from her entry abt her changed behavior.. The first scene itself did convey that..

@Diya -- gosh exactly there are different ways how people come to terms with the loss ... agree with what u said ..... it was not normal or natural of her ... it was as though she's playing a part, that of her sister ... keeping her alive ...

u know what dia ... now i can understand the depth of her bitterness to Samrat when she says " that jo Gunjan Samrat se payaar karti thi who di ke saath hi dum thod diya" something like that... which exactly justifies this .. She ended herself as Gunjan and is living Nupur to be strong and keep her alive and support mayank... and yes that's the reason she is avoiding Samrat and her past.... she knows that if she confronts him she will breakdown completely...

Now how the CVs handle is a big question???

@sonali.. Actually i liked both the options.. But more the first one, because they both are on the edge ..And in this state its only them who can handle each other with an emotional breakdown.. And its high time that they confront each other and let it out ...then gradually accept things or come to terms with thru, ash and excel....

Originally posted by: -MohitzPari-

My serious request- NOT to spoil this topic with some senceless bashing comments......forgive us:)

pari forget it they have not understood the essense of the post itself...

I love your post and I specially liked Diya's reply. This is what struck me yesterday. Gunjan's being Nupur in front of the world, strong, optimistic, chirpy.... She's not Gunjan. For her Gunjan died the day her Di died. How can anyone be so happy on the birthday of her sister who died? She's totally in denial. She just hasn't accepted that Nupur won't be back. She's being strong for Mayank, but she's on the verge of a breakdown herself. That's why, sometimes she uses the present tense for Nupur too....

She's celebrating her sister's birthday just like Nupur would have. She doesn't want Nupur's memories to haunt them, because for her, Nupur is still alive. She's behaving like Nupur herself, so that Mayank doesn't feel that Nupur is not around. She's in major denial, and again, she NEEDS to meet Samrat very soon!!

hi Zeejay.. u r so bang on right gal i am sorry for being lazy but pls just let me copy paste my writeup from a topic i made the other day on the same lines 😳 i am really dumbfounded as to how will they break this .. u know make gunjan accept the reality - this track is not as simple as it looks or seems .. cause besides the emotional equations it has undercurrents of a psychological effects of such a huge loss and trauma too - for Samrat which is explored openly while in Gunjan' case is under wraps which makes it more interesting and ... somehow also scary - cause her breakdown will be something - somehow i am having goosebumps and chills imagining things already

Gunjan has metamorphosed drastically - she looks a lot more confident, decisive, her wardrobe is different visibly, a new hairdo and perhaps gotten more interactive, a bit more extroverted working as a counselor professionally ... in a complete contrast to her once reticent self and yes also the Sam now we see - who has completely submerged himself in a shell

the reason we see Sam going suicidal or act maturely as per the scenes is just 1 basically - thou repentant, feeling guilty, pensive he has accepted the truth basically - and also cried out his grief - as in the scene as he wakes up and finds Nupur is dead he yells cries instantly ...

whereas on the other hand we never saw that happen to Gunji - learning the news of her Di's demise she rushed to inform mayank personally - wanting to take care of him as family- yet we never saw her cry - nor then instantly - not even now - and hence the lines in the first meeting after 3 years by Sammy - I couldn't console you ... couldn't be there to lessen the pain you had to carry ...

the chirpy full of life transformed Gunjan today is basically - as self destructive as Sammy ... the only thing she isnt showing it - nor is she accepting the truth really..
this new look the whole attitude the sea change in her is not to get away from Sammy - rather it is her way of keeping alive her Di as per me - by trying to be as how Nupur would be or want her to be - always egging her on to live life completely and yes be as vibrant as could be ... Gunjan thou strong on the front is as fragile internally ...

the vulnerability shown by Sammy - missing her as he is - is a good sign of how aware and accepting of his situations he is really - while the signs shown by Gunjan whether it is her not wanting to meet Sammy or keeping away from excel are as equally worrisome really ... cause she isn't even accepting her state or her loss completely

and I think thats why in the precap v see M soo miserable .. because he himself is in pain as its nups' bday and to add to it, he cant see gunji being so chirpy ..he cant understand WTH is wrong wit her .. because she jus cannot b so chirpy when the day is sad .. rem her very first dialogue to mayank on the barsi "aisa lagta hi nahin hain ki di chali gayi hain..aisa lagta hain ki di yahi kahin hain..hub sab ke beech mein.."

its her way of keeping her di alive..thru her ...

I think gunji is leading a dual life .. the time when she is a counselar, she is gunjan bhushan - the counsellar..but when she is wit mayank .. she is nups' lil sis .. and rem even the way she is wit ash, the protective elder sister, that nups has always been to her .. its easy for her to lose herself when she is counselling others as she wud completely live their pain .. thats how she has been able to get ash out of her past ..

what she cant face is her loved ones .. like Mayank or now, ash .. to them, she cant lose herself face herself..because she feels the NEED to be strong for them .. because she thinks its upon her to make them happy .. and also, by being so, she wudnt ever face that past that wud make her realise that her di is no more ..

now, consoling others' grief and telling others to move on when she herself is sumwher at the same place is wrong and is obviously double standards..jus that she herself hasnt realised that yet ..

the truth is, both sam and gunjan are at the same place wher they wer three yrs ago .. only, sam has accepted that gunji is no more whereas gunji prob hasnt..or is living in a denial .. and the stubborn person that she is, she wud very well live so, her entire life if sam never ever meets her again .. because its very difficult to make her come out of this .. for either of sam and gunjan to come out of it, either has to be strong..because uptil now, thats how they hav always been ther for each other .. when one fell weak, the other became their strength ..

now, both hav to become each others' strength thru this..and its difficult..because for gunji, the samrat and the gunjan are dead .. I think she isnt even allowing her to be on the brink of a break down .. she is not even thinking abt tears .. now she wud jus live a life full of denial..and keep her di alive, whichever way she can ..

You know, the CVs don't intend to think so deep, like you all seem to be justifying Gunjan's behavior. CVs don't have an ounce of brains to think this deep. Surely they're reason behind Gunjan's behavior is different compared to what all Sajan fans feel. Many a times, we've tried to justify Nupur's actions, giving it a valid reasoning, when CVs have actually ruined it all and given the lamest reasons EVER. So my advise, keep your hopes the lowest, just so you won't be disappointed.

My take from what I've read through updates.
Gunjan is simply trying to change herself, so she can cope with life. Maybe for her its a way to keep Nupur alive, but seriously, I don't see much similarity in her and Nupur anyway. Sometimes when incidents like these happen, you tend to become a different person altogether. Maybe not always becoming like the person who died, just to keep them alive, but just change yourself completely beyond recognition.
That's what Gunjan is doing. I can understand her concern for Mayank, but she really needs to understand Mayank is really vulnerable at this stage. She trying to be like Nupur might just make things worse for him, maybe the cause for his emotional breakdown.

At this time, he just needs someone to help him in living his life, help him in learning to live without the person who meant the whole world to him.

In all this, I feel the worst for Samrat. The way he's been terribly isolated by the two people he loves so much, he's become a different person altogether. This is another effect of a terrible loss. He lost everything. He wants to change himself beyond recognition, just so that he can try and forget that Samrat ever existed.

So well, I can tell you one thing. Gunjan trying to be like Nupur to keep Nupur alive for herself is justified, but Gunjan trying to be like Nupur for Mayank is NOT justified.

My POV. No offence.

gunjan is trying well to support mayank but is too messed up...........she is not able to see samrat's pain,............she is not aware of the fact that sam has started loving his death..........but mayank is quite aware of it..........but he actually needs more support..........the way he was behaving yesterday.............he is still living with old memories......mayank want to support sam.........but gunjan is his responsibility too...........he cant let sam meet gunjan without her permission..............neither of three have moved on but the one suffering most is samrat..............as gunjan spend a small time with mayank too..............they share some things .........but sam is alone...........his only support is ash now.............gunjan behave is illogical and senseless towards sam but towards mayank............she is normal...........she is trying to cherish her jiju to the best she can............but if majan become a couple...........than again.........all the things will be senseless..........why is samrat shown if majan are a couple..............

moreover about birthday...........guys its said we should not celebrate birthdays by cutting cake for the people who are dead.............

and yup gunjan trying to be nupur for mayank will make it worst for mayank.............