YIKESS !!! SaJan are SO JANUABLE!! - Page 37

Originally posted by: ayesha_80

Awww thank u Mads, for liking my POV. U're a sweetheart !!! 🤗🤗

Its a proven fact (well i find it to be so) that "when u laugh, everyone lauhs wid u, but when u cry, u cry alone". Here also, v see Gunjan smiling, interacting wid her friends, trying to b all normal, and in return everyone is also smiling with her, helping her etc. But wat no one is realizing is that its her heart that is crying, and so, its crying alone. On the face of it, she strong, but inside, she has lost everything.

I'm not at all saying that Sam is not wid her. I mean the way he's looking after her is extremely touching, commendable, lovable, januable etc. etc. etc. But, he too is focusing on the recovery of her feet and NOT that of her heart. That day she said "mein pehle hi tunhare laik nahin this, aur ab tum kyon apna time mujhpe zaya ker rahey ho", and yest. she said, "agar tum mera koi kaam kerna chahtey ho to mujhe akela chod do", bcoz when i'll b alone, atleast my tears will be the companion of my heart. They will share its pain.

Having said this, i believe that Sam has the solution to this problem. Afterall, he is her SOULMATE. If she's in pain, he's also suffering every min. and is making every effort to make her feel better, to bring her back to life, on her own feet. But, i guess what he needs to do is not only to focus on her physical recovery, but he needs to try and heal the wound that has made her lose the will, the will to live, the will to love, the will to smile not just for others, but for herself, i.e. from her heart. And when her heart will smile, she will automatically stand, walk, and run on her own feet and that too towards her destination, i.e. his Sam..

P.S.: This is purely my POV. If i've hurt anyone's feelings coz of it, i'm extremely sorry.

Originally posted by: princessyashika

I totally agree ayesha...so beautifully said.👏...
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i so so so agree with u ayesha...cant agree more...its both samrat and gunjan who r suffering....n its both who r fighting.Yup i agree that samrat along with making her walk also needs to be with her emotionally.....bt i think he is so much into making her walk because whats making her feel is a permanent disability is actually not....there is complete hope taht she will walk....n thats why i think cvs havent shown samrat strenghthening her emotionally.Because what gunjan is thinking is different from what samrat is....she thinks that she isnt the same 2 the world n will never become in future as well but for samrat all this is just temprorary...n what all is required is an effort.Here is the difference...the difference in the way gunjan looks to her disability and the difference in the way sam looks to it.where gunjan thinks that she isnt worthy of sam as she wont be able to walk...he cant even think abt the phrase.."SHE WONT BE ABLE TO WALK".....thats the difference.
Its not that he is scared to think that what if she doesnt walk for his future n his happiness but he cant think abt such a painful thing happening to gunjan.All in all...what i mean is we cant say that sam is anywhere wrong or gunjan is anywhere wrong..they r seeing the same things with different povs.

Originally posted by: mads

@ bold : EXACTLY .. there is a difference wit the way they both are looking at this disability ..and unless sam MAKES her look at it the way HE is looking at it..she wil NOT recover .. thats ALL that v are saying ..and not jus the fact tht he doesnt want to THINK abt it himself..ofcourse he knows that very well..but what he needs to think here is that SHE is thinking that way and she needs to change her thinking and there's only one way to assure her is that even when she isnt able to walk again, he wil stil love her the same..because her recovery is a very small part of the beautiful world they share .. right now, he is potraying it to b THE main thing in their world..which actually it isnt .. and when gunji is assured of this, she wil automatically MAKE it the imp thing in their world .. because then even she wil cease to think abt 'his' world and 'her' world..and it wil become 'their' world for her ..

v understand and appreciate and respect the way sam is looking at her disability and the road towards her recovery, its deffo the BEST .. nothing can beat it, but until gunjan looks at it in this similar manner..nobody can help her recover..not even sam .. so first he has to change her perspective towards looking at it and then she shud focus on recovering her ..

thats the gist of what v wer going on abt since yest .. u are understanding sam's pain more..v are understanding gunjan's pain more .. BOTH are in pain, but sumwher BOTH are stil stubborn at their own POVs..gunjan, more I agree! and hence unless they discuss and talk abt THIS...they wil not fight circumstances together!

Originally posted by: mads

@ bold : EXACTLY .. there is a difference wit the way they both are looking at this disability ..and unless sam MAKES her look at it the way HE is looking at it..she wil NOT recover .. thats ALL that v are saying ..and not jus the fact tht he doesnt want to THINK abt it himself..ofcourse he knows that very well..but what he needs to think here is that SHE is thinking that way and she needs to change her thinking and there's only one way to assure her is that even when she isnt able to walk again, he wil stil love her the same..because her recovery is a very small part of the beautiful world they share .. right now, he is potraying it to b THE main thing in their world..which actually it isnt .. and when gunji is assured of this, she wil automatically MAKE it the imp thing in their world .. because then even she wil cease to think abt 'his' world and 'her' world..and it wil become 'their' world for her ..

v understand and appreciate and respect the way sam is looking at her disability and the road towards her recovery, its deffo the BEST .. nothing can beat it, but until gunjan looks at it in this similar manner..nobody can help her recover..not even sam .. so first he has to change her perspective towards looking at it and then she shud focus on recovering her ..

thats the gist of what v wer going on abt since yest .. u are understanding sam's pain more..v are understanding gunjan's pain more .. BOTH are in pain, but sumwher BOTH are stil stubborn at their own POVs..gunjan, more I agree! and hence unless they discuss and talk abt THIS...they wil not fight circumstances together!

Originally posted by: princessyashika

haha..thats funny....well i think mads then we were discussing the same thing since yesterday but not getting each other...n ya may be i was taking ur pov differently...but its not that i am more affected by sam's pain...in my view sam isnt in that much pain in which gunjan is...what all i am trying to convince since yesterday is that...if gunjan is totally justified in what she is feeling so is even samrat....just he needs to make her understand things and her disability from his pov.

Originally posted by: mads

NEITHER of them is completely right or wrong in their actions...but while v were justifying gunjan's actions for u..u werent ready to accept them .. sam's actions were not wrong, jus that they were not completely right too .. and THATS wher the entire disagreement came from!

so until sam changes HIS POV in treating her differently..OR talks to her and MAKES her look at things from his POV, she wil not b ready to think abt ANYTHING at the moment..except that she has accepted her state .. and hence sam has to put in those extra efforts here .. and its a plus for him since he loves her soo selflessly and soo unconditionally ...

honestly, m telling u ..sam's actions may look simple to u..but they are NOT..such accidents and paralysis can change ppl's very lives forever..and she is indeed lucky that sam is her soulmate, because he is very selfless in his love for her and it really doesnt depend on her physical condition ...

however he NEEDS to convince gunjan of that .. because she, like most of us, is a very practical and real person and why wil she accept it soo easily that sam loves her unconditionally? when she IS different from the rest? he needs to talk it out wit her .. thats all that v meant!