Self doubt - a grave sin - Page 3

Originally posted by: -abz-

And for Pallavi, she does not deserve a man who belittles her every single time.

He has been doing that ever since Ganpati Puja.

And now, he does not deserve her for a bit. She does not deserve to feel low about herself.

Just a small correction...not ever since Ganpati Puja but from the beginning. A small break came when they got married. But Raghav has been emitionally torturing her form the start

Nice post ...the way pallu was doubting herself my only question was why was she being punished for no reason secondly the way she was asking keerti 😭as if she was not sure how to win her mood changing husband .either raghav should come out clean or commit his warangal activity ...

And that ILU assurance should be stopped... ..still he comes out clean or confess ..because it stands null as per the current situation

Agree with everything you said…

My two cents

Pushing someone to think they are not good enough as a person is the most cruel and inhuman thing to do…especially when it comes from the most loved ones..damage can be irrevocable..

Dealing with inferiority Complex, feeling of inadequacy, feeling unwanted and worthlessness can be quite devastating to the extent that it can damage people for life, it can drive them to death, it can shake their core values principles and belief.. because what gets damaged is the confidence that one has on themselves, the belief that they will be acknowledged and accepted for who they are and what they are…at the end of the day everybody needs a little bit of validation acceptance and hope to move forward in life….when that belief and confidence gets hit its like getting sucked into a black hole…pushing us to a path which we may never trend otherwise…

It is a suffocating situation…we can still survive while everyone around us loose confidence in us but survival becomes extremely difficult when we loose confidence in ourselves…we don’t raise not when we get pushed but when we loose the will to raise….

Raghav by cheating on Pallavi with Esha is not only breaking her unwavering trust and undying love that she has for him but by continuing to sin her and pushing her away he is also depriving her of the basic rights & dignity she deserves as a human, wife and woman..he in turn is pushing her into the same space where he was after Esha abandoned him…what devastating impact it will have on her and the consequences will be entirely Raghav’s doings and he will have no authority or moral high ground to question or control her…whatever she seeks, Raghav better be prepared for it because he doesn’t have a choice there..Raghav should not be even the last one to judge her or have any kind of an expectations from her…

I would love to see her behave exactly like him. Hating men and going out to night clubs painting the town red. It would be an awesome parallel to the beginning episodes, because whether he went all the way or not he betrayed her just like he was, and is continuing to betray her with his dishonesty and indifference to her feelings.

Originally posted by: sp1977

I would love to see her behave exactly like him. Hating men and going out to night clubs painting the town red. It would be an awesome parallel to the beginning episodes, because whether he went all the way or not he betrayed her just like he was, and is continuing to betray her with his dishonesty and indifference to her feelings.

Exactly…Esha betrayed Raghav for a rich guy and Raghav betrayed Pallavi for his Ex love and continues to do so… so if Raghav can become arrogant ruthless, money minded and go on to hate women..Pallavi can loose it too..

Pallavi showed the strength to wield Raghav away from his self destructive behavior many times…she took a bullet for him and the pay back she got was betrayal…now can we expect that strength and determination from Raghav too, to sort her out if she gets messed up because of his sins.. Or will the yardstick of expectations be different for Him and Her…

It would be an awesome track to watch. Her going of the rails and him scrambling to save her from self-destruction. I would wait for every episode with baited breath. Her angst and his remorse what a combo.

Originally posted by: sp1977

I would love to see her behave exactly like him. Hating men and going out to night clubs painting the town red. It would be an awesome parallel to the beginning episodes, because whether he went all the way or not he betrayed her just like he was, and is continuing to betray her with his dishonesty and indifference to her feelings.

Women can paint the town red, be free, take their own actions. Because my life, my rules. But no action should be done just to take revenge on someone. That I don't accept. Pallavi can be Pallavi and still enjoy her life to the maximum. She doesn't need to prove a point to Raghav. He doesnot deserve her time nor her revenge. If she is imitating him, there is no difference between them. She won't fall that low, never that low. My opinion purely.

Self doubt is pathetic... It isn't a sin. It's a problem that can give rise to many mental issues.

Its not about blaming a woman for things. Self-doubt and self-degradation is something that people today are suffering from due to varied reasons. There is nothing about being a Pallavi or Raghav or Raghvi Stan here. Instead it is a legit good topic to be picked up and discussed and once keeping the contents of the show aside. Which I'll try to put in here.

For years Raghav faced this where he felt he was not worthy. The guy went on the path of self-destruction.

Today, Pallavi is facing this issue where she's doubting herself. And this needs to be addressed. Or this may need to depression or anxiety.

Problem is we are so use to seeking acceptance and approvals from another that we loose the touch and connect with ourselves. Pallavi didn't need to doubt her own self but it was only natural in her place to happen. Because, thats how we have been accustomed to judge ourselves through the eyes of others. Esha's arrival and Raghav's distancing is working on her subconscious level.

If you ask me, its the problem with the system and the society. As I mentioned I am not going to be addressing this based on characters as they are fictional but based on what I have seen. Even calling out names, body shaming and mocking lead to people spiral into depression where they may feel they are not worth. If it goes on, it may lead to severe issues like anxiety, split personality disorder and more. I am in people's profession so what I am talking is what I have seen. The society to a large extent has parameters set. This is beautiful. This is chaste. This is taboo. This is sin. This is virtue. This is intellectual. This is stupid. This is positive. This is negative. And if someone doesn't find themselves fitting into the mould they are chucked out. Thats why its important to work on subconscious and work.

The definitions of chastity and beauty are the worst as defined by the acceptable parameters coupled by the unrealistic beauty definitions / expectations presented by glam world and the number of marketing gimmicks by the beauty product company. Add the social media dogma and the race of likes and thumbs up! So everyone is trying to be someone they are not. Same goes with chastity... the concept of chastity is simply hyped when people especially women are advocated to choose being chaste over their own lives. Why? My phone was robbed the other day, people sympathised but the if a woman is attacked, she's presumed tainted! why? Because thats how the society defines it. We make the society, the society do not make us. We need to learn to only co-exist in harmony.

We are an impatient generation. And one instance, we write off people in an instant. Social seclusion adds to the trauma of people. We are not in their positions to know what's going on in their minds therefore, its important to extend help and empathise. Man makes mistakes, mistakes don't make man. Many people don't open up because they fear being judged. Thats why, we must refrain from that. From the beginning, its important that we are taught to love ourselves and believe in ourselves. And those who find themselves at the juncture of dark tunnels or within the tunnels, its important to show light.

Originally posted by: euphoric

Self doubt is pathetic... It isn't a sin. It's a problem that can give rise to many mental issues.

Its not about blaming a woman for things. Self-doubt and self-degradation is something that people today are suffering from due to varied reasons. There is nothing about being a Pallavi or Raghav or Raghvi Stan here. Instead it is a legit good topic to be picked up and discussed and once keeping the contents of the show aside. Which I'll try to put in here.

For years Raghav faced this where he felt he was not worthy. The guy went on the path of self-destruction.

Today, Pallavi is facing this issue where she's doubting herself. And this needs to be addressed. Or this may need to depression or anxiety.

Problem is we are so use to seeking acceptance and approvals from another that we loose the touch and connect with ourselves. Pallavi didn't need to doubt her own self but it was only natural in her place to happen. Because, thats how we have been accustomed to judge ourselves through the eyes of others. Esha's arrival and Raghav's distancing is working on her subconscious level.

If you ask me, its the problem with the system and the society. As I mentioned I am not going to be addressing this based on characters as they are fictional but based on what I have seen. Even calling out names, body shaming and mocking lead to people spiral into depression where they may feel they are not worth. If it goes on, it may lead to severe issues like anxiety, split personality disorder and more. I am in people's profession so what I am talking is what I have seen. The society to a large extent has parameters set. This is beautiful. This is chaste. This is taboo. This is sin. This is virtue. This is intellectual. This is stupid. This is positive. This is negative. And if someone doesn't find themselves fitting into the mould they are chucked out. Thats why its important to work on subconscious and work.

The definitions of chastity and beauty are the worst as defined by the acceptable parameters coupled by the unrealistic beauty definitions / expectations presented by glam world and the number of marketing gimmicks by the beauty product company. Add the social media dogma and the race of likes and thumbs up! So everyone is trying to be someone they are not. Same goes with chastity... the concept of chastity is simply hyped when people especially women are advocated to choose being chaste over their own lives. Why? My phone was robbed the other day, people sympathised but the if a woman is attacked, she's presumed tainted! why? Because thats how the society defines it. We make the society, the society do not make us. We need to learn to only co-exist in harmony.

We are an impatient generation. And one instance, we write off people in an instant. Social seclusion adds to the trauma of people. We are not in their positions to know what's going on in their minds therefore, its important to extend help and empathise. Man makes mistakes, mistakes don't make man. Many people don't open up because they fear being judged. Thats why, we must refrain from that. From the beginning, its important that we are taught to love ourselves and believe in ourselves. And those who find themselves at the juncture of dark tunnels or within the tunnels, its important to show light.

How are you so good with words yaar???❤️❤️❤️

I think being closely associated and dealing with so many people broadens your thinking. You make me realise how important it is to associate yourself with people who inspire and not who gaslight. Warna keyboard pe toh har koi apne aap ko smart samajta hai. It is easier to chicken out than deal with real world problems.

How easy it is to cancel people now a days. Funnily enough, even with those that express remorse and want to change. We are definitely moving towards a fast and impatient generation and one who is more selfish and less tolerant. Self respect aur feminism are words that are so highly misunderstood that acceptance has become underrated.

ETA: Vera my comments aren't directed towards you. I've not read your post nor the comments here. Frankly, no time or inclination.

Originally posted by: joliefemme

How are you so good with words yaar???❤️❤️❤️

I think being closely associated and dealing with so many people broadens your thinking. You make me realise how important it is to associate yourself with people who inspire and not who gaslight. Warna keyboard pe toh har koi apne aap ko smart samajta hai. It is easier to chicken out than deal with real world problems.

How easy it is to cancel people now a days. Funnily enough, even with those that express remorse and want to change. We are definitely moving towards a fast and impatient generation and one who is more selfish and less tolerant. Self respect aur feminism are words that are so highly misunderstood that acceptance has become underrated.

ETA: Vera my comments aren't directed towards you. I've not read your post nor the comments here. Frankly, no time or inclination.

Shayad Ren... dealing with so many people on daily basis kinds of makes you both patient and impatient. Where I am more patient with genuine, I do get now a knack of how to write off a few with pretences. Its sad when people loose to the game of acceptance.

Words hurts the most yet in anger, intolerance and ignorance we utter the most vile things. I have done it too. Now I have stepped back to see the bigger picture. There is goodness in everyone. I know people who have taken the extreme steps just because of the words uttered, people succumbing to the pressure of expectations. Thus, cancelling off people and writing them off is the worst we may do to someone, anyone!

And we ourselves keep making mistakes... I am not perfect... no one is.... then what gives us the right to expect perfections? The day our society starts to imbibe this through social models of learning... we will be at a much happier place.