My take on the Pallavi-Mandaar situation - Page 3

Originally posted by: ..sur..

All our emotions are really high because of this track but hear me out guys:

Even I didn't like Pallavi rushing back to the Ds and Almost getting ready to feed that Bandar but we must not forget that Mandaar was her husband for intents and purposes.

Not as a living person but Pallavi has lived with his death for 2 years As his widow and in his house. She has visited the police station daily to get an update on his death. She has never loved him but he was her husband and that accounts for some affection atleast

I am not saying that Pallavi has some soft spot for him but to suddenly see a dead man alive and that too your husband can jolt any person and Pallavi is no different.

Right now she must be in such an emotional state that she can't think straight. She simply can't say, "OK! Tata bye, my work here is done"

It's her ex-husband we are talking about not some random family member. Unless and until it's proves that he is fake, she would still be tied to him.

So we should all give her some time to evaluate the situation and come out stronger and become PRR in front of Mandaar as well

I don't know why they are showing her as being weak. She usually stands up for the truth and so why would she not stand up for herself. Also she should have noticed that he was not weak once Raghav came to pick up Pallavi. That should have been a clue for her to see how he was manipulating the situation. She usually has good instincts about these things but she is a bit weak here due to it being her family. This is where I hope Raghav stands up for her. Also the whole feeding him, Yuck, he is not a kid and she could have said that. How the heck can the doctor suggest that when she knows Pallavi is married to someone else.

Originally posted by: Jiarao

Also, I'm glad you brought up Raghav's reputation. I've been on that tangent too because I feel like that isn't given much weight lately. Raghav worked hard to be where he is today - whether by hook or crook, he is a self-made man. His family members, especially his ultra-sensitive wife, should think twice before they act because that is unfortunately a part and parcel of living with him. Amma and Keerti had to relocate to a safe house frequently as that's just the nature of his work. Likewise, Pallavi should stop to think about how her mindless actions will affect his reputation. Not because he cares, but because she claims to care.

It's really sad to see the family RR craved so much doesn't give a thought about his reputation. Not amma, not Keerti, not Pallavi respect his hardwork. He might have smuggled diamonds but has earned the trust of his clients by constantly delivering unique designs. It's pure talent.

They conveniently forget at least thousand peoples lives depend solely on his reputation. One wrong move and entire kingdom will come down crashing.

I hope in future atleast she thinks about the poor employees who work for him before doing such things.

Whatever you said is 100% truth

Wherever he is today it's because of his own work and nobody I repeat nobody has the right to destroy it.

Call me harsh but it is better to not have family than a one which constantly pulls out down, a sister who is so selfish , a wife and lover who claims to prioritise you over everything else but her actions speak otherwise and a mother who can flip any second

It is better to be alone than forever suffering in company. At least that way you will not feel the guilt only the longing for your loved ones. Guilt is one of the strongest emotions which can make a person die inside which is the only thing his loved ones are making him feel now

I get what you're saying. But her actions would've actually made more sense if she did have an emotional connection to Mandar - if she was actually in love with him at one point.

I brought this up one time when she first started to investigate Mandar's death again. It's not that he "died" recently - the characters say 2 years, in fact, it's 2021, it's been more than 2 years. She should be over it considering she doesn't have any real memories with him to reminisce about/ miss. She said herself - several times - she was never in love with him. Everything that she feels for Mandar currently - pity, sympathy, guilt, etc. - is associated to him because of her relationship with Aayi + SB. She herself closed the door on her past. Like yeah, I get it, it's her ex - but she had no real relationship with him to give that relationship any weight or value.

So when I take all this into consideration, it really boggles my mind about why she's so quiet in front of their demands (really it's the doctor egging it all on). Out of what guilt or pity does she need to feed another man for? This is not someone she used to love (because I believe you never actually stop loving someone - feelings always are there) - so why must she just accept what they ask of her?

I know she's in a state of shock almost and confused about what to do, but her reasons for doing all that she is deciding to do is wrong. She's giving less priority to husband (her legally and religiously married - current - love her life - husband) - to pacify an ex? Who (Mandar) already had the biggest shock of his life (finding out who he really was) so how could he be surprised or shocked anymore than how he currently is? She's worried about his mental fragility but, what else could she reveal or do to him that would push him over the edge? If he's that close to self-harm (which is what I'm assuming they thought when he locked himself in a room), then he needs to be in a hospital or special care facility. What grown man locks himself in a room? Why did he even go to D fam without the doctor - who he calls mom - and who has taken care of him for 2 years? The logic is failing hardcore right now. I have to remember this is ITV lol.

And I emphasize deciding because although she's a doormat, she has shown that she can stand up to D fam (the only people she becomes a doormat for). I know those times were when they were wrongfully accusing Raghav etc. So maybe, hopefully, it connects in her head that them (or the dr) asking her to do this is insulting Raghav & his place in her life, and hopefully she sees the light and says no to their absurd requests. She's taking advantage of Raghav's kindness and trust in their love in the mean time.

She literally said today "i have so much responsibility now" ... I sat there like ???? what?? what responsibility??? She's bringing this on herself, because she doesn't know how to admit to others that Raghav is her husband and he matters more to her than D fam and their issues. And sometimes, as much as I like Pallavi and root for her, it really feels like she isn't or doesn't really consider Raghav to be a priority. She only does when he is wronged explicitly. Hopefully they show her becoming more understanding of Raghav. He's keeping it all in because he wants to put her at ease - I hope she can see through all of that like she's been able to in the past. I feel like with this track they've sort of emotionally dumbed down Pallavi and it's a bit frustrating. I want Pallavi to want to put Raghav and her relationship with him first, not just with her words, but with her actions too. Mandar is not in a life or death situation where he needs to be coddled. I wanted angst bc I love angst, but only when the situation is more helpless. Right now, Pallavi's circumstances are self-created.

Even if she doesn't want to startle Mandar - she can speak privately to Baba, Amruta, Sulochana that she can't come like this every time Mandar pulls a tantrum. Really all this is happening because Kaka + Aayi are not in the house. Aayi's reaction may be murky bc Mandar is her own son, but Kaka definitely would not let any of this go down.

Originally posted by: masin

My points exactly!

Helping is one thing, enabling is another. The only man who has ever been able to twist Pallavi's arm in the past was Raghav (re: their forced wedding), and she gave him quite a tough time afterwards. She didn't make his life easy at all! How is she then giving a stranger the power to make her fulfill his whims and fancies?!

Mandaar is a stranger for all intents and purposes. They did not share a life together. Not one minute. She can show up for him, sure, but she cannot and should not assume the role of his caretaker. He is a grown adult who was fully able and functioning up until two days ago. Itna hi masla tha toh they should've called his assistant (forgetting his name) who said "main hamesha tumhare saath rahoonga Raja".

Also, I'm glad you brought up Raghav's reputation. I've been on that tangent too because I feel like that isn't given much weight lately. Raghav worked hard to be where he is today - whether by hook or crook, he is a self-made man. His family members, especially his ultra-sensitive wife, should think twice before they act because that is unfortunately a part and parcel of living with him. Amma and Keerti had to relocate to a safe house frequently as that's just the nature of his work. Likewise, Pallavi should stop to think about how her mindless actions will affect his reputation. Not because he cares, but because she claims to care.

Pallavi had the entire ride from RR mansion to Deshmukh house to think.I guess it will take atleast 10 minutes. Didn't a hurt RR come to her mind in all those minutes? Was she thinking only about Mandaar all that time? 🤔

The answer to these questions really scares me.

Originally posted by: Sunaina7

Whatever you said is 100% truth

Wherever he is today it's because of his own work and nobody I repeat nobody has the right to destroy it.

Call me harsh but it is better to not have family than a one which constantly pulls out down, a sister who is so selfish , a wife and lover who claims to prioritise you over everything else but her actions speak otherwise and a mother who can flip any second

It is better to be alone than forever suffering in company. At least that way you will not feel the guilt only the longing for your loved ones. Guilt is one of the strongest emotions which can make a person die inside which is the only thing his loved ones are making him feel now

Well penned. Nothing to add.

Originally posted by: Jiarao

It's really sad to see that the family RR craved for doesn't stop to think for a second about him before they act. 🤔

Pallavi had the entire ride from RR mansion to Deshmukh house to think.I guess it will take atleast 10 minutes. Didn't a hurt RR come to her mind in all those minutes? Was she thinking only about Mandaar all that time? 🤔

The answer to these questions really scares me.

Logical answer is yes or traffic.

Originally posted by: Jiarao

Traffic?

Ya. Heavy traffic can frustrate ppl so they don't think much.

Originally posted by: ..sur..

All our emotions are really high because of this track but hear me out guys:

Even I didn't like Pallavi rushing back to the Ds and Almost getting ready to feed that Bandar but we must not forget that Mandaar was her husband for intents and purposes.

Not as a living person but Pallavi has lived with his death for 2 years As his widow and in his house. She has visited the police station daily to get an update on his death. She has never loved him but he was her husband and that accounts for some affection atleast

I am not saying that Pallavi has some soft spot for him but to suddenly see a dead man alive and that too your husband can jolt any person and Pallavi is no different.

Right now she must be in such an emotional state that she can't think straight. She simply can't say, "OK! Tata bye, my work here is done"

It's her ex-husband we are talking about not some random family member. Unless and until it's proves that he is fake, she would still be tied to him.

So we should all give her some time to evaluate the situation and come out stronger and become PRR in front of Mandaar as well

Giving time fine and she too realized it today....as her responsibility increased..why without thinking she btought M back..

Makers wanted Mandar back early so without any buildup brought him in D house.....hope TRP will come too...

If she accepted this marriage and Love Raghav then should have informed Raghav or at least gave it back to Dr. about her relationship with Raghav today..

Pallavi is not trophy and she too should understand this......

Recap dilog ...what 7 din ....halwa hai kay Pallavi jo wapas leke aayega.....i mean seriously....

I read all the posts.. actually it’s correct her actions are not justified…but given its itv you have to endure… ideally in indian society a doctor cannot ask a girl to sit with a stranger (she wasn’t aware of the relationship) but still … one thing more Raghav always gave her a choice… even in car he opened the door and when doctor asked her to sit in backseat… he simply left her to decide what she wants to do…she could have easily said no… krishna is like a sister to bandar she can sit…or he can come along with vishnu in auto…if he is that uncomfortable…

same goes for running without informing Raghav to trashmukhs and feeding with her hand that is limits…but again I want to cut her some slack… she is confused … trying to guage the situation… when she found mandar she was happy for her family…the moment mandar tried to make a claim that moment she started getting scared… but responsibility bd gyi h wala statement to even I can’t understand…

and yes Raghav’s reputation is also at stake… he is a famous man in hyderabad… everyone knows pallavi is his wife including media…this will definitely become an issue in future…but don se kon panga lega…

its a little convoluted… I still feel give her some more time…so far her behavior is little idiotic but she will definitely come out stronger..yes pallavi is strong but initially even she was scared of raghav and don’t know how to react… wo to bad me she found courage…and use ex don bna dia…I want to believe that even if she has fed mandar…she would have stopped after one morsel and told him ab khud se kha lo chlo..

on a lighter note I think she should realize she got an upgrade by luck in terms of RR …. that bandar looks creepy…no offense to the actor… he might be very good looking… I was just talking the way he is portrayed in the show…

Originally posted by: nikkiGarg

I read all the posts.. actually it’s correct her actions are not justified…but given its itv you have to endure… ideally in indian society a doctor cannot ask a girl to sit with a stranger (she wasn’t aware of the relationship) but still … one thing more Raghav always gave her a choice… even in car he opened the door and when doctor asked her to sit in backseat… he simply left her to decide what she wants to do…she could have easily said no… krishna is like a sister to bandar she can sit…or he can come along with vishnu in auto…if he is that uncomfortable…

same goes for running without informing Raghav to trashmukhs and feeding with her hand that is limits…but again I want to cut her some slack… she is confused … trying to guage the situation… when she found mandar she was happy for her family…the moment mandar tried to make a claim that moment she started getting scared… but responsibility bd gyi h wala statement to even I can’t understand…

and yes Raghav’s reputation is also at stake… he is a famous man in hyderabad… everyone knows pallavi is his wife including media…this will definitely become an issue in future…but don se kon panga lega…

its a little convoluted… I still feel give her some more time…so far her behavior is little idiotic but she will definitely come out stronger..yes pallavi is strong but initially even she was scared of raghav and don’t know how to react… wo to bad me she found courage…and use ex don bna dia…I want to believe that even if she has fed mandar…she would have stopped after one morsel and told him ab khud se kha lo chlo..

on a lighter note I think she should realize she got an upgrade by luck in terms of RR …. that bandar looks creepy…no offense to the actor… he might be very good looking… I was just talking the way he is portrayed in the show…

No I don't hv to. I saw less then 10-15 sec of episode before R arrived at D house. That is y I m sure Online TRP will be down for sure. Its not about ITV, its about story. If as an art and story something bores u then u wont read it. Others may like it their choice. I feel this part of book is stupid.

The way it was being shown and maturity incarnated she is shown, her behavior is almost 180 deg. So these inconsistencies is wt absurd for me. A fun fact... Ppl justifying her action in accident case that R is emotional and P is right to correct him when it was about her sister he cared and had been away for 10 years and had history with are saying she is not wrong.

Let me be blunt. She is two timing and cheating on Raghav. U dont need to always hide physically to cheat. U cn do that with talks and manipulation too. Reason can be x y and z but that just would be helpful in her redemption arc. Here it is still cheating.

I really think that actor is good. His subtle acts r well calibrated but 95% of times his features r exaggerated and thus looks creepy nd bad.