My take on the Pallavi-Mandaar situation - Page 2

Originally posted by: Chahat_A_Doshi

If this matter goes to court

sayavaadi harishchandra ki behen won't stand a chance in front of Mandar's lawyer

he trapped your brother

yes bu

he forced and blackmailed you

yes bu

she won't get a chance to say i want to be in this marriage with Raghav out of my own will i love my husband

RR's reputation will be on stake and media will have a field day When family is why not media

i'm scared of one thing which i bet SunKi will do

call Pallavi RR's mistress They won't wait for any ruling of the court

Pallavi married to Mandar living with RR I can bet on it Sunny's words out of Keerti's mouth

Raghav is right and he knows the world and deshmukhs more than Pallavi

he knows they have used her and will continue to

Her achhai is her own enemy

sanki made it sound like pata nahi kya ho gaya so she informed amma and left

yes she could have informed him on her way but her mind was preoccupied

She's happy that her aaibabakabeta is back

all she felt for Mandar during their phone convos was izzat

she doesn't know the truth

she is being manipulated

Raghav's fear she isn't getting the magnitude of it

mandar won't die if he doesn't eat one meal

that doc omg is she insane telling a woman to feed a man against her will Pallavi was uncomfortable she must have sent a silent prayer and god sent Raghav

she was relieved to see him

Pallavi is blind when it comes to trashmukhs

she couldn't see his expression

it gave me the creeps

Pallavi better come to her senses for her own sake

let her be she will learn her lessons but if you don't learn your lessons on time you fail

more than being irritated with her because of her goodness i feel sorry for her

she needs to wake up fast and show how strong she is i'm not saying as PRR but P herself enough of your shit gth

They have no prove of Raghav Blackmailing and marrying her. Even if they did if they go logically and not typical ITV way then the court is Bound to listen to Pallavi's stand..she was married to Mandar just for few hours but she has spent months with Raghav at his bedroom as his wife.

A court won't push any girl from someone she has Lived with as husband wife to someone she married for name sake.

He was dead. Pallavi didn't cheat on him or moved on within days. It was freaking 2years. So even if Court says RaghVi marriage is illegal, court Can Not force Pallavi to move on with Mandar. She will be given the authority to go for a Divorce.

But in typical ITV definitely she have to move in with Mandar. And Raghav might follow in too.

Originally posted by: Guguminti

They have no prove of Raghav Blackmailing and marrying her. Even if they did if they go logically and not typical ITV way then the court is Bound to listen to Pallavi's stand..she was married to Mandar just for few hours but she has spent months with Raghav at his bedroom as his wife.

A court won't push any girl from someone she has Lived with as husband wife to someone she married for name sake.

He was dead. Pallavi didn't cheat on him or moved on within days. It was freaking 2years. So even if Court says RaghVi marriage is illegal, court Can Not force Pallavi to move on with Mandar. She will be given the authority to go for a Divorce.

But in typical ITV definitely she have to move in with Mandar. And Raghav might follow in too.

I'm NOT saying about the court ruling and judge ment or judge forcing Pallavi to go.live with Mandar

They have nikhil who Cantrell.how he smuggled diamonds and Raghav had trapped him

My pointnis Pallavi should play a little dirty and let Raghav play too

Some time you have to bend your ways

She will.be trapped in her truths

Glad to see a more balanced take on Pallavi. I feel bad for her to be honest. Hopefully RR manages to pull her out of this mess.

Originally posted by: Jiarao

I have no problem with Pallavi going to D house or helping Mandaar. I can understand her feeling responsible towards the family. She can do it by going there in broad daylight with her husband, MIL or devar. I am sure they will go with her. What was the urgency? No grown up man dies if he doesn't eat one time.

The biggest problem here is she didn't wait for RR who had gone to bring her a gift. Even if we ignore that why didn't she atleast callhim on the way to explain the situation. The whole scenario looked like she didn;t even think of RR once before doing all these. RR has a reputation to maintain in the society. Media will have a field day if they get the wind of the sitation. RR might not care about his reputation but how will he feel reading nasty stuff written about his wife.?

Regarding feeding Mandaar... it was gross. She is smart enough to trap Sunny and Keerti and to even fool RR but couldn't think of any way to avoid it? . No woman feeds any man other than her husband, father , brother and son.? Herethough its not even proven he is Mandaar. He can be an imposter too. It was total cringy. Can't justify.

My points exactly!

Helping is one thing, enabling is another. The only man who has ever been able to twist Pallavi's arm in the past was Raghav (re: their forced wedding), and she gave him quite a tough time afterwards. She didn't make his life easy at all! How is she then giving a stranger the power to make her fulfill his whims and fancies?!

Mandaar is a stranger for all intents and purposes. They did not share a life together. Not one minute. She can show up for him, sure, but she cannot and should not assume the role of his caretaker. He is a grown adult who was fully able and functioning up until two days ago. Itna hi masla tha toh they should've called his assistant (forgetting his name) who said "main hamesha tumhare saath rahoonga Raja".

Also, I'm glad you brought up Raghav's reputation. I've been on that tangent too because I feel like that isn't given much weight lately. Raghav worked hard to be where he is today - whether by hook or crook, he is a self-made man. His family members, especially his ultra-sensitive wife, should think twice before they act because that is unfortunately a part and parcel of living with him. Amma and Keerti had to relocate to a safe house frequently as that's just the nature of his work. Likewise, Pallavi should stop to think about how her mindless actions will affect his reputation. Not because he cares, but because she claims to care.

A query... is dere ny reason for u personally that can justify her listening everybody to be more with M from sitting in car to hand holding to rushing back to D house nd den feeding him. Is dere ny reason that can justify this. And a request if possible dont use 'but' in the reason.

Originally posted by: Chahat_A_Doshi

If this matter goes to court

sayavaadi harishchandra ki behen won't stand a chance in front of Mandar's lawyer

he trapped your brother

yes bu

he forced and blackmailed you

yes bu

she won't get a chance to say i want to be in this marriage with Raghav out of my own will i love my husband

RR's reputation will be on stake and media will have a field day When family is why not media

i'm scared of one thing which i bet SunKi will do

call Pallavi RR's mistress They won't wait for any ruling of the court

Pallavi married to Mandar living with RR I can bet on it Sunny's words out of Keerti's mouth

Raghav is right and he knows the world and deshmukhs more than Pallavi

he knows they have used her and will continue to

Her achhai is her own enemy

sanki made it sound like pata nahi kya ho gaya so she informed amma and left

yes she could have informed him on her way but her mind was preoccupied

She's happy that her aaibabakabeta is back

all she felt for Mandar during their phone convos was izzat

she doesn't know the truth

she is being manipulated

Raghav's fear she isn't getting the magnitude of it

mandar won't die if he doesn't eat one meal

that doc omg is she insane telling a woman to feed a man against her will Pallavi was uncomfortable she must have sent a silent prayer and god sent Raghav

she was relieved to see him

Pallavi is blind when it comes to trashmukhs

she couldn't see his expression

it gave me the creeps

Pallavi better come to her senses for her own sake

let her be she will learn her lessons but if you don't learn your lessons on time you fail

more than being irritated with her because of her goodness i feel sorry for her

she needs to wake up fast and show how strong she is i'm not saying as PRR but P herself enough of your shit gth

She was relieved yes but that relief was niether shown nor communicated to Mandaar. I'm sure he must have believed that Raghav forcefully took her from there. The way he was ordering her around, "Abhi tum jao yaha se" was too annoying

Originally posted by: lateuser1234

A query... is dere ny reason for u personally that can justify her listening everybody to be more with M from sitting in car to hand holding to rushing back to D house nd den feeding him. Is dere ny reason that can justify this. And a request if possible dont use 'but' in the reason.

I guess she feels a past connection with him which cannot be denied. As I said Mandaar is not some random relative but her so-called ex-husband. She is anyhow emotional vulnerable at the moment with such a freak incident. I am it's not everyday that your dead husband reappears. Also that doctor knows where to hit that it hurts the most, her requests seems benign to an unassuming person. Please seat at backseat, please feed him etc.

So my reason is that right now Pallavi is not in the emotional state to judge or evaluate the situation. She is just going with the flow. She needs someone like Amma or Milind or my be Amma to give her thoughts a direction and see things clearly and how her actions are impacting her marriage

Originally posted by: ..sur..

I guess she feels a past connection with him which cannot be denied. As I said Mandaar is not some random relative but her so-called ex-husband. She is anyhow emotional vulnerable at the moment with such a freak incident. I am it's not everyday that your dead husband reappears. Also that doctor knows where to hit that it hurts the most, her requests seems benign to an unassuming person. Please seat at backseat, please feed him etc.

So my reason is that right now Pallavi is not in the emotional state to judge or evaluate the situation. She is just going with the flow. She needs someone like Amma or Milind or my be Amma to give her thoughts a direction and see things clearly and how her actions are impacting her marriage

Why it is difficult to say wrong a wrong. What u said is she is wrong but being pushed and she is not able to understand it. All of this is justification for what she did. It doesn't change that her actions r wrong.

A person is judged for his/her actions. The punishment can be less or more based on intentions and situation but their crimes r not justified. So its ok to call out her stupidity and then it can be added that she will learn how every criminal does.

And none of the things said ws normal. In past someone was her husband. Currently someone is her husband. And no excuses for the actions because u cn say most right things in the world, ur actions is what decides the future. Threatening results in restraining order. Beating sends u to jail. Talk vs action.

Originally posted by: lateuser1234

Why it is difficult to say wrong a wrong. What u said is she is wrong but being pushed and she is not able to understand it. All of this is justification for what she did. It doesn't change that her actions r wrong.

A person is judged for his/her actions. The punishment can be less or more based on intentions and situation but their crimes r not justified. So its ok to call out her stupidity and then it can be added that she will learn how every criminal does.

And none of the things said ws normal. In past someone was her husband. Currently someone is her husband. And no excuses for the actions because u cn say most right things in the world, ur actions is what decides the future. Threatening results in restraining order. Beating sends u to jail. Talk vs action.

Yes indeed, her actions are wrong. Her sitting with Mandaar, rushing to Ds without informing Raghav, feeding Mandaar, everything is wrong and can't be justified but(yes I have to use it) we can't deny the circumstances or the difficult situation Pallavi is in.

Also, yes your actions decides the future but we can't look at them as isolated events. Even the law takes into account the circumstances and the mindset of an accused while convicting him.

Killing someone can give u death penalty but killing someone to protect yourself can set you free

Originally posted by: ..sur..

Yes indeed, her actions are wrong. Her sitting with Mandaar, rushing to Ds without informing Raghav, feeding Mandaar, everything is wrong and can't be justified but(yes I have to use it) we can't deny the circumstances or the difficult situation Pallavi is in.

Also, yes your actions decides the future but we can't look at them as isolated events. Even the law takes into account the circumstances and the mindset of an accused while convicting him.

Killing someone can give u death penalty but killing someone to protect yourself can set you free

There was no reason for any of the actions. If she wouldn't have sat, or went or fed him or let him hold his hand, he wouldn't hv died. For me, I m confused, I dont know so I will sit, feed, let ex hold or promising again and again that will visit to take care(implied) is plain stupid. Its not confusion. Human psyche is that whenever brain has to much things to process it goes is self protective mode and avoid new situation and all of these for sure are non familiar new situations.

If he would be falling from the hill or bloodied on back seat and then this happened, most ppl would understand because that is life or death. Here nothing is life or death so u can't use same logic.