Originally posted by: libran90
See, mellowing in a sense that he won't trouble Pallavi to give his ego a kick and torture her. That is the only sense of mellowing I can comprehend. Apart from that, Raghav is incapable of mellowing down more than that, at least initially, when he has to face Pallavi pushing him away. He won't like it. He would want to be close to her, near her and she will just want to avoid him or cut him off altogether. That does not bode well for either.
Raghav's style of love is very different. It isn't domesticated, it's aggressive and untamed. But that does not mean it isn't love. Pallavi hasn't ever seen that kind of love. So she is in for a rude awakening, cause Raghav in love will be even worse than Raghav the egoist Don. Raghav has always set his limits with women, especially Pallavi, which is why she is so comfortable even when she is doing tashanbaazi and badtameezi. He is restrained, and that restraint is solidified by his mind. But love is done from heart and unrestrained, he will go all in Pallavi's space and that will shock Pallavi a lot. And Pallavi continuously withdrawing from him, is going to irk him.
Just remember the night of her absence, Raghav said, "Challenge chod ke kaise ja sakti hai". When he reminds her day in day out to withdraw and leave. So you see, he sees a minute possibility of Pallavi withdrawing from anything remotely connected to him, he goes berserk. Just imagine, when love creeps in here, what will happen. I feel terrible for Pallavi. Cause if she feels Raghav is too much, then sweety, he hasn't even started with "too much" yet.
And finally, elaborating on your point. Amma and Kirti are family that Raghav is born into, he hasn't chosen it for himself. Family will always be there, chahe kitne bhi problems ho, woh rahenge zaroor. Lekin Pallavi is someone Raghav will consciously choose to have for himself, only for himself. And treatment of that kind of choice will be very different from that of a family he is born into. I feel, that the territorial, obsessive, possessive aspects of Raghav Rao will be tripled in this case here. Cause I can see it simmering under his skin, ready to explode. He is holding himself back a lot, have mercy when the volcano erupts.