Random Musings - Nov 15 - 20, 2010 (Week 5) - Uptd - Page 5

Originally posted by: saomom

I may regret this, but here I go.... I'll preface by saying that I'm new to Maryada, understand very little Hindi and am American. However, I'm a mom of a 25 year old son and so I can identify with Devyani's character a bit.

No matter your personal circumstances, as you watch your children grow, you have certain hopes and dreams for them. You imagine how they will turn out, what they will be, etc. When they are young, you are a great influence over them. You help them choose their clothes, with their homework, music lessons, sports etc. As they begin to grow and mature, you continue to influence their lives, while giving them more autonomy. Teenage years are a nightmare. It's like being pecked to death by a duck. You truly believe that aliens have come down and removed their brains. All you can hope for is that the aliens will return in a few years and do a re-install.

Then comes the college age years. They are away from you and you hope and pray that they are remembering your words, your example and your love. All of a sudden it hits you that you are no longer the main influence in their lives. While you had a bit of influence while they were still at home, once they are gone from you, they are on their own. They make their own choices and either reap the benefits or suffer the consequences. It's quite a revelation to a parent. You don't realize what a control freak you are until you have absolutely no control.

Perhaps Devyani is grasping at what little control she had. The only ones she can influence are her children. She still wants to be important in someone's lives. Evidently she has very little say in her relationship with her husband. Who else is she important to?

When your children don't live up to your expectations (and I'm not talking about the gay/not gay thing), it can be devastating. When you realize they are not living up to the potential you know they have, it makes your heart ache. When their choices are less than optimal, you want to pull your hair out. Perhaps some of Devyani's past issues combined with the heartache that comes inherently with being a mother, have made her like this.

I don't see her so much as a creepy mother, but as one who has no where to turn.

Then again, she may very well be crazy. Who knows.

November 17, 2010 - Wednesday

This was a filler episode for me so this take is low on the analysis...sorry! But a couple of things did stand out so here goes anyway!

The episode started with perfect continuity from Priya's fake slap to Aditya in the closing scenes of Tuesday's one. After distancing herself from him by shouting, Priya retreats inside her home. Now, I have been saying for a few days now that Ridhi's acting needs to shape up and this scene reminded me of exactly why. During the post-slap confrontation outside, Ridhi was pretty good. I actually felt Priya's pain and desire to keep Aditya away from the murkiness of her life in her histrionics. But once she was inside her home, the acting was strictly average. Emoting crying is not just about heaving shoulders or wiping eyes. Where was the desperation that Priya's character was to be feeling at that moment? Also...what was with Priya's voice-over in this scene...the modulation did not reflect the emotions...especially the crying! This was one of the first Maryada scenes that has disappointed me.

Back outside, Jaggi is trying to distract Aditya who is thinking about what happened with Priya. The original lover boy that he is, it was not surprising to find him not be angry about the slap and instead be understanding of Priya's feelings.

Back at the Jhaakar house, Brahmanand is getting ready for work and Devyani tries to talk him in to getting Rishabh his job back. In response, Brahmanand makes it clear that he wants no tie with Rishabh. Vidya' and Gaurav's return diverts Devyani's attention who misreads the happiness in Vidya's eyes as a sign that her interference worked. Although Brahmanand fakes normalcy with Gaurav, it's clear that it is not reciprocated. The acting in this scene was spot on and flawless all the way around.

Meanwhile in Ghaziabad, Aditya & Jaggi return to Priya's house and meet her father.

Back again at the Jhaakar house, Imli helps Vidya change and keeps pressing her to confess if Gaurav and she consummated their marriage. Like Tuesday's episode, Vidya's character blurts out the truth about how Gaurav wants a friendship first before proceeding. By now, it should not be a surprise to any of you that I liked the character consistency in this scene. 😆

The episode ended with the most interesting scene of the day...Gaurav getting a call from his girl or boy friend. Just before being interrupted by Devyani, Gaurav said "Tumhe maloom hai main uske saath nahi so saktha"...interesting choice of words. Is this an indication that Gaurav is gay? Devyani also said "Jante ho na" while confronting the caller...not "janti ho na"...another sign? Maybe. I loved the intensity both Indrani Haldar and Dakssh Singh brought to this scene. If you look at Indrani's eyes here versus Ridhi's in the first scene, I think you will understand what I find lacking in the opening scene versus the closing one of this episode.

Overall...it was a decent episode. It amazes me how even the filler episodes of this series have so much more to offer compared to the epic ones of the others.

Loved:

1. The writing: This series challenges me as a viewer to pay close attention to what I see and hear.

As always, feel free to tear this apart...

Cheers,

Jaya

Originally posted by: lovtv

You know I can't sleep with her.