Originally posted by: -Misek-
Hello everyone
This is the first time I m actually making a post in this forum. I have always confined myself to certain post which I felt is worth discussing. I have been reading a lot about ABUSE in the forum right now and this word certainly has grasped my undivided attention itself. So I read that physically beating is abuse. Ok I completely agree but what I want to raise here is that Is abuse limited to PHYSICAL BEATING only? I know one to understand Abuse one must understand first that the power structure of society in which they live and yes in Asian countries males are socially, politically, and economically dominant over females. This societal power structure is reflected in interpersonal relationships and men misuse the power they have in their relationships because they have been socialized to believe they have the right to control women, even using some unaccepted means (Hines et.al, 2007). But what shocks me the most is how majority believes that beating is only Abuse no matter how much of emotional trauma you've been yet since you do not have the visible wounds. I have always believed emotional abuse is far more devastating than physical one as the injuries you get from it might disappear with time but the heartache you've had in the other one always stays there and pinches you every time.
I bet a majority of the forum members here are female, so I would like to ask them do you indeed think abuse is limited to physicality only?? As far as I have known Abuse also consists of Emotional, verbal, psychological, sexual and discriminatory. So coming to the very point of RishBala, I beg to differ from many here as I consider that he has indeed abused Madhu emotionally and also would point the fact that Abuse does not limit itself of beating and Yes I decline to take the reel and real life theory here and would like to request the ones who are reading it to be honest and simply lemme know what you think.
Ps: This is solely my POV yes I do agree many of you might have strong opinions against me but this is what I have been taught and what I believe. I do welcome healthy discussions (I might be late in replying though) and it is definitely not limited to certain fan bases. @ Mods : If you think this is a very sensitive issue to be discussed than I'd be happy to receive the PM from one of you and will edit it accordingly.
Simmy ( As much as I want to keep it to reel life, my heart somewhere is just not letting me, Call me a social worker, moral science teacher or what ever it's the topic that I felt the need to be raised.)
Nice post!!
Italics!! no its normal to feel for the character u feel for.. I made RK bashing posts after the unwedding.. but I must give this to VDians, they never reported my post, nor did they made posts on 'ish ish' moments when a husband was humilating his wife in public../
Regarding Abuse!! You are completely right!! abuse is not limited to physical only..
Rk was abusive to Madhu during the unwedding, but he more than made up for it..
Have u ever seen RK forcing himself on madhu, bent over her in a sleazy manner, with her all disinterested and disgusted?? have u ever seen him trying to kiss her forcibly?? He kidnapped her, but after he saw her leaning to kiss him when he was trying to woo her based on their happy moments.. she tried to go, but did she bite him in disgust the way she bit bhai? was she worried about her safety with RK? so there was an underlying emotion that was still connected.. not that it justifies anything. but RK ended up asking for forgiveness.. and she forgave him for her own feelings for him.. And RK respected her faith, proving to be an ideal husband..
but what bhai was doing to her is labelled as a sexual overture.. the physical manhandling was more than obvious. and the emotional trauma she is being put through is too much.. she is pushing her in every possible way. so bhai has left no stone unturned to confirm to the definitions of each abuse mentioned above.. SO if there is any character exhibiting sadist, and abusive traits, its the 'villain' of the show who we are not allowed to say a word against..
Again, a very well written post..