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Posted: 12 years ago
#51

Originally posted by: _Simmy_



@Bold: Some of the replies did leave me like that as well. I do not know if they are female or male chauvinist but yes they do come up with every reason to prove themselves right which indeed is correct but I do not accept the opinions.

Regarding PH and Channel what can I say, I m an online viewer so do not have much knowledge, But just wanted to ask do they do Disclaimer on age in the begining of the show?

Thanks for reading and commenting
Simmy


I don't think there 's any disclaimer on age but they are supposed to announce that this is just for entertainment and that the content is not based on a real character or incident and such like.

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Posted: 12 years ago
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Abuse?????Naaah if RK does anything thats anything but Abuse. He is god and god never make mistakes😉. If he does something that may 'Look' wrong but he has great purpose behind doing so. Thats what RK is doing with Madhu and she will forget everything so EASILY once she comes to know that PURPOSE of his...🥱 RK o bhagwaan hai, filhaal apni Leela dekha rahe hai, duniya ki i mean Madhu ki bhalayee ke liye
Edited by MonyP - 12 years ago
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Posted: 12 years ago
#53

Originally posted by: MonyP

Abuse?????Naaah if RK does anything thats anything but Abuse. He is god and god never make mistakes😉. If he does something that may 'Look' wrong but he has great purpose behind doing so. Thats what RK is doing with Madhu and she will forget everything so EASILY once she comes to know that PURPOSE of his...🥱 RK o bhagwaan hai, filhaal apni Leela dekha rahe hai, duniya ki i mean Madhu ki bhalayee ke liye


🤣🤣 u cracked me up!!!
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Posted: 12 years ago
#54
Hi Misek 😊
I just read this post after I saw that link of yours on a post.

Anyway I totally agree with you...being a med student I have studied a bit about such things...so I agree there are many forms of abuse - physical, emotional, psychological etc

I believe RK emotionally abused Madhu when he left her so ruthlessly at the altar...but after that whatever he may have done it wasnt abuse...he may have been very pursuasive and persistent but he never tried to harm her intentionally like he did before...She had all the power of the relationship then and she could have ended it with him with properly chosen words..but we all know she did not...

Anyway the second reason I wanted to comment here is because its a neutral post and so I can say what I want without fear of any biasness from you or anyone.
What Sultan is doing right now is also abuse...
He manhandled her, threatened her innumerable times, terrorized her, stalked her, degraded her, blackmailed her, tried to physically force himself on her (which would have succeeded if she hadn't pushed him away and screamed "jaoo" ), pressurized her to do things against her morals and against her marriage and keeps repeating all these things again and again like a set pattern...this is physical, sexual, mental and psychological abuse.
Thank you for making this post. People should learn what real abuse is. I see it everyday in my college hospital...so I was compelled to comment.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Thank you for educating people that they must be moderate when they want to show their displeasure and learn to take out their frustration in a healthy manner, rather than continuously saying the same thing continuously (frustration once you release it that should be the end of the matter, not saying over and over again, that's not healthy criticism). Because it's crossed over into bashing when you do it continuously and use curse words. It's so simple but people refuse to understand.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Our very own viewbie made a post. So nw evryone cn undrstnd da meaning of abuse i hope. Al sorts of glorified criminal acts are actualy acts f physicl mental emtnal sexual nd psychologcl abuse. I see so many people cud c wn rk emtnaly abusd madhu at da alter. So hw cum dy cnnt see al the abuses f sultan nd go on praisng nd suportng hm. Snce we hardly objct to dat so we shud also b alwd 2 make posts to vent our frustratn. F people cn applaud sultan s acts cnt we make posts against it nd point out da truth.? Thnk u misek fr such neutral post nd lettng evryone knw what actualy s an "alround abuse".
Edited by Viviandsenarox - 12 years ago
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Posted: 12 years ago
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WOW nice blast from past .. all the people who shouted abuse in apr are now quite and most are actually supporting sultans vile acts because they think he has some devine reason and few of these people attach sexual meanings/conotations to the vile scenes and few others are dreaming sulbala marriage and suhaag raat after seing chemistry between a harrased married woman and threatening monster...why i am so glad to see real faces of all members of moral brigade .
Not even one post has been made by the so called moral living beings condemning sultan after sultan started his vile acts ...
Edited by armummy - 12 years ago
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Posted: 12 years ago
#58
I am short of words...!!!

Much needed post about abuse/abuser and wtvr 😆

sensible , classy and spot on ...!!!!!


Thank you baby...!!! 🤗👏
Edited by Desichiqneez - 12 years ago
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Posted: 12 years ago
#59

Originally posted by: -Misek-

Hello everyone

This is the first time I m actually making a post in this forum. I have always confined myself to certain post which I felt is worth discussing. I have been reading a lot about ABUSE in the forum right now and this word certainly has grasped my undivided attention itself. So I read that physically beating is abuse. Ok I completely agree but what I want to raise here is that Is abuse limited to PHYSICAL BEATING only? I know one to understand Abuse one must understand first that the power structure of society in which they live and yes in Asian countries males are socially, politically, and economically dominant over females. This societal power structure is reflected in interpersonal relationships and men misuse the power they have in their relationships because they have been socialized to believe they have the right to control women, even using some unaccepted means (Hines et.al, 2007). But what shocks me the most is how majority believes that beating is only Abuse no matter how much of emotional trauma you've been yet since you do not have the visible wounds. I have always believed emotional abuse is far more devastating than physical one as the injuries you get from it might disappear with time but the heartache you've had in the other one always stays there and pinches you every time.

I bet a majority of the forum members here are female, so I would like to ask them do you indeed think abuse is limited to physicality only?? As far as I have known Abuse also consists of Emotional, verbal, psychological, sexual and discriminatory. So coming to the very point of RishBala, I beg to differ from many here as I consider that he has indeed abused Madhu emotionally and also would point the fact that Abuse does not limit itself of beating and Yes I decline to take the reel and real life theory here and would like to request the ones who are reading it to be honest and simply lemme know what you think.

Ps: This is solely my POV yes I do agree many of you might have strong opinions against me but this is what I have been taught and what I believe. I do welcome healthy discussions (I might be late in replying though) and it is definitely not limited to certain fan bases. @ Mods : If you think this is a very sensitive issue to be discussed than I'd be happy to receive the PM from one of you and will edit it accordingly.

Simmy ( As much as I want to keep it to reel life, my heart somewhere is just not letting me, Call me a social worker, moral science teacher or what ever it's the topic that I felt the need to be raised.)

Nice post!!
Italics!! no its normal to feel for the character u feel for.. I made RK bashing posts after the unwedding.. but I must give this to VDians, they never reported my post, nor did they made posts on 'ish ish' moments when a husband was humilating his wife in public../
Regarding Abuse!! You are completely right!! abuse is not limited to physical only..
Rk was abusive to Madhu during the unwedding, but he more than made up for it..
Have u ever seen RK forcing himself on madhu, bent over her in a sleazy manner, with her all disinterested and disgusted?? have u ever seen him trying to kiss her forcibly?? He kidnapped her, but after he saw her leaning to kiss him when he was trying to woo her based on their happy moments.. she tried to go, but did she bite him in disgust the way she bit bhai? was she worried about her safety with RK? so there was an underlying emotion that was still connected.. not that it justifies anything. but RK ended up asking for forgiveness.. and she forgave him for her own feelings for him.. And RK respected her faith, proving to be an ideal husband..
but what bhai was doing to her is labelled as a sexual overture.. the physical manhandling was more than obvious. and the emotional trauma she is being put through is too much.. she is pushing her in every possible way. so bhai has left no stone unturned to confirm to the definitions of each abuse mentioned above.. SO if there is any character exhibiting sadist, and abusive traits, its the 'villain' of the show who we are not allowed to say a word against..
Again, a very well written post..
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Posted: 12 years ago
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I would like to say something.

If you say RK is abuser, anyhow I agree. What all he did in the beginning & then later forced her to be with him all comes under emotional abuse. Okay agreed at your take.

But then this means Madhu is dumb to accept RK again in her life. She was the one who first started having feelings for RK. It was not RK who realized his feelings for her. What was that?
Then later after unwedding, Madhu took the job where RK worked. Why? According to the show, she is a graduate. She could have done any other work. There are lot of beauty parlours & even there are lot of other movie sets where she could have worked. Can't she deny going to the sets alone at night? What would RK do if she does not go?
She could never forget him though she was pretending till the revenge from her side.

Another thing, Sultan forcefully took her with him on a gun point to save his child. Isn't that abuse? In the day light & in front of everyone he took her away with him. What was that? Making someone forcefully do something, what is that? The same thing RK did when he brought Madhu back to his home forcefully & people say that was abuse.

Moreover, when Madhu spotted Aryan in the jungle, he was crying & she went to help him. His father had left him there to spot the goons. Isn't that abuse? Madhu helped him & still he kidnapped her, what is that?

Whatever Sultan is doing right now is what? Abuse or not? Isn't he forcing himself on Madhu? Isn't that called abuse? Or not?

One can not make anyone forcefully do something against their will. You want to say this, right? So that way even Sultan is abusive. If you agree that Sultan is abusive, the same is with RK.

I am not telling you all this as you are the moderator but I am talking to you as a member of the forum.

Please clear this to me.

Please keep one thing in your mind, I do not belong to any fan group. For me TV soaps are fiction shows & so I know they can show something which does not happen in reality. For this reason I am not very attached to any actor/actress/show. I have not particular favourites. But yeah I do love the DD-VD pair a lot. I think they look fantastic together.
I used to watch their earlier shows & I am already done with their earlier shows so I never compare their pair with VD-Sukriti & GC-DD. Those shows are over & so the pair no longer exists (till, if in case someone repeats them).

Also I have watched few episodes of Chhal too which was AR's show on Colors. I liked that character. And in this show I hate the character Sultan. I don't have any ill feelings for AR. You can say I have no feelings for him or any actor. I am not a regular TV buff so I don't get involved very much even in the ATs. I recently joined RM AT & that too because my friends are there.

Neither I hate anyone nor I like anyone. So I don't get mad for any actor/actress/show. Its just that I hate bashing of any actor/actress. Everyone has their own liking & I believe I can't say anything in that & vice-versa.


I want to say more on something else too. If you permit to say in this post, shall I? Its not directly related to the post but it has that topic too.


Regards,
Honey

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