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Originally posted by: 0-SD-0

Remember MM...that weekend, in response to RRR questions/discussiion at length on 10th March, in frustration I was explaining to all why Madhu needs to hinge herself to Aryan ? This is what I was explaining then. It has become her need, which she conveniently manipulates and shows to Sultan and Aryan as you need it ...not me. This is where all that angst comes from when I react. Now do you understand why I sound like that in pms or sometimes in the EDT. I sound harsh...don't I ? Actually I am not harsh, I just want to see things as they are.

Am not replying to each post, but just a few things i wanted to say:

• Madhu is quite secure in her family's love, her family being paddy, Shamsher, Trishna, Roma. She has received unlimited love and attention from them, in compensation for the fact that her biological father wanted to kill her. This insecurity that i'm trying to see is her own monkey in her head, which is not because she feels disconnected from her family. like i said, these childhood complexes are uncontrollable and have a life of their own. It happens to me...when my sons fight and I try to solve the fight, sometimes one of them walks off saying, you always shout at me, you don't love me!! And I'm left staring, wondering when did I indicate any preference, did I by mistake say something?? So Madhu has heard legendary stories of how Shamsher rescued her, but the point to be noted for a child could be, why did my father not want me??
• About insecurities, I have always felt that madhu hides her insecurities very well. She may be a crusader, opinionated, open book kind of person. But she has always been expected to behave, to toe the line, because Trishna has always been the one who did'nt study, had giddy headed ambitions, threw tantrums to get her way. Madhu has been the 'good girl' at home, helping her mom with finances, housework. She is prettier than Trishna, dances better, but never harboured any actress ambitions. When Trishna was angry at any situation in her life, she always took it out on Madhu, saying people loved her more, Madhu does not want her to succeed (remember the face pack?)
• Ego...yes she is egoistic as well. She always thinks she is on a moral high ground, but almost always miscalculates the height😆. The saree incident...there was no reason to it, except that RK ordered her to remove it. She chaffed against that peremptory order. At that point, maybe she really did'nt care if she was wearing his ex GF's saree, did'nt care if she was hurting him, she wanted him to change his tone. Does that sound extremely negative? It does and it is.

For me, she is not a paragon of virtue, by no means. But it makes her seem real, a young girl who is brash, under exposed, impulsive, and makes mistakes. Will she ever learn from her mistakes...that is the story...her story. I don't want her to become sati savitri kind of heroine, doing the right thing, making the right decisions for her family. Do i sound shocking😲? I apologise. ..🤢

While I thought I did'nt want to include RK in these thoughts of mine, by default RK is the only one who has also understood all the above about her. That's why he was able to execute his revenge drama so completely. Having said that, he is also the only person who can ultimately make her see herself for what she is, like she can do the same to him.

Now they know the worst of each other...is there hope for them from this point? To figure that out, we will have to continue watching the serial ...😆

Ok, I want to add...from this point on, I am done with writing on this topic. I wanted to start a debate, which i did. I don't want to get into this side taking, i don't want to sound corny and say i love Rishbala😆, I want to stop reacting and enjoy the MBEIEJ drama, however idiotic. There should be some use of me being one of the older ones in this group right?? Older and wiser and all that jazz. 😆

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  About insecurities, I have always felt that madhu hides her insecurities very well. She may be a crusader, opinionated, open book kind of person. But she has always been expected to behave, to toe the line, because Trishna has always been the one who did'nt study, had giddy headed ambitions, threw tantrums to get her way. Madhu has been the 'good girl' at home, helping her mom with finances, housework. She is prettier than Trishna, dances better, but never harboured any actress ambitions. When Trishna was angry at any situation in her life, she always took it out on Madhu, saying people loved her more, Madhu does not want her to succeed (remember the face pack?)
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Originally posted by: MarathiMulgi

Very nicely put Soundarya about your last post on Madhu.

To me there is no Rishbala or Sulbala or even AryanBala. There is only Madhubala. The flawed character who got her heart broken, life shattered and who now is trying to piece it back together. How she is going about it (i.e. with gangsters, working on RK's set) is immaterial. What matters is she is trying to move on. There is no logic applicable when one is trying to stitch one's heart together by whatever means. That is how I see her. Now I have no problem with who she meets, what rash/sensible decisions she takes. I just want to see her move on. If RK and Madhu are to go their separate ways, then so be it. If they are destined to meet in the future, I will be there to witness it. The way I look at it, these various people who are coming in her life (RK, Sultan, Aryan) are leaving some mark on it, shaping her life. If she learns from it, we get to see a mature Madhu. If not, she may repeat some of her mistakes (we all do. We don't necessarily learn from our mistakes however trivial or fatal), she will suffer setbacks but she has that spirit to pick herself up and make at effort to move on. Neither RK, nor Sultan, nor Padmini or anyone else has any power to either control her or change her. She is the only who will do that if she so chooses.

Originally posted by: simran_singh_24

What is it with RK post separation?

I mean, he throws Madhu out of the house and wakes up in the morning saying, "she left" not "damn, I drove her away" and again in his drunken state he asks her, how can she leave him? I'm not a shrink, but guess there is some disorder he can be diagnosed with.

P.S Wanted to post this her but did it as a new thread, how do i delete that one?Can someone tell me?Thanks.