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@applenpeaches

Dazzler

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Posted: 12 years ago

#231

SD,

I cried reading your previous post. Your post reminded me of the judicial traumas I also had to undergo. I kept quiet about it for the same reason you mentioned earlier, bcos it causes us pain and I dont want to be reminded of those times. My story is uglier than yours in a way. Perhaps in a couple of days I will be ready to share it with you guys. Until then...

- FG ( I signed FG bcos FG is the real person.. Sonu is one living in a dreamy non-existent world.. )

Edited by applenpeaches - 12 years ago

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Foucaults-qalam

@Foucaults-qalam

Voyager

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Posted: 12 years ago

#232

I am just in awe of you. I am too young and too inexperienced to comment adequately.Have never even considered marriage so far because I am crippled by the fear of loss of power it entails. As someone who became financially independent as soon as I became an adult, I have never had to care about parents, society etc in making decisions, as a necessity rather than as a concession I make. So, my pov on the issues above is severely rational, even academic.

I agree completely re our laws being inadequate. Most have not been updated for a century, and do not reflect social reality, or the changed aspirations of people.

The Habermas observation I invoked yesterday applies here too.

Salute.

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Hahaha! As if I'm going to tell you that!

@rahmona_pakswe

Sparkler

+ 4

Posted: 12 years ago

#233

SD, it's never easy to remember a painful past and then share it with everyone. Thank you for sharing your experience with us all.

FG, share only if you feel comfortable. If sharing here feels uncomfortable then there is always PM.

FQ, thank you for opening Meta. Your amazing and intellectual posts have given a new insight and broaden my horizon and through you I have met some insightful and intelligent people.

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Nabakov_Musings

@Nabakov_Musings

Rocker

+ 2

Posted: 12 years ago

#234

this is why i dread marriage..and no its not a teenage phase thing like all my conservative relatives would love to believe..maybe i'll be in love or have feelings , but i also know that they will go away one day. There is nothing platonic and unconditional in this world , and as much as I dive into Mills and Boons and wish i meet a dark hero material kind of guy in my life , i know that i will be too defensive about myself to ever do what my heart says cause the cost of that would be hurt. And I have one life to live..so rather avoid as much as hurt as I can at least from my side..even if i go through distrust it doesn't pain me anymore..Sometimes I don't know who i really am...in the past i was way too emotional and dramatic and sensitive and i know i still am..but sometimes when i go through the worst..its a different contradictary alter ego makes me feel and really naturally be strong towards the worst of situations..i'll never forget last summer...my class 11 AS level boards...it was the day of my literature exam for which i needed to clean copies for reference wthout any notes in them..i went to the library...the dada..or library dada that helps the librarian was only there and helping me..he had seen me grow up from the time i was 9..he was like an elder teacher like figure who helped me in getting fairytale books in childhood..and that very man that day sexually harassed me..I was numb about 5 secs. for sure. But my boards were about to happen in another five minutes..this really emotionally devoid and strong alter ego was like , " Get out of this place , go upstairs and kill the paper. That jerk did absolutely nothing to make you feel numb. He is a piece of shit who isn't important enough to screw your boards. Push him and ace the paper." And I did..I felt nothing..i did my boards well as if absolutely nothing happened and shoved him away...So i met a new person in me that day...The next early morning I had another paper..my mind reeled on the incident mechanically right after the paper was done..i didn't let the harassment effect my performance..I was pretty shocked at myself for that..so anyway..Relationships are something Ii love to stay away from no matter how much my heart will long for someone whether its my family or anyone else...lol.

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bhoomi.s

@bhoomi.s

Explorer

Posted: 12 years ago

#235

SD, FG, RP

You ladies are brave. An inspiration. I can't even begin to fathom what you must have gone through and how much strength it took you to build your lives after that. My hat's off to your courage. Like I said, all I know is books and what my measly mind can imagine. My take on these issues, like FQ's, is purely academic. For all my talk, I must be honest and admit that I don't really know if I ever can be half as courageous as you guys are. SALUTE!

EML re your experience. I've taken some mild verbal harassment (nothing as scary as what you faced), and I froze. Wasn't as strong as you obviously are. I steeled myself up after that and decided I would never ever allow myself to do that again. I understand your fear of relationships completely. I have that 'avoid hurt and risk-taking' mentality myself.

Although I am older than EML, I share her dread of marriage, and that is looming on the horizon. I can't explain to you how much the thought of losing power/control over myself and my life scares me. My parents want what's best for me, of course, but our ideas on 'best' differ significantly. Add to it my own neuroses about relationships and what they entail, and hell's complete. 😆

One very significant p.s. - I'm so HAPPY I met you all!! 🤗 I'm not normally this emotional, don't worry. Just really touched right now. Err, ok, I'm out..

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Shridevi Gaddam

@0-SD-0

Rocker

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Posted: 12 years ago

#236

Girls and Gang,

You made my day. A group Hug.🤗

EML, my bear hug to you and a kiss. You are the resilient one. Like me. Bouncing back.

I had near bad experiences as well 😆. A public molestation in the DTC bus, my first ever lone ride in bus in Delhi at the age of 17. The whole bus as in all the people knew what was happening and I was the clueless idiot again. But I did know that something really wierd was happening and I did not know how to confront the situation. That is consternation and why victims get victimized. Anyways, I never let that affect me. The take home for me on that day was , there was this perpetrator and there was this oppressed and there was the crew of men and women who saw everything and not even one of them had humanity to stand up and ask the perpetrator to stop. Take home. No one helps or at least they think they are not obliged to help. 😳

About the boards ..I lost my way to the examination center. And God only knows how I made it back. Thanks to that kind woman who decided to help me, hear my story and drop me at the center. A stranger who helped me. 😊 I had highest score in that exam. 😆

I regretted lack of sexual knowledge after my marriage.

Before marriage, I was too shy to even think about it. I really do not know what kind of person that makes me. I dread the word "inhibitions" and I know I didn't want to be an inhibited person, but then sex, mills and boons kind gave me revolting feelings. That was my reason not wanting to get married. Then every one around me used to say. Its natural that you feel revolted. But don't worry, the feeling will go away after marriage. Idiots, they could not tell me that their husbands made it easy for them to shed their shyness and that it was not achieved instantaneously and they trained each other around their bodies and contact. All this I got to know when I sat to analyse how their marriage was successful and why mine failed.

Career, the need for our own identity is a big impediment to marriage. because we carry EGO in our heads and it is not easy to let it go. So better not marry at that time. And because parents keep on pestering us, we succumb. That happened to me as well.
Bhoomi, until you find a man who can take your tantrums or willing to give you time and not try to come close to you physically, don't say yes to any marriage proposal.

And FG, RP ...Take your time. This is all healing and reasoning why we went through all this. After all there should be a purpose why things happen to us like the way they happen. 🤗 Yes, there is always the PM mode for us.

FQ, Thank you for creating the META platform. I met such wonderful people here. I have been doing wishful thinking too that this may happen and it happened. There is some altruistic streak in you and also the sure-shot conviction with which you have built life for yourself. Your sort has always been a dream for me. But now actually talking and being with that kind of person makes me feel the company. I only feel, I may improve further. I don't mind humbling myself all over again if it is worth it. I am that good on this front. Burning myself and starting all over again.

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Foucaults-qalam

@Foucaults-qalam

Voyager

+ 2

Posted: 12 years ago

#237

I think everyone should marry in their 30s. As grown up equals with stong identities. Have one child, if that, and try to be companions to each other, and good citizens.

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Nabakov_Musings

@Nabakov_Musings

Rocker

+ 2

Posted: 12 years ago

#238

omg...me today ..rk's bibwi hai ho meri has made me basking in heaven..hes changed beyond my perception...to such an extent..so has madhu..her venom and dsgust for him has gone..she is cutely irritated now like a wife s with her husband..i am loving this..deepu despo can do whatever her pedophelic mind wants now. he accepts her as his biwi.omg im in heaven. *faints*.

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Sima14

@Sima14

Navigator

Posted: 12 years ago

#239

Originally posted by: Escape.My.Love.
omg...me today ..rk's bibwi hai ho meri has made me basking in heaven..hes changed beyond my perception...to such an extent..so has madhu..her venom and dsgust for him has gone..she is cutely irritated now like a wife s with her husband..i am loving this..deepu despo can do whatever her pedophelic mind wants now. he accepts her as his biwi.omg im in heaven. *faints*.

Loved the episode today. Dipz will go any extent to get RK back in her life. Fatal attraction...

even Kukuji was not spared by her action..😆

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Nabakov_Musings

@Nabakov_Musings

Rocker

+ 2

Posted: 12 years ago

#240

Originally posted by: shiv_parvati

Loved the episode today. Dipz will go any extent to get RK back in her life. Fatal attraction...
even Kukuji was not spared by her action..😆

deepu is sick. being a money eater is one thing..sleeping with a guy for fame is another..but plonking yourself as the guys sis in law and still harassing him in a pedophelic relationship is just sick. 🤢

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