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Sujatha.rao

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Posted: 12 years ago

This has nothing to do with KTLK.

My son was telling me about something that happened at his institute. Thought I would share it here.

My son is at IIM Calcutta. As part of their course, they have to do a summer internship for which they are placed through the institute.

They are given a list of companies that they are asked to apply to. Thereafter the short lists are made.

My son has a few classmates who were with during his UG too. Two of them are a couple. They have been seeing each other for the last three years. Now they are together at IIM too.

The internship short listing process is currently happening. In the process, the girl has got a couple of really prestigious short lists while the guy has not. However, the two of them want to intern in the same company or at least in the same city.

The girl has actually given up the prestigious short lists because this would mean that she would be away from her boyfriend. I asked my son if the guy would have done the same if the situation had been reversed. He gave me a scornful look and said,

"Maa, he is not a girl!"

I did not know what to say. Or what to think of the girl. To feel touched by her commitment to her lover or feel irritated that she was messing up her career this way. The moral of the story is that there appear to be sentimental and emotional idiots even amongst the youngsters of today!

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SSA777

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Posted: 12 years ago

Sujatha, great post.

Is it not usually women who sacrifice their dreams... whether it be for their parents or for their spouse. Was watching KBC yesterday, and one of the contestant said that her father did not want her to continue with her studies. Wanted her to marry. Her father's employer adopted her and she then was able to continue with her studies. I am so glad that someone allowed her to follow her dreams.

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Sujatha.rao

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Posted: 12 years ago

Originally posted by: SSA777
Sujatha, great post.

Is it not usually women who sacrifice their dreams... whether it be for their parents or for their spouse. Was watching KBC yesterday, and one of the contestant said that her father did not want her to continue with her studies. Wanted her to marry. Her father's employer adopted her and she then was able to continue with her studies. I am so glad that someone allowed her to follow her dreams.

I know, Sha...but what surprised me was this girl did it willingly. I asked my son if her boyfriend asked her to do it...he categorically denied it...apparently, they even had a quarrel subsequently because he was furious with her because she had turned the opportunity down...but the girl was adamant that she would not go without him...crazy kid!

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Posted: 12 years ago

Originally posted by: Sujatha.rao

I know, Sha...but what surprised me was this girl did it willingly. I asked my son if her boyfriend asked her to do it...he categorically denied it...apparently, they even had a quarrel subsequently because he was furious with her because she had turned the opportunity down...but the girl was adamant that she would not go without him...crazy kid!

I feel that at this age all she is thinking about is this guy and not her future. Hopefully other opportunities come up or she may later regret her decision. You are correct is saying ... crazy kid!

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Sujatha.rao

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Posted: 12 years ago

Originally posted by: SSA777

I feel that at this age all she is thinking about is this guy and not her future. Hopefully other opportunities come up or she may later regret her decision. You are correct is saying ... crazy kid!

I pray that she gets a great opportunity and her guy stays with her too. She deserves both. I told my son this. And you know, it is an inter-religious love affair. The boy is a Hindu and the girl is a Muslim.

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shivani sharma

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Posted: 12 years ago

Great post Sujatha.

After reading your post, i asked my daughter, who is at Harvard Medical School, if she would sacrifice her clinical in a prestigious hospital to be with her boyfriend and her answer was "NO MA i have worked very hard to be where I am today and if he loves me, he would understand it".

I pray for the girl that she gets both and the guy always supports her.

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Sujatha.rao

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Posted: 12 years ago

Originally posted by: sharma.shivani
Great post Sujatha.

After reading your post, i asked my daughter, who is at Harvard Medical School, if she would sacrifice her clinical in a prestigious hospital to be with her boyfriend and her answer was "NO MA i have worked very hard to be where I am today and if he loves me, he would understand it".

I pray for the girl that she gets both and the guy always supports her.

Shivani, interesting you say this...because I asked my daughter the same Q too...she is an economics graduate who is looking to pursue her management degree and then a career in finance...she was categorical that she would not give up a career opportunity to be with the man she loved...and that they would figure out ways to make things work long distance if need be...but if she was likely to find an equally exciting opportunity where he was, and if his job situation would be severely compromised otherwise, she would consider making the move...to which my son quipped that maybe she would end up marrying a man who would become the President of the United States...perforce, she would be the one who would have to make the compromise then 😆

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mudraswathi

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Posted: 12 years ago

Interesting situation!!!

Surprised & shocked with the young man's comment... 'he is not a girl'😲

Now, to answer your question, Iss pyaar ko kya naam doon...

If the girl goes for her career, you could have given the name to that pyaar --- Chetan Bhagat's story... tale of two cities or something similar to that... I forgot..

No...

You can give the name... 'Kuch toh log kahenge'... as ultimately, it is their decision and whether want to have a successful career and spend quality time or just go by the elder's wishes, padosin's wishes or Bhagwan ka marzi... entirely depends upon them...

On a serious note, I will call that girl 'B******f'😡

( This is entirely my POV...and I am not there for next two days ... in case my reply generates some disturbance.. I will reply later...)

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Sujatha.rao

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Posted: 12 years ago

Originally posted by: mudraswathi
Interesting situation!!!

Surprised & shocked with the young man's comment... 'he is not a girl'😲

My son is of the belief that girls think with their hearts and boys with their heads...and with me for a mother, I do not blame him...my responses to most situations are emotional rather than rational...he thinks all the women of the world are like his mother...I think I should invite him to IF...he will soon change his opinions 😆

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shivani sharma

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Posted: 12 years ago

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Originally posted by: Sujatha.rao

Shivani, interesting you say this...because I asked my daughter the same Q too...she is an economics graduate who is looking to pursue her management degree and then a career in finance...she was categorical that she would not give up a career opportunity to be with the man she loved...and that they would figure out ways to make things work long distance if need be...but if she was likely to find an equally exciting opportunity where he was, and if his job situation would be severely compromised otherwise, she would consider making the move...to which my son quipped that maybe she would end up marrying a man who would become the President of the United States...perforce, she would be the one who would have to make the compromise then 😆

Yes Sujatha she also told me that they will figure out something but then she also told me that long distance relationship don't work here.