Was Nidhi really wrong? - Page 4

very well written mudra..and lovely points raised
i will not say nidhi is wrong in feeling bad that her classmates have moved ahead and become qualified doctors, but somewhere she herself is responsible for this, isnt it?
her characterisation ( thanks to the genius writer) has been frivolous, impulsive and non serious about her career. Why is it either marital bliss or career? both can go simultaneously.. aren't most women doing that?
so its a character trait of nidhi that she cannot balance the two... its always either this or that situation for her. now when she has nothing to do, she thought let me pursue my profession...and she isnt a mother yet... if that happens, wonder if she will just forget everything and focus on her baby... while there is nothing wrong in it, but we as women are expected to handle family, career, husband, baby all together doing justice in all roles..whether this is right or wrong is another debate..but most women these days are multitaskers , performing all roles and fulfilling professional ambitions as well, and tht includes me..

Originally posted by: ithasme

Nidhi ws right in choosing martial bliss over her medical job... Bcoz, she did MBBS for her mom's final wish sake.. She wasn't even keen to re-join when ashu hd asked her several times.. She only said to him that she will think abt it.. She ws more concerned abt her love life with ashu than anything else.. He ws,will be everything for her.. That ws her priorty to get ashni's rishta accepted by her family... Anyway watever time that she spend in kotnis as a intern she hs full filled her duty to the point.. Even when she ws given late night duties.. So her dedication to her internship can't be taken lightly on the basis that she went for martial bliss..

Yes.. There was nothing wrong in choosing marital bliss over the professional career...May be Nidhi is right in her own thinking ... but Dr.Jyothika is also right in her thinking...

Here the issue is, the conflict. As it was shown yesterday, Nidhi was definitely put down, when everyone in the hospital were in their own hurry... this is a starting...and it made her think when Dr.Jyothika pointed out what she missed...

In the case of academics... unless you put your efforts you wont excel... Nobody believes in studying just like that and passing with flying colors... there could be an amount of sheer intelligence involved in it... The interest in the studies or the satisfaction in excelling instigates a person to achieve something great and makes work hard ... definitely, this was the background of Nidhi - a 14th ranker...and this is always a seed to have professional ambition...

Uptil here, everything is same for everybody.. But,

the real life issues start for a girl at that point... she is at a fork and two paths in front of her.. both look equally important..infact both are equally important...but both are parallel...while working to satisfy everyone and satisfy self, often takes the toll of her self respect especially when her own colleagues stamp her as 'incapable'... this only the sufferer can understand... not her parents ..not an outsider...

Parents at home, having seen the life and experienced, would like to see their children well settled and they make a choice of marriage as the right age of reproduction for a girl to be immediately after her graduation... but while doing so, how much a girl is losing or facing a mental trouble, only she knows...

Why cant a girl take up housewife-ship as her choice? Why one always have to have a job to prove the worth of her studies? An educated girl can make a better home and can bring up children well...
Yes.. these arguments are very correct... but only on paper..Education teaches us to be confident, ability to handle tough situations and think logically...

when you try to spend time only making up the home, you may not find challenges to face and over a period it becomes a boring routine and this is where the deterioration starts... lose self respect and in turn lose self reliability and interest in everything...

unless you have a challenge you wont learn anything and unless you have a situation, you wont apply your self... This is the main reason why, it is important to have a truly personal and private life for everyone... it is important to have that satisfaction when you succeed.. it is also important to have the financial stability... it is important to have someone accepting and praising for your innate capabilities...

About Nidhi excelling at KGH when she worked... she worked only for very few days that could be countable on fingers... this no one can call as excelling...mere luck...she was at the right place at the right moment... and her working at JS...( more than a miracle...)


Sorry for a long post... but I think I tried to answer many questions not only yours...

Originally posted by: alkaparmart

in india girls didn't get much opportunities compare to western countries and it will take time too.govt is working for that,but peoples awareness is too necessary.talking about nidhi she choosed career by her baba's insist.she was not interested in it.and after that also she didn't take it so serious.ashu also tried that she start her practice but after ashni's patch up she was more interested in marriage not in doctory.so 95% she is responsible for her career.and if she wanted to built her career first she should say ashu that after internship i will merry.ashu is that type of guy who cand understand and he may became agree in her decession.

Nidhi was shown as an impulsive girl... never thought seriously about any thing... But getting a 14th rank is not an ordinary issue... internally she was serious... and sticking to her love to a person 18 years older than her, when the entire world was against her is also not an easy thing if her love was an impulsive one...

She didnot mind taking up a career .. but with right kind of mentoring by Ashutosh, she will prove her self worth...

Thanks for replying.😊

Mudra: wat ws that??? U hv said Many things which i didn't mention in my comment.. Kaha se khaan paucha diya..dear..

Originally posted by: Niks_uae

very well written mudra..and lovely points raised
i will not say nidhi is wrong in feeling bad that her classmates have moved ahead and become qualified doctors, but somewhere she herself is responsible for this, isnt it?
her characterisation ( thanks to the genius writer) has been frivolous, impulsive and non serious about her career. Why is it either marital bliss or career? both can go simultaneously.. aren't most women doing that?
so its a character trait of nidhi that she cannot balance the two... its always either this or that situation for her. now when she has nothing to do, she thought let me pursue my profession...and she isnt a mother yet... if that happens, wonder if she will just forget everything and focus on her baby... while there is nothing wrong in it, but we as women are expected to handle family, career, husband, baby all together doing justice in all roles..whether this is right or wrong is another debate..but most women these days are multitaskers , performing all roles and fulfilling professional ambitions as well, and tht includes me..

Doing justice and multitasking has a glass ceiling ... it is only the attitude... how much ever you try to avid..'kuch toh log kahenge'...they start working on you with out your knowledge...hope this is where Ashutosh will be successful in counselling Nidhi.

Originally posted by: ithasme

Mudra: wat ws that??? U hv said Many things which i didn't mention in my comment.. Kaha se khaan paucha diya..dear..

😆 haha .. emotional outburst ..I guess...

then there was the last line too...

"Sorry for a long post... but I think I tried to answer many questions not only yours..."

Sorry for a long post again..😊😆

Originally posted by: alkaparmart

so please tell me who is responsible for not choosing a career as a dr.though she got 14 th rank.i can understand she is clever.but nobody can force anybody to choose a career.after get 14 th rank also why she did not take that proffe seriously.my pov we always choose the career that if we are interested in it.and sometime we choose our career which is our passion too.so that we can perform good and we can't blame anybody and 24 years is not a very teenage that anybody can't decide our future

She will understand the importance once she is made to understand...hopefully...😉😊

Me thinks nidhi shuld at least complete her internship. Ashu has waited this long. Another 6 months not gonna make a huge diff. Besides,they need time to adjust as a couple.

Originally posted by: deepa_jd

Me thinks nidhi shuld at least complete her internship. Ashu has waited this long. Another 6 months not gonna make a huge diff. Besides,they need time to adjust as a couple.

meeting khatam nahi hai kya... no problem..me expecting a looong..looong reply..😉