Originally posted by: sp12
Many might not agree but I am a bit lost after watching today's episode, while I loved that Sonakshi took a stand for Dev but I am actually surprised and not that convinced the way Dev is approaching the role reversal. I actually agree with Ishwari that nobody was judging Dev, all they wanted was to share the responsibilities as they are all one family and I do not find any wrong with that, I do not know what exactly Dev is trying to prove or achieve here, at the end of the day what is important is that the kids are taught the right things does not matter who does it. Also I found Dev's approach and reaction to the surprise test a bit casual, if it was only Golu getting less marks then I could understand his reaction as he generally scores less so expecting him to suddenly score more with the changed approach would be unfair, but Suhana scored less and that should have raised alarm bells in Dev's mind as herself said that she enjoys Surprise tests so her getting less marks should have alarmed Dev that something is wrong.
I somehow guess Asha is worried about something which she is not revealing as yesterday as well she wanted to say something to Sonakshi but could not and today as well her words to Dev were more that what met the eye. Also it will be interesting to see what happens in the Bose house especially with Saurav & Ronita's reaction now a days to situations. All in all today's episode left me with mixed feelings, guess need to wait for a couple of episodes to see where all this leads to.
Just my POV, apologies if anyone is offended.
@bold pink. I will try to give my understanding. Hope I am able to convey what I feel. For a very long time, Ishwari told Dev that he is good only for earning money. She might not have used those words, but did that through her actions. Ex -- in the initial episodes of the series, there was some scenes where Dev slaps Vickky in front of the hospital where Ishwari is admitted. After the slapping, RR comes and shouts at Dev that he did a wrong thing. Dev doesn't reveal what exactly happened, but just walks away from there. But Ishwari asks RR what happened and the latter says that Dev had slapped Vickky so hard, that Vickky had to go to the doctor and take lot of medications. That his face was swollen. Ishwari pacifies RR and gives money to her for the treatment. Then later goes to Dev and tells him that he was wrong and he doesn't know how to handle people.
This is one example that I am mentioning here. But for the most part of season 1, Dev is shown to be told that he is wrong, who doesn't know anything about how to behave with people. This was told to him by Ishwari, Sonakshi, Neha and most of the characters at sometime of the other. They all ended up blaming him when things didn't go their way or they didn't get what they wanted. Like Neha blamed Dev for not making Ranveer rich without taking into account that Ranveer was not a puppet and was a person of his own. She never bothered to stop herself even once if what she was saying Dev was right or wrong. She was asking Dev to buy her happiness without taking into account that one cannot do that. One has to find their own happiness. And it need not be related to money or riches. A person can find happiness just by helping people without expecting anything. Or he may find happiness in caring for others. But whatever it is, each have to find their own happiness and another person cannot buy or find it for them. No matter how hard Dev worked, he couldn't really bring that happiness to Ishwari that her current job is giving her.
Dev is now tired of everyone telling him that he is not good enough in "personal" way, in understanding "emotions". So now he wants to prove that he is good enough. That he is not dumb and can understand human emotions and cater to it. That he care for the kids like any "mother" can. That mothers don't always know the best.
Dev and Sonakshi are exact polar opposites. When she brings the check back to Dev, she challenges him that if he thinks that he is the only one capable of running and growing a business. That she can do it too. That is also the arena where Dev kind of puts her down by saying you won't be able to earn that kind of money by making diet charts. Before that she was shown to say that she doesn't understand the business concepts and things like percentages, profit -- loss were difficult for her to understand. But now she is doing all these things and is shown to have "won" and proved herself.
In that farmhouse, she challenges that he didn't understand love and that it would never come to his life. That he would never know happiness and wouldn't enjoy that bliss that life can give. With what Dev is doing now, he is set to win that challenge and prove himself. Although Dev left his business and is doing all these by himself, everyone comes to him for advice. Where once they thought that he doesn't know anything about human psyche, credit him for knowing that better. Where once he was told that he doesn't know how to handle relationships, is now shown to be pro in that. He is now happier than Sonakshi. She might be going to office or running that business, but she is not deriving much pleasure from it. In today's episode, when she wanted to put Shubh to sleep, she didn't get that chance. She is shown to kind of eagerly wait for the opportunity to take Suhana and Golu to school so much so that the way she acts saying that she will take them is kind of telling. She misses being the "mom" and resents(partly) that she is away from her children, but has to go to office. She doesn't have the heart to take away the time that Dev has asked of her because he has been so supportive of her. She also wants to support him the way he did her. She is realizing that she is not as perfect as she thought herself to be. And that is what is happening with this role reversal.
From her words, it is like she is waiting for the month to be over so that she can go back to being the "woman". She is finding that being a "man" is tiring and not as easy as it looks. I have said this before, I will say it again that it is about the gender equality and feminism where lots of women say that they want equality and crib that they are not given the opportunity, but when they are asked to let go of the advantages of their gender, they are not ready for it. The usual talks of "men have it easy", and it is women who have to work hard is what the makers are trying to debunk.
Coming to the test and the results, he is looking at Golu and Suhana, just like him. Also SUhana was shown to be sick for several days. So he is not expecting Suhana to get high marks when she did miss several classes. He took over their responsibility as house husband only a few days ago and his month is not over yet. This is the first test, so he is giving them a chance. He doesn't know that Golu came to his room or that he took back the phone or that he is playing that game. But I guess that is set to come out soon. And that will be the straw that breaks maami's reality,
Coming to Asha, I agree that she has things on her mind that she is not revealing. Maybe because she is seeing Sonakshi and her drive towards achievement in challenges in Dev. She has now understood what has happened during the initial marriage phase and she is scared that Dev and Sonakshi are now repeating it, but in reversed role way. That what Sonakshi did at that time when she bit off more than she can chew, is what Dev is doing now. And she fears the end result of it. Especially since small children are involved now.
The serial became very interesting from this week onwards for me. 😆
