Et al, I completely agree with everyone that Natasha would have been a better wife to him and he would have lived a very happy life with her. And that is one of the problems of Sonakshi. She also knows that and that is where all the problems are coming from. She always felt that she was not equal to both Dev and Natasha. Just like Ishwari created her own monster in Sonakshi, Sonakshi created her own monster in Natasha. For Sonakshi, being like Natasha meant not being who her father wanted her to be. And she could't bring herself to disappoint him. If we say both Ishwari and Dev suffered from physiological problems like Ishwari had delusions, Dev had abandonment issues, then Sonakshi too suffers from Dis-associative Identity Disorder(DID, previously known as Multiple Identity Disorder). She tries to be who she thinks the other person wants her to be. She wants to be perfect in every role and be considered as the "best" in every role she plays. She doesn't want to disappoint anybody. On the surface she might seem like an independent and strong person. But in reality she is neither. She cannot make any decision on her own for herself. Reason is if she makes a decision that Dev likes, chances are Bijoy may dislike it. If she takes that decision, Dev will be happy, but she will end up disappointing Bijoy. Or if she doesn't take the decision, she will end up hurting Dev but make Bijoy happy. She doesn't want to do both and ends up doing things which results in a mess which is where it is now.
Even with Ishwari, from the beginning, the makers showed Ishwari to be insecured, but that insecurity reached it's peak with Sonakshi. Here Ishwari was shown to do something that was so different than her character, that nobody was able to avoid how wrong Ishwari was. When Ishwari was shown to be happy after Dev broke up with Sonakshi in the hospital, none of the viewers were happy with the way Ishwari behaved. Even the average viewer without analysis agreed that Ishwari made a huge mistake and questioned how she could be so blind to her son's pain. When it was so clear to everyone including RR. Nobody could ignore that. I feel that is exactly what will be shown in these 30 episodes which will be similar to how it went just before Dev breaks up with Sonakshi in the hospital, where Ishwari ignores Dev's pain, where Dev begins to self destruct, going to Sona - Ritwick's engagement, and then Ishwari begging Sonakshi to marry Dev. Dev - Sona breaking up in hospital to Sona - Ritwick's engagement was around a month, around 20 episodes, from episode 122 - 141 which was the engagement episode. Following this we see Ishwari apologizing and then not stopping till she was able to get Sonakshi to accept marrying Dev. And I feel this is the route that the makers are taking.
Ishwari in her heart knew that Dev was her son, but her mind because of their struggles and situations had created the illusion that he was also her de facto partner. That is what made Ishwari look at Sonakshi as "the other woman" in Dev's life. She couldn't accept Sonakshi till she was snapped back to reality of being Dev's mother. She had used her identity as a mother to justify all her other roles. She knew she had failed as a wife, a sister and a daughter when she stole those bangles. But as a mother she could look at that as sacrifice and paint herself as selfless. That guilt led her to be so possessive of her identity and cause all the problems. In the inital marriage phase, all of the characters were responsible for the breaking up, but the inital break up, Dev was responsible by his impulsiveness and Ishwari by her not being able to accept the reality, the truth.
Sonakshi is exactly in Ishwari's place right now. Just like Ishwari who wanted to be a successful person in every way, Sonakshi wants to consider herself perfect in every way. Just like ishwari she feels like she has failed in all of her other roles except the role of a "daughter". Hence she is keeping that role in the forefront to justify her failures of her other roles like sister, wife, DIL. The time when Dev confessed he loved her, but kept their relationship secret, where she was his friend and gf was her golden period. It was at that time when she was "perfect" in both her roles. She could be the go to person for Dev and Ishwari while also being the perrfect daughter of Bose family. That is the narrative that she is sticking to at this time. So what happens when Dev becomes "friends" with Suhana's teacher. That person will become "the other person" for Sonakshi. She will act exactly like Ishwari. If ishwari overdosed on sleeping pills, Sonakshi will do something equally stupid leading to her returning to Bose house. That is when Bijoy will see that his daughter whom he considered as perfect has become the person whom he despises the most, the one for whom he has very little respect. He will also know that she is that way because of him and his ideals and his exacting behavior. The very principles and values that he is proud of is the reason why his daughter is unable to lead a normal, happy life. That because of his demands, she is now ready to sacrifice the life of her children, ruining their lives and turning a blind eye to their pain. And we will see Suhana self destructing like Dev and Sonakshi ignoring it. No viewers will be able to ignore her flaws and there will be no need for any analysis either. And Sonakshi becoming Ishwari and behaving exactly like her will be Bijoy's biggest failure.
Grace: For a long time, I wanted to see Sonakshi introspecting and realizing the blunders she has made and wanted her to make amends. When the story ended abruptly, I was sad and we didn't see the truth coming out. I really wanted everyone to acknowledge the goodness and greatness of Dev. But when it didn't happen, felt really bad for him. Just like ou guys, even I felt very strongly that he would have been very happy with his life and family if he had married Natasha. Sonakshi might not have been happy with Ritwick or Jotin, but I waould have been ok with that. I had kind of made my peace with those 3 blocked episodes if the makers had not brought the series back. I would have just accepted what they showed. I have seen too much life and it has made me an optimist. I know at the end of the day, things will be ok. When God closes one door, he opens another. He never lets anyone down unless they themselves let go of his hand. He is there in everyone, if only you see it. You never know who gives the helping hand when you desperately need it, but when you are down and think from the heart saying "God help me", you will find help, maybe from the unlikliest corner,, but will definitely find someone who might not magically remove or solve the problems you are facing, but will definitely give youu the strength to fight it.
I have mentioned a few times that I had issues with my pregnancy with twin babies. At that time, I was told that I was to stay in the hospital as an inpatient and stayed there for nearly 2 months on bed rest. being in U.S, and the hospital being around 40 miles away from home, there was not really anybody with whom I could talk to. My husband used to come everyday after work for few hours with our son and that was about it. Because of bed rest, I couldn't do anything except laying on bed. How much TV, that too some local channels can a person watch. Also my ward was next to the NICU(Neo natal ICU), where they kept babies who were born before term and needed extra care. So i was told not to use phone or tablets cause the frequency of internet usually interferes with the machines used in NICU. So they told me not to use my phone a lot. There I found 2 nurses, one Indian and one African American, who took care of me like I was their own. The Indian nurse was an older person who had a daughter who was in college. She used to spend some of her time with me and talk to me, give me courage and tell me everything was going to be OK. The other nurse would make sure that I was always comfortable and treated me as though I was her family. Both of them gave me the strenght to go through everything I went through to save my babies. Even after I lost them, both these nurses, were there for me to face it and didn't just judge me as someone who failed. They both told me that I shouldn't think that I did anything wrong and that is what led to me losing the babies. Both made sure to tell me that I had done everything right in trying to save them and what happened was not my fault, nor I had any control over what happened. They also told me to trust God. And a few years after that,, my daughter was born. She is a healthy girl who loves me to the moon and back. She makes me laugh, gives me happiness and unnconditional love. Positive and negatice circumstances are part of life. Both of them teach us their own lessons and help us to better ourselves. It is up to us whether we learn them or not. And I choose to learn from them. I always feel that there is some good in even the bad thing that is happening. And that is what I focus on. That helps me to be who I am. Today when people tell me that I should be proud of my son, I feel happy that I have done something right as a mother. When my mom tells me that she is proud of me, I feel like I have done my duty and not let her down. When my brothers tell me that they wouldn't wat anyone else as their sister and shower their love for me and treat me like I am special, I feel blessed. When my husband cares for me and surprises me when he buys me things, i makes me feel loved. What else can I ask for. I might not be the best in all these roles, I know I have made mistakes, but it's ok. I am an average person leading a mediocre life but I don't feel anything wrong with it. I am happy.
When I started writing on this forum, I never thought that anybody would like what I wrote. But now I feel overwhelmed with all the love and support that I have got. And that is what I feel life is about. I don't imagine myself to be this great person. But my friends like me. They tell me I am a good person. That is enough for me. I like to count my blessings and give thanks to God for giving me these blessings.
Even if the makers don't show Sonakshi's realization like you guys said, then also it is ok. KRPKAB is not my story to tell. I am just a viewer. I will just watch what they will show. I am happy the makers got these 30 episodes to end the story in a meaningful way. But if they didn't I know that it is not in my control. I have better things to think about and worry about than some fictional tv series. Also this is just one of the series, that's all. There will be others. In the 90s there was a serial "Kshitij yeh nahin". I watched that serial when I was in college and still remember it. It is still one of the best serials I have watched till date. Maybe the other new serials that are coming up like Haasil and Ek Deewana Tha might turn out to be good too. I will just enjoy it while it lasts, that's all. 😃 😃
Edited by Shaavi - 8 years ago
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