It is hard to watch Dev and Sona go down this spiral where they push each other away because of their own personal fears and hang-ups, but it's such rich food for thought! Moreover, it brings back so many echoes of other tracks that have revolved around their fundamental differences as people who see themselves, each other, and the world in very different ways.
Dev has some serious abandonment issues. No two ways about it. Unresolved feelings that date back his father's death and his mother's subsequent struggle haunt him every day, not to mention Sona and his sisters leaving him seven years ago. He is mortally afraid of losing the people he loves and his knee-jerk reaction when that fear is provoked is to hold on to his loved one as tightly as he can. Like Shaavi mentioned, it is that same knee-jerk reaction, for fear of losing Ishwari, that caused the first break-up, and the same train of thought that caused him to lie about the infertility and Sona not being pregnant. In other words, when Dev feels his world being threatened, he becomes a control freak to try and keep everyone safe, and in that process, cuts off communication. That is exactly what I see him doing now.
These traits were a lot less visible in Dev 2.0 because after Sona left, he learned to embrace chaos to a large extent -- in fact, he let the chaos consume him. Now that she is back and he has taken a leap of faith back into sansaar, he is struggling with these fears once more. As he himself told her when they were sitting together in the garden, love is not rosy for him because of the fear that it brings with it of losing the ones you love.
Sona noticed this fear in him when they were at the coffee shop, and she wanted to make it go away, but instead of acknowledging the gravity of what had happened, and apologising for her lack of proper communication, she tried to pretend like it was no big deal, and an already pensive Dev went completely quiet on the communication front. This communication gap was only exacerbated when she did everything before he woke up in the morning and was ready to head off to the office. There isn't really enough evidence to say this yet, but it's possible that Sona was also a little shaken by how much she needed Dev in the previous night. She isn't used to being so dependent on someone, nor does she like it and it's possible, though still speculation, that she is also feeling a little sensitive in this regard. The scuffle that happened over the investor was an important echo of the 5-crore fiasco, and it'll be interesting to see if this provides some kind of resolution to those issues.
As I said in my previous post, it's not easy being a woman in the corporate field. People are 100 times more ready to lift a finger against you and find loopholes through which they can put you down. Sona may be smart, intelligent, hardworking etc, but tomorrow, there will be some insecure person who will want to take away the merit she has earned and will use her marriage to Dev as a soft target. By keeping her identity separate, Sona wants to avoid the possibility for someone to lift a finger in that regard; she wants any successes to be entirely her own, and that is her perogative. What Dev did is not categorically wrong -- neither here, nor in the case of the 5 crore investment, but it's wrong for him to do it behind Sona's back and against her will. Dev took her desire to gain success purely on her own very personally, but it's not a personal issue when it comes to women being denied promotions because they get married or have children. These issues do matter, and merit fals by the way side in the face of them. Sona's battle was to try and stop those issues from clouding her merit and Dev does need to understand that -- it's not an attack on his position as her husband.
The way Dev was behaving after Sona's meeting today, that false cheerfulness and casual attitude, reminded me a lot of the scene when Sona sat on Dev's bike and tried to convince him to get remarried. She had also cut off from him completely, refusing to discuss the core issue at hand, and instead trying to control everyone else so that she could keep her feelings in check... pretty much a mirror image is happening with Dev now. If that track was to show Dev just how deep Sona's fear of her own feelings ran, this one is to show Sona the extent of Dev's fear of losing her.
Edited by Samanalyse - 8 years ago
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