Offtopic / Chit-Chat Section

Humans need both - individualism and the feeling of togetherness, of shared identity. It always had been like this. The communication tools in today times just give us more options to mask the feeling of being alone in a crowd or being a 'quasi outsider' that often goes hand-in-hand with the expression of individualism. I don't think that it is the wish for individualism as such that is the crux but a trend to avoid personal interaction which is much more complicated and demanding than just hiding behind a screen. Often, one isn't 'forced' anymore to confront interhuman problems and to 'feel' others.

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everyone is busy with smartphones, posting on social media. If someone enjoys being alone, its a good thing. but it might be tough love for people who love being around people, they will feel lonely. today's social structure is like that, nobody has time for others anymore. Dare I say, nobody has good intention for others anymore. Everything has turned into a competition and facade even cruelty, therefore creating more loneliness. See the recent news of crimes, those are so brutal and merciless. no wonder there are so many people suffering from depression etc. its a win-win for psychiatrists.

I agree. The world has become a cold, cruel place.

I believe it also depends on country and state you are living in. You have to decide what you really want in life and then you have to network at the right places and at the right time. I believe in spiritual journey. You have to be connected with your inner self. You must find kindness within yourself before you find kindness in others.

Healing takes time but first make an initiative. There are good people and when you find them, ask them for a coffee and the worst thing they will say is a No. but you gotta take risk in life. Let people know you are praying for them, or wishing or sending them good vibes. Now a days no one communicates. People say they like to be alone but they get into a friendship or in a relationship to escape the loneliness. I think awareness of your own action is important. With AI and social media things will change dramatically and we must prepare for it. But at the same time hold on to good people in your life. Let them know they are someone special in your life. Life is too short to wish on something but do on something. Continue seeing a talk therapist if that helps you. Start journaling if that helps you. Do what you believe will help you grow as a beautiful plant.

Smartphones need to become antique piece like television. only then social structure will be restored to some extent.

When television first came, everyone became obsessed with it. its ridiculous to even think that we loved tv so much back then even neglecting studies. now same with smartphones.

but smarphones are more dangerous imo. there are all kind of information there, how to kill someone, how to that, how to this. Its influencing people in the wrong direction.