Humare raste alag alag

I was awed at the depth of devakshi's conversation tomorrow. The low and almost cracking voices, the tights smiles, and the slow but easy conversation added to the charm of the scene. Firstly I would commend on this thirds angle they have brought in which for the first time I have seen in not about jealousy but much deeper issues. It brought out every characters' clear stand on the issue.

Beautiful post. Especially loved this part " It's like if they aren't together it will only hurt themselves but if they do then it will hurt everyone."

Originally posted by: YASHO1997

I was awed at the depth of devakshi's conversation tomorrow. The low and almost cracking voices, the tights smiles, and the slow but easy conversation added to the charm of the scene. Firstly I would commend on this thirds angle they have brought in which for the first time I have seen in not about jealousy but much deeper issues. It brought out every characters' clear stand on the issue.

So let's start with the two sets of parents first. Here both parents are only scared of their beloved children being hurt. They have seen the pain each has gone through in the seven years. While bijoy saw his happy smiling daughter loosing all the sparkle from her eyes, ishwari witnessed his son going away from the family and her, being present only in body. So yes it is only natural they are scared. The issue lies though in the way they have decided to deal with it - by moving away. It is an actual psychological way of dealing whenever threatened or hurt. You move away from others do as keep yourself from getting hurt again. But that keeps you from actually living and forming any genuine intimate relations. Is isn't that exactly what the two are doing? One threatens to stop eating and the other to move out of the house while forgetting what long term consequences it may have over the lives of their children. It is okay to worry about their children but they have to realise that they can't live without getting hurt.

Now coming to our leads. Post leap these two really have become mature which is clear in their conversations recently. Yesterday's being just one of them. The situation stands that they both know that they love each other but are held back by their ugly past, for the fear that they relationship will burn to ashes again. This place where the have a beautiful relationship of trust companionship and friendship is safe.

They have come to understand their relation quite a bit now. Both have admitted to mistakes, dev had hinted at how they jump to misunderstand the other, and that if they try to take it a step further it will only lead to more fights. And added elements of soha and both parents only complicate the situation more. It's like if they aren't together it will only hurt themselves but if they do then it will hurt everyone.

At this point, they themselves were not wanting any more of their relationship. They were happy to be friends care for other, laugh and enjoy each others company. But even before the hope of wanting each other could arise to hat window was harshly closed by their parents. Imagine how difficult it would be now to not even themselves hope or dream. Given the time they might not have ended up there but the journey of wherever they would have decided to stand would have been beautiful.

A last point, people say hey are being influenced and should 'stand up' for themselves. Honestly I don't know what that would entail. I mean when your parents threaten to leave the house or stop eating there is not much you can do. At least I don't know what I would have done. So at this point probably given up this unnamed relationship seemed the right thing to do. After all there was nothing like that to give up... Nothing was there right?

And some of their mind was also there in this decision. Sona knows that they can't be a relationship again as she had already said to dev that day. Even dev knows they are dysfunctional in that way as he had said to his mom. And as to the issue of marriage, he himself is confused because he hadn't thought about it specially after sona came back. He had all he needed in her. He was complete again. It is only obvious that he must have felt terribly alone these years like he confessed yesterday. So this remarriage idea would not be far away. But what he needed was a last confirmation from sona. She wanted to hear from her mouth that they really had no chance and he should get married. That what she did. But even then he had a tight smile when saying if you r happy. So I don't know what decision he will take.

But you know an inkling I have?

He is not yet considering what marrying someone would mean. It would mean the instinctively thinking about and reading out to sona no matter what he needed would have to stop. He would have to find a friend and confidante in someone else which I am not sure how successful he would be. So may be now he would agree but then as he realises the significance would put a stop to it. Again I don't know exactly what would happen. The precap, katri truth, ishwari reaction all is yet to happen.

So I have no idea what is going to happen

Only incredibly proud because I have not seen such maturity in a couple yet on Indian TV.

I agree to everything that you said but not the once that is highlighted in BOLD. No one has the right to blackmail you . Not your parents and not your kids. To answer your question

1) Bijoy leaving the house : Sonakshi should have told him that even she will leave the house taking Soha and start a new life else where...if its about emotional black mailing kids can do much better than their parents...so in a family if each of them wants to achieve their needs then all they need to do is emotional black mail ??

2) Ishwari and her hunger strike : Dev should have said he will also not eat untill she eats and should have walked out ..what would Ishwari have done ?? nothing ..he should have told her that being a mother she had no rights to emotionally black mail him , infact by doing so she is trying to distance herself and teaching a wrong lesson to her child. To achieve what ever they wanted thru blackmail.

Simple question is when your kid is adamant that he or she will eat food only after you buy a toy of his or her choice will you give in ?? NOPE !! you will tell them openly since they tried to emotionally black mail they are not going to get that toy ever again. Once you show your strong side and prove that your not going get trapped emotionally then the other person will give in...

BUT BLACKMAILING IS NOT RIGHT AND SHOULD NOT BE ENCOURAGED !!