Originally posted by: sjain
Tia..I would like to put something regarding your post about Soha Golu..and Dev
Firstly I would not call it as favoritism..Yes dev has been a person who has always focused on one person at a time which he has been doing with Golu as well from past 7 years ..like the incidents you mentioned right from Ishwari to Sonakshi then back to Ishwari then back to Sonakshi and when he had to divide it between these 2 he couldn't do it..Yes its true ..but apparently I would not compare Dev not balancing between Sona Ishwari to Dev balancing between Soha Golu..the big and prime reason of it for me is they are kids and these 2 were adults..the kind of support effort he probably needed from a 60 years old and 26 years old he couldn't get was also one of the reason things didn't work out ..and ended up failing but with Soha and Golu..Also adults demanding attention to kids demanding is also very different..With Ishwari Sonakshi he had limited ways to handle situations but with kids he has certain liberties to make situation better..Adults develop grudges if they don't get what they expect..kids dont do so..they show what they have (mostly ,except some unusual situations)
Now coming to Neha Dev situation..In my opinion neha dev situation was vastly different from GOlu Soha's ..Neha was deprived of her basic rights and needs..what were the reasons of it is a different issue all together..but here Golu is not ..Dev is providing both his kids equal facilities and love..Dev was pushed more by Ishwari not because she did favoritism..but because she felt Dev can take responsibility of the house (monetarily)..because of old style thinking( as the only male member of the family)..but she never felt Neha is less responsible or considered her less in anyway as she left nikki riya completely to her..but yes she couldn't provide both her kids equally facilities ..not because she preferred Dev over Neha no..because she didn't have option..Neha developed this feeling of inferiority probably when she became mature to understand things not probably much as child (I feel)
Now coming to Vicky Dev..This is a better example and fits the situation in better way..well Yes Vicky too must be jealous of Dev..seeing him getting successful and its absolutely normal..its not because mamaji favoured or praised Dev..but because mami fueled vicky's jealousy is a wrong way..instead of pushing him to do better..Had it been mamaji handling Vicky..he would have influenced him a completely opposite way..but unfortunately mamiji controlled his life..Even if mamaji praised Dev its not to show Vicky that he is useless but to get inspired and be successful
Bijoy SAurabh relationship..well the most transparent relationship I guess..Bijoy too loved Sonakshi a bit too much as per his confrssion but that didn't make him think less good for his other kid..he taunted irritated Surabh byt constantly poking him to be as good as Sonakshi..now its like an opposite example of Vicky mamaji situation..where Vicky developed this bitterness for his fathr..Saurabh took it lightly not developing any anger for him or blaming him for siding up with Sonakshi
Well for me atleast If Dev cheating for Soha in a game with Golu isn't going to distance Dev from Golu ..or Golu to develop any ill feeling against Dev..yes He will feel bad & jealous too but I consider it as a normal trait of anyone's childhood..Also Now If Dev is wrong or not..here I don't think so..like I mentioned in my previous post as well..He must have done that in past for Golu as well..yes Soha is his daughter and golu his nephew..but for a person like Dev giving extra attention to Soha just because she is his own blood is something not him..its unlike Dev.. yes him doing something special or trying to put extra effort to make her happy is only because he lost 6 years of her life..and wants to make up for that ..Also Dev needs to just spend time with Golu make him feel loved & give him some attention involving him in things..thats just how it shud be..like usually he talks to Golu in friendly way..sharing things with him which he has been doing from past 7 years..In fact I feel He shares an extra special relation with him..He is not just a fatherly figure or family for him but also Golu has been a well wisher , a confidant ,buddy, emotional support for him..I would not doubt Dev's feelings for Golu ever
No offense My POV
Well written Mahua di 👍🏼
Since the entire sequence is still not aired, one cannot exactly understand under what circumstances Dev might have done what he did. But whatever I have written is more from the child's POV, how the child perceives the situation than the adult. Yes, little children do not hold grudges, but after a considerable period of time they learn to hold them, eventually as they grow up.
I do not disagree with what you have explained regarding Neha or Vicky's situation. But a young Neha would not have understood Ishwari's obligations and hence her demands, but those days left a mark on her till her adulthood as well when she could understand her mother. She too learnt to hold grudges against Ishwari while growing up. She would understand her mother doesn't mean she wouldn't feel bad for herself or wouldn't hold grudges.
For Vicky, Mamiji did fuel his jealousy in a wrong way and it was supported by Mamaji's taunts for Vicky (not by Mamaji's praises for Dev; we look at what other people have only when we are not satisfied with our own), because those taunts made him more jealous of the praises to Dev by his own father to Dev. He wanted to be praised by his father, but ended up getting taunts (We often heard him complaining "Papa always keeps taunting", throughout pre-leap). If Mamaji handled Vicky in a more understanding way, it would not have been the case and he would have learnt healthier ways to compete.
For Saurabh, we saw old resentment bubbling up in him in today's episode against Bijoy for being so controlling, when he manned up for his sister Sona in front of his wife; a resentment which we did not see starkly when Bijoy ridiculed his undergarment business.
(I agree with your last part and I have posted this paragraph of this post in pg-12 of this thread as a part of another reply): Of course. I never doubted Dev's love for Golu and while writing the post I did remember the FD incident while writing the post. But Golu may not know all that; besides he, being kid, doesn't understand money-power-politics and all that complicated stuff that RR and Vicky are playing currently. All he wants is his BigCha's love and attention. He is ready to share it with Suhana as long as his BigCha remains his. Also Golu cannot peek into Dev's heart to know how much his BigCha really loves him, he can only see its manifestations in front of him by Dev's actions. Dev being an adult needs to understand this.
Since I still live with my parents and watch them treat me as their daughter, everything I see is from the eyes of the child in question. Hence my POVs may differ from the parents/guardians in general.
Thanks for reading😊
Edited by dreamy.tiara - 8 years ago
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