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Posted: 8 years ago
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Beautiful article.
I skipped infertility track.i just went wid written updates and clips.infertility track was so insensitive,inhuman.tht track made women jus a baby Carrier.i felt like it was insulting woman folk.No doubt its fiction show bt cvs should hv shown some sorts social responsibility.in a country like india ,Thy took such sensitive issue and ended it by giving bad message. Tht track completely ruined dev's character. I expect him to stand wid sona atleast at dis point of situation as husband.bt no he was all lost in his mother's world.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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its amazing.. TFS @tia..i wish dev bhi itna supportive hota..

there's a famous saying - "when u like a flower, u just pluck it.. but when u love a flower, u water it daily".. but sadly! dev never understand it.. his love is obsessive.. he doesnt respect her
Edited by TwinFlames - 8 years ago
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Originally posted by: Tia.0

Exactly. A husband's support goes a long way. If the husband doesn't stand by her, who will the wife fight for and why? When women have kids, sometimes they fight for them. But here that was also not the case then.


Precisely. This was the root cause of the divorce and this is why they should not get together unless Dev changes his perspective.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Nice article :)
I wish the girl confided in her husband, right on Day 1 - she would have got the true picture of her husband right away and wouldn't have to undergo this torture at all.

Every woman, in my opinion, should marry the guts in a guy, followed by family values and culture.

But most of all, marry when you are strong and can prioritize yourself over everyone else. Only then you will be in a capacity to sacrifice when needed.

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Posted: 8 years ago
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Very Nice.

The problem with life is most people tend to be excessively subjective in their analysis, well beyond reason. It is a delicate balance between objectivity and subjectivity that is required. this article nicely sums up the relationship tangle, especially in India.

also, i think much of what DIL's go through in India has also to do with Indian culture and society. It has been a victim of itself since ages... what mothers have gone through, daughters go through.. it is taking time to break through the mould. One can say we have a rich culture, one can say that we are oppressed.. the views are largely depending on what one actually experiences. The fact of the matter is a lot has got to do to with how we are taught sensitivity for others. That is true culture and transcends any culture of any country or clan. If the age old saying is truly applied - do unto others what you would like others do unto you- in day to day life, all relationships would be in a blissful state.

Yes, for a person entering a home, as the daughter-in-law usually does, a lot depends on the husband and his approach. it definitely takes two to tide the relationship tangles in a new home. Husband and Wife together, and ONLY them together, is all that is needed.

i come back to my own experience of years of married life. My wife is more intimately acquainted with my family than i can even imagine to be. All i did was to stand by my wife and she did the rest. A wife is invariably like that. If the man supports her, she can move mountains.


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Posted: 8 years ago
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Nice article Tia. Thanks for sharing.
I have seen even Mamma's boys learning to balance and stand by their wives, with time.

Marriage needs to be worked upon with sincerity, respect, mutual understanding and above all empathy. Love is another aspect but without these, love alone wont stand a chance.

People like Sonakshi and Ishwari exist. Sonakshi is strong where as given the circumstances I have seen DILs committing suicide. Mental harassment in rich households play its role.
The other DILs facing similar situations are able to survive bcoz of husbands support. these husbands are definitely not the perfect specimens. They too are flawed. But they support their wives in their own ways.

Perfection need not mean you have to set everything correct for your wife. No. It only means provide a support system for her to work it out by her ownself. She'll figure out and handle on her own.

When DevD asked to Bijoy about being perfect husband, I think he should have got his answer. No one is perfect. Neither was Bijoy. But he must have made some adjustments and definitely given Asha the right she deserves. In the Bose family, we see Asha taking the final call even when Dida is present. I believe that is something Asha wont have achieved without Bijoy's support. But then again, Dida and Ishwari look poles apart. So, no comparison.

DevD needs to learn some important life lessons.

Sona needs to learn to ignore people and not rush her decisions.
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Beautiful!
We all know that this is what KRPKAB was promised as. The reason many people left this show or many people are not interested is not because of Ishwari's mentality. It's due to Dev's mentality.

He is the Worst ML ever!!!
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Posted: 8 years ago
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Bcoz of these issues, current generation don't want to stay with parents.
All I want is people should start standing up for right things. In many families, mother bear just bcoz of children. But this gives wrong image for children. Like girls think, it is their destiny to bear and boys think it's their privilege to behave superior. So i beleive It should start from home. We should give right image to our children. No one can take any one granted.


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Posted: 8 years ago
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Oh, I largely skipped that track too. Simply because it made my blood boil. I agree with you, Shruti. Two people marry each other and they hope to have children. But whether it's due to the husband or wife they can't, that is no excuse to make the person already traumatised to feel worthless. What if the husband suddenly develops cancer? If the wife makes him feel a burden because now he is sick and he can't do everything she hoped they will do together, is that acceptable? Then why is it acceptable to make a woman feel worthless because of her not being able to give birth?

Originally posted by: shruti.

Beautiful article.
I skipped infertility track.i just went wid written updates and clips.infertility track was so insensitive,inhuman.tht track made women jus a baby Carrier.i felt like it was insulting woman folk.No doubt its fiction show bt cvs should hv shown some sorts social responsibility.in a country like india ,Thy took such sensitive issue and ended it by giving bad message. Tht track completely ruined dev's character. I expect him to stand wid sona atleast at dis point of situation as husband.bt no he was all lost in his mother's world.

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Posted: 8 years ago
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You are absolutely right. Taking your flowers analogy, Dev plucked the flower, planted her in a hostile environment and he didn't give a drop of water to nourish it, but kept putting fertilizer in private and when the flower died without water, he blamed the flower for not blooming. And the fact that he is still blaming the flower just shows how unsuitable he had been and still is as a gardener.

Originally posted by: TwinFlames

its amazing.. TFS @tia..i wish dev bhi itna supportive hota..

there's a famous saying - "when u like a flower, u just pluck it.. but when u love a flower, u water it daily".. but sadly! dev never understand it.. his love is obsessive.. he doesnt respect her

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