*Season 2, Week 11* Analysis Thread - Page 20

Originally posted by: Samanalyse

Today was all about Dev and Sona releasing some horrible, pent-up feelings with Asha as the sounding board. And it was definitely a throwback to slapgate. Dev's gesture was undoubtedly a threatening one, and it was in very poor taste, but I think I got what he was trying to say. At the time of slap gate, he was very hurt that the Boses thought he had slapped Bijoy on purpose, that he was the kind of person who was capable of doing that. Now, he keeps mocking Sona with the line, "mein Dev Dixit hoon, kuch bhi kar sakta hoon," a dark reference to the villain he was unfairly (he feels) made out to be. Every time Sona tells him he is crossing the line, he asks her through this dialogue, why are you surprised? Don't you believe me capable of much worse? His gesture today had similar meaning for Bijoy.

His anger itself, I think came from the fact that for once, everything was going well. It reminded me of his shock when he came home after Ishwari had told Sona she was pregnant. He saw the Boses happily eating at the IN dining table and he saw the family tree that he described today. Dev knows that it is very rare to get his mother in this accommodating, non-intrusive mood, and he was so happy to show Golu what a real family looks like (isse kehte hai family). Bijoy's comment was a rude awakening, a reminder that he was an outsider who was considered selfish, crass and materialistic and I think it brought up a lot of suppressed frustration and anger from slap gate, when Bijoy accused the Dixits of being new money and caring only for wealth.

With that gesture, he was saying, "I am angry. This is what you think I will do because this is how low I am in your estimation. I will show you where your mind is going and then show you how different I am from your assumptions." He has been nursing this retort, wanting to communicate it to Bijoy since that day. But what is missing here? Genuine humility and apology from Dev. Even when he did accidentally slap Bijoy, he was more concerned with convincing them that he didn't do it on purpose than he was with genuinely apologising. He was angry that the Boses didn't believe him, and he has been angry all of these years that they thought so little of him all along. That anger had to subside for him to feel genuine remorse, and Asha gave him an outlet without indulging his views. Instead of snapping back at him, she let his own conscience catch him, and left without accepting his apology. Dev has to live with this guilt now, and find his own retribution, a fitting punishment for his impulsive actions and the only way he will learn that he is not doing anybody any favours by controlling his anger. It is the demand of basic decency, no matter now badly triggered he is.

Asha's conversation with Sona was the most beautiful part of the episode. Sona's last and best fairytale has been razed to the ground, but in its wake a small sprout of hope has taken seed. When she was married, she tried so hard to match the level of perfection her parents had achieved after 30+ years together, and she expected Dev to do the same. It is only today that she is learning that her parents didn't always have their fairytale; they worked for it. In fact, Asha and Bijoy are still working on their relationship. Asha credits her decision to stay quiet for the first few years as the foundation of her marriage, but did being a good wife to Bijoy, giving in to his anger more often than not, compromise her ability to be the best mother to Sona? Maybe, and she is still ready to learn and change as life demands, and ask that Bijoy do the same. She showed Sona a new possibility today, that perfection isn't born; it's created.

Just as Dev thought he was doing everyone a big, huge favour by controlling his anger (after making a big show of it), Sona thinks she did everyone a favour by tolerating the taunts that Dev's family threw her way; she expected to be rewarded for that tolerance in the short term. What Asha is conveying to both of them is that they shouldn't see their tolerance/control as a favour to anyone but as building blocks of a strong and resilient relationship, one where they can learn to respect each other and most importantly, be good parents to Soha.

Originally posted by: Samanalyse

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Originally posted by: Mishti_94

Here's my take on Today's episode!

Asha was fabulous today.

Rather she is fabulous Always.

As many of you have been giving these lovely viewpoints about Sona's character growth in this season, Asha just took that process up a notch today. This season is really about Sona. Just because he is a good father to Sona does not mean that he is a good husband to Asha. This was an important thing pointed by her to Sona. She clearly stated that her life with Bijoy was never a bed of roses but they worked hard to overcome the shortcomings and come to a middle ground and that is what has made them a happy couple at this late stage in life. Not only did she kind of partly justify Dev's outburst, but she also indirectly told Sona to give her marriage a second chance for Soha.

Asha's character is actually a foil to Ishwari's character. What Ishwari is not, Asha is. While Ishwari did not get enough time with her husband in her life to understand these knitty gritties of marriage, Asha has had the full experience. Ishwari spent the majority of her life making Dev her world followed by her daughters. This os also a reason why she wanted to have a vice like grip over Dev's life. Because for her, her life revolved around Dev. She never knew how to live out of it. So she never understood Dev and Sona's relationship either and viewed Sona as someone who would snatch her happiness=Dev. On the other hand Asha knows how life after marriage works. That there are a great amount of sacrifices and adjustments involved to make a marriage successful. That is why even before Devakshi separated she would always ask Sona to understand everyone's POV before reacting at a negative situation.

And till now, she Continues to do the same.

Here's what I think of Dev's reaction.

Basically Dev had been shelving off all the insults Bijoy would be throwing at him every now and then. Dheerey dheerey his anger kept building up bit by bit. Bijoy keeps doing everything in his power to make Dev feel unwelcome. But Dev is here just for Soha and therefore doesn't let his anger come to the fore. But if someone repeatedly keeps telling you that you are a terrible person,its human nature to burst once. For Dev the trigger was Bijoy's comment not only to Ishwari but to Golu too. Bijoy's reaction to Ishwari is justified. But his rudeness to Golu has no justification whatsoever. So when Dev saw that Along with Ishwari, Bijoy was annoyed with Golu too, he forcefully and painfully had to tell him to go too. Because if Golu Stays Ishwari stays too.

Now behaving that way with a child is really unfair. So Dev burst. And he talked about not letting any relatives go from Bose House to IN or vice versa during Dev and Sona's stays. Now Dev knew that Bijoy's dislike for Golu stemmed from his dislike from Ishwari, so he told Asha that Bijoy didn't have to insult Ishwari because as to Dev Ishwari came because Golu wanted to come.

As far as Bijoy is concerned his reactions are completely guided by his immense anger towards Dev and his hatred Towards Ishwari. Sadly today he lost control and let it trickle onto an innocent 6 year old who calls him Nanu. Bijoy is not this person. I hope he realises his mistake towards Golu soon. And About his reaction towards Ishwari, I have no problems with it.😆

Also I am loving all the discussions here!

Helps me to understand thing so much better.

Special Thank you to Shaavi Di, DQ Di, Sam Di, Areeba Di, Tia and whole lot of others who explain things so beautifully!

Thank you! :D

Originally posted by: sia.krpkab

There's was a scenario in season one when Asha was striving to be a writer/author and was seen lamenting that both Bijoy and his mother have never been disrespectful or evil to her and she had no bitter memories of sufferings from them , due to which she has no inspiration to write a sad story - I am not sure why and how she came down to narrating her 'dukh bhari dastan' and Adjustment story. It was really lame!
I wish Cvs could use more brains and don't come up with lame reasons for reconciliation and justifying Dev's unnecessary arrogance and hyperactive reaction.