Tia's thread: Soha all the way... - Page 9

Originally posted by: tia.o

I'd like to say something totally unrelated to today's episode. But I feel I should point out the hypocrisy of expectations from a man and a woman.

Since tomorrow (today in India) is International Women's Day, I feel this is somewhat appropriate.

I have read posts and comments where people felt Dev was shortchanged by putting what Sonakshi have vs. what Dev have and since Sonakshi has more than Dev, so of course the scale should be balanced by loading Dev's side with sympathy!!!

Now that seems a balanced, equal concept on paper. But is it really?

But let's break it down.

What does Dev have?

Why he has his family. You know the one for whom he always shoved Sonakshi's need on the back burner and still doing so. He has his mother who was his Goddess whom he still conveniently absolves of all blame and pass on her share of blame on Sonakshi.

In that sense, Dev have the family he chose and Sonakshi has the family she chose. So every thing is balanced, yes?

But Dev's family is not loving and supportive like Sonakshi's family.

So? What can be done about it? He had an option to be part of that family which he lost because he always prioritized his family over everyone including his wife. Now whining about having a shitty family when he realized that his Goddess betrayed him is the same as someone throwing a diamond away for glass and then whining to the jewelers to pay the same price as the diamond for that piece of glass because now he has less.

That's not how real world works.

Well, Sonakshi has Soha.

Dev had Sonakshi's beloved cousin and her child whom his family forbade to keep contact with her family who loved her like their own daughter and he didn't once said to Elena not to break her relationship with her family or tell his family not to force Elena to pick sides on his expense. So no fair treatment there. He was perfectly happy to have Elena and her son exclusively pick his side just like he was happy to accept his mother's exclusive attention knowing his mother deprived his sisters at his expense. Yet Sonakshi is expected to treat Dev with fairness.

Why? Who did he treat fairly to deserve fair treatment himself? Even today I didn't see him introducing Golu to his Masi while he happily introduced Soha to her Masi? He knew how close Elena and Sonakshi were. Then why wasn't he held responsible for hogging Golu's fawning all to himself?

But Dev gave Elena a choice when Sonakshi came back to town. It's not his fault that she did not take it.

Sonakshi also gave Soha a choice which she didn't take at that time. But the moment Soha expressed her wish to see Dev, the way she wanted to meet Dev - Sonakshi honoured everyone of her wish. How are we still blaming Sonakshi?

Soha is pining for her dad. A good family will understand her pain.

Elena has mentioned many times that she is pining for her family and want to meet them, yet no one is thinking about her (not even Dev who apparently had taken over Elena's brother's position).

But Bose family was expected to understand Soha's unspoken plea to meet her father and make it happen. Even Saurabh was held responsible for it.

Soha was held "not normal" like Golu because she was not fawning over Dev. Had Golu turned against Dev, he will be Devil's spawn in an instant.

Soha was blamed for being more loyal to Sonakshi. Well of course she will be. Even if Sonakshi tries, can she make Golu more loyal to her than Dev? She has twice the relationship with Golu than Dev. She is his Masi and ex-chachi. She can't. Why? Because Golu's every memory is entwined with Dev, just like Soha's every memory is entwined with Sonakshi.

So no, Bose family didn't need to brainwash Soha for her deciding to make Dev earn his position as a father.

Now Sonakshi even have a handsome friend. Not fair.

Friends are not luck of the draw. Dev had numerous girlfriends. No one had stopped him from making friends even with any of them or even marry any of them.

Dev was heartbroken and single, so he was just trying to forget Sonakshi. He actually still loves Sonakshi.

Great. But how is that anyone else's problem? If he can't get over Sonakshi and by dating random woman in random hotel rooms help him forget Sonakshi, great.

The same way if having a great family and great friend or even a life partner, makes Sonakshi move on in her life, why is it such a crime?

Sonakshi is sorted only because she had Soha.

In the first break up, she didn't have Soha. She was still sorted because her family was beside her even though she still loved Dev and wanted to go back to him..

This time, she hated Dev and never wanted to see his face, why wouldn't she get over her pain with her family's support?

Soha was a miracle which enriched her life. But Sonakshi never needed a crutch to find the meaning of her own life.

Dev is showing his pain through his eyes and his harassment. Sonakshi is cold without any feelings.

So? Is there any written document which says everyone has to express their feelings the same way? In that case, Sonakshi is respecting Dev by minding her own business, where is the same respect from Dev's side?

Ironically, the accusations that were thrown at Sonakshi for not being able to be a mother, for being a gold digger, a home wrecker who pretended to care for her husband's family, was granted by God after she left the people who accused her.

It seems God believes in poetic justice to grant her every single thing she was mocked, insulted, humiliated for after she walked out from a toxic environment - Money, success, friend, family's loyal support every step of the way and a miracle child.

Yet, God didn't grant Dev true love a second time which he was told that he doesn't deserve because he mocked true love.

May be to be worthy of blessings, you have to deserve it and work for it. Nothing comes free, not even blessings and good luck. Karma pays for them as reward/punishment for our actions.